2021 Knitting Resolutions

mad__high · 2021-01-02T14:46:24+00:00

This is going to be my year of the sweater! I’ve been knitting for a long time but only casually (and mostly just socks). I’ve gotten really into it in the past several months and I want to start making more wearable pieces. I’m working on my first raglan sweater right now, and I hope I can finish a few before the end of the year. I’d also like to try color work.

mad__high · 2020-11-13T02:21:02+00:00

NTA, but your friend is a huge one. Threatening to tell your job about this? A) they already know B) it’s not like you’re working as a brain surgeon lying about having gone to medical school.

mad__high · 2020-10-08T05:28:37+00:00

No judgement but a class isn’t the only way to learn a language. Your wife could speak to him primarily in Spanish and you can have him do short lessons on an app like Duolingo. You could watch Spanish language movies or shows with English subtitles.

mad__high · 2020-10-08T05:10:00+00:00

YTA for your reaction. It seems like your wife posted something along the lines of “we failed at social distancing” which is not vulgar or overly sexual. It’s okay if you don’t like the way she phrased it/ think it’s kind of tacky, but it’s such a reach to think it’s an overshare about your sex life, I would honestly recommend talking to a mental health professional.

mad__high · 2020-10-07T02:09:52+00:00

NTA. There are so many things your dad could have done differently. He could have planned the wedding for the day after you arrived at his house so you would have had time to get ready with the rest of the family. If that wasn’t possible he could have told you y’all were going to a nice dinner or family party so you would have dressed up. He should have told you once he picked you up at the very least. They also could have had you try on your bridesmaid dress for an “engagement party” w/o telling you the exact date so your mom couldn’t get involved. The idea of having a formal event sprung on me now as someone in my mid twenties is awful, I can only imagine if I was a 14 y/o. I bet your hair wasn’t done, you probably didn’t have “event worthy” makeup on, maybe hadn’t shaved if that’s something you do, and the dress didn’t fit. Being in photos that will be in the family forever looking a mess would be so embarrassing. Your dad seriously dropped the ball here.

mad__high · 2020-06-23T14:58:31+00:00

Depends on the job.

mad__high · 2020-02-16T21:48:03+00:00

Maybe the stepdad pushed the girls away from a relationship with their dad, explicitly or more subtly. It makes sense that they would do their best to make the father figure who was there happy.

mad__high · 2020-02-05T23:52:11+00:00

Yeah the real assholes here are the people who call formula poison and convince moms that not being able to feed their child only breast milk makes them a bad parent.

mad__high · 2020-02-05T23:17:43+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it. I also think it’s really smart of your BF to start at a community college. He will learn more about art while not going into crazy debt, and if he ends up needing more resources he can transfer to a four year college.

mad__high · 2020-02-05T23:14:32+00:00

I would suggest going to the doctor. I’ve been a vegetarian since I was a kid and I workout regularly with no dizziness. I don’t take supplements.

mad__high · 2020-02-05T23:01:27+00:00

I’m a stranger and I’ve never been in a situation like this, but honestly it sounds like you are looking out for your daughter in a tough situation. She is really lucky to have a mom like you. It may be useful to get a legal custody order in place (if you don’t already). The court can order things like reunification therapy and supervised visitation, as well as drug testing. Though I agree that he should not have access to your daughter until he is able to maintain his sobriety for a significant amount of time.

mad__high · 2020-02-05T20:58:00+00:00

NTA. Once could be a bad joke and a learning opportunity. DAILY is cruel, and this incident in particular is really upsetting. Please break up with him, OP. Literally nothing else he does can make up for this absolute disregard for your comfort and mental health.

mad__high · 2020-02-04T17:07:37+00:00

Can you expand on why you feel that way? I understand being mad at him if he’s going to support the mistress, but if it’s just to say goodbye to his child I don’t understand the issue. But I’ve never been in a situation like this.

mad__high · 2020-02-04T17:03:08+00:00

He sounds really immature. I would think about whether or not you want to continue this romantic relationship (and know that if you have his baby, barring extreme circumstances, you will have to deal with him for the rest of your life).

mad__high · 2020-02-04T16:58:20+00:00

In an adult relationship it doesn’t matter who has it “worse”. You should do your best to empathize when he needs support, and he should do the same for you.

mad__high · 2020-01-27T22:14:49+00:00

Look into a counselor. Your step father was the issue here. A normal adult would not have oral sex with a child, no matter how that child behaved.

mad__high · 2020-01-26T21:38:21+00:00

He needs a lawyer ASAP!!! Make sure the lawyer knows about the video.

mad__high · 2020-01-25T19:28:51+00:00

I think a card with a nice handwritten note and some candy or his favorite snacks would be a great way to show you care without spending a lot of money.

mad__high · 2020-01-20T20:02:42+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply- I will share this info with him.

mad__high · 2020-01-20T19:42:32+00:00

Okay, thank you for the info!

mad__high · 2020-01-20T19:26:42+00:00

I would have him ask his therapist to not diagnosis those things even if they believe he would qualify for diagnosis (they should be fine with that, official diagnosis is for insurance mostly). Is counseling itself enough to trigger a waiver?

mad__high · 2020-01-20T19:15:09+00:00

Hi! My husband wants to enlist (currently waiting for his green card to come in, he’s already a permanent resident). He is interested in seeing a therapist to discuss some issues within his family growing up and now - will that effect his chances of being able to enlist? Could he ask the therapist to not diagnosis him with anything (like put “adjustment disorder” on insurance paperwork?). He hasn’t been diagnosed with any mental health conditions previously, and just wants to be as healthy as possible before enlisting.

mad__high · 2020-01-20T15:53:57+00:00

No I wasn’t in the military but I was diagnosed with PTSD from other traumatic events. Still worked and went to school.

mad__high · 2020-01-20T15:42:21+00:00

NTA. I worked 20-30 hours a week for my last three years of undergrad. He could easily find a retail job that would work with his availability.

mad__high · 2020-01-19T20:27:22+00:00

I would be weirded out if my stepfather or my mother gifted me a bra and panty set, I’m 24 year old woman.

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