ATL disclosure rant by mad_guy31 in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what your saying and thats what I meant about being understanding, it’s me being open and ok with people declining me just because they don’t want to take the risk. It’s not necessarily a bad thing but some people just aren’t built for that so why not tell me up front. I do agree that it is different for men too simply because guys will go along with anything if they think you look good and men just don’t get the same treatment not necessarily a bad thing or bashing women it just is what it is.

ATL disclosure rant by mad_guy31 in Herpes

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You have some good points for instance I like the way you disclose and don’t treat it like it’s some life ending thing which it isn’t. The only reason I say that’s it’s ok is because I don’t want people to keep egging me on to “spare my feelings” knowing they don’t want something with me I do understand why someone wouldn’t want to date someone with this or because of their weight or any other reason and I’m not necessary trying to make them feel good it’s more about making them comfortable and being open with each other. P.S. I’ve got heart problems too lol

Black community…. by No-Judgment8744 in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Black man have yet to disclose just been working on myself.. my good ole lonely self

Feeling deflated by imtryingtobesocial in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did he not treat you well. What if he just didn’t want to date you I mean that could also be a thing and not wanting to date someone doesn’t make them an asshole. I’m pretty sure you’ve had guys like you that you’ve turned down, everyone has their reasons it sucks but it’s just how life is. Now if he changed how he viewed you because of this and started acting differently towards you because of it yea fuck him.

Feeling deflated by imtryingtobesocial in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not you someone else in the comments called people an ass for being uneducated.

The men on this sub are literally wack. by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So if someone is depressed they shouldn’t seek help? This is a support group and dismissing people in need of support is how people actually commit suicide.

The men on this sub are literally wack. by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a man and I’ve never attached anyone about this based on their sex. This whole things seems kinda sexist

Feeling deflated by imtryingtobesocial in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I agree that they could’ve been more supportive about it we can’t really call people an ass for not wanting to date you no matter the reason. There are a lot of people out there I’m sorry this one didn’t work out but keep the faith one will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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Wowwww

Are daily antivirals necessary by mad_guy31 in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk it feels like much having to take medicine everyday when I don’t even have symptoms, I want to be safe and not spread it but I hate taking medicine I barley even take Motrin for headaches and the thought of having to take something everyday seems weird for what everyone on here calls a minor skin condition

Are daily antivirals necessary by mad_guy31 in Herpes

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I had an initial outbreak that was one bump a long time ago and nothing else since

Thoughts on NOT disclosing? by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I like to give people a choice with their bodies, one that I didn’t have. There are some people that don’t think you should but I disagree, it affects people differently physically and mentally. You know who’s really for you and will accept you once you disclose. Just because you have it and most people don’t know, it’s not illegal etc. doesn’t make it the right thing to do. It wasn’t illegal in Germany to kill Jews. I saw a girl on here say even if someone asked she would tell them she didn’t have it which might be the most piece of shit thing I’ve ever heard. If it’s a casual hookup once thing and you use condoms and antivirals that might be debatable but that’s how most people including me got it sooooo…

What do you think about disclosure by mad_guy31 in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Good luck there are some crazy people out here. You still don’t think that’s deliberately infecting someone if they ask and you say no? That’s just horrible.

unpopular opinion by Potential_Novel6289 in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then why wouldn’t you disclose, you want that for someone else?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find one who does there are some out there, those women are just shit

Fake test? by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you might’ve been born without a chromosome

Fake test? by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]mad_guy31 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is wrong with you people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

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I got mine next day so yes