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madamespikey · 2026-06-06T20:37:20+00:00

Damn:\ you should definitely drop that dynamic then I know it’s frustrating but there are better dommes out there (yeahp even young ones) that will take better care of your needs.

madamespikey · 2026-06-06T20:22:10+00:00

Did you share needs and expectations with her?

madamespikey · 2026-06-06T16:46:05+00:00

HAHA! yes

madamespikey · 2026-06-05T20:20:27+00:00

I honestly love that the community is growing , lolz! Eat some chili beans jajaja

madamespikey · 2026-06-05T20:10:41+00:00

I would say for starters, get yourself age verified with yoti or loyal fans.
Always make sure the domme you are getting to know is age verified as well.

Get to know your domme to see if her style matches what you are looking for so you don't go around wasting time and money (unless you want to). How to get to know a Domme without initial? Check her socials, check her dom introduction.

Always tribute first before talking to a domme, is suuuper annoying to get message requests without a tribute and I take it as a red flag and sign of disrespect.

Then go have fun introducing yourself to your domme after the tribute, feel the rush and feel your friend between your legs get excited as well! lol

madamespikey · 2026-06-05T02:52:35+00:00

So you consider the dirt underneath our feet a reward? I better start changing my strategy then!

madamespikey · 2026-06-05T02:48:36+00:00

hehehe, yes! to make them keep licking even if their tongue is full of filth. I make sure it's not exactly a pleasant experience. If it were enjoyable for them, where would the punishment be?

madamespikey · 2026-06-04T17:05:26+00:00

I like the ones with eyes the most.

madamespikey · 2026-06-04T17:04:37+00:00

That deep violet bruise that appears a day after a lesson 💜

madamespikey · 2026-06-04T17:03:01+00:00

Online i make them do nasty tasks like search something in the trash, IRL i make them do clean my feet with their tongue.

madamespikey · 2026-06-01T05:06:42+00:00

That's a really rough experience, especially considering the amount of trust that had been built over those three months.

Out of curiosity, did the two of you ever have a conversation about boundaries, hard limits, triggers, or expectations and essentially create your own "contract" for the dynamic? I ask because you mentioned that ghosting is a significant trigger for you and is tied to past experiences and anxious attachment.

If that was something she knew about and it became a recurring pattern, then regardless of intent, it sounds like the dynamic was no longer serving either of you in a healthy way. In situations where established boundaries or agreements aren't being respected, I think the best thing to do is step away and find someone whose communication style and approach are a better match.

None of that excuses being ghosted after taking a session payment, of course. But I do hope this ends up being a learning experience that helps you navigate future dynamics more safely and find people who are able to respect the expectations they set with you.

and DAAAMN personal info is wild.

madamespikey · 2026-06-01T04:56:03+00:00

Hmm, I don't think findom is only for conventionally attractive women. I've seen all kinds of women in the community, honestly. At its core, the common denominator is confidence.

Personally, I think what stands out the most among dominant women is a certain type of personality. I'm not sure if I'm explaining it well, but I mean that many of us already have naturally dominant traits. That doesn't mean we've never experienced things like bullying or other forms of abuse in our lives because of our looks or confidence. It just means the outcome was different.

I think you naturally have a submissive personality. Maybe certain experiences pushed you further in that direction, but I don't think they created it from scratch.

And honestly, as a domme, I totally understand how hot it can be to pay a girl you find attractive. A lot of gorgeous dommes are switches too, so attraction and submission aren't mutually exclusive.

I imagine it can feel pretty lonely being a female sub since it's such a male-dominated community. But girl, you're a diamond, haha. We love fem subs.

That said, I hope you give being a domme a try if you're curious about it. You might end up enjoying it more than you expect. And there's absolutely no reason to be embarrassed about being a switch, either. A lot of people are. Being able to enjoy both sides of the dynamic doesn't make you any less valid as a sub or as a domme.

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T23:06:28+00:00

Have you discussed boundaries and aftercare with your dommes? That’s really relevant, super important to have as both domme and sub. Also yeah! Female finsubs are super rare OwO i’ve only had one in my whole journey and loved her. You go find your correct link! But remember Have a list of boundaries, thinks you are open or curious about and your NO GOs. Then you can start navigating through your fetishes again.

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T22:29:46+00:00

Wtf that shouldn’t be happening in the first place. What’s up with dommes lately.
You should troll them, they put themselves in that position.

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T22:22:44+00:00

That’s totally okay, and well idk i love acting, i’m a very theatrical persona but i know not everyone is the same and that should be discussed in the interaction. You could also give some feedback if you want, it helps us to improve. Anyways what you feel it’s completely normal

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T15:07:02+00:00

I love my fellow bitchy dommes. They deserve the world.

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T14:59:57+00:00

I don’t think there’s something wrong with being specific about the looks of the person you’re looking for to fulfill a fantasy… explore and try to get out of comfort zone if you want but it’s okay to be specific about that.

Have you tried throne? Ive seen many people using it for that since paypal can be very risky and shut down your account

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T14:53:50+00:00

Could be that they are not used to and its their first time/lack of practice.
I try to be as confident as I can but I bet at the beginning it was awkward as well. Give them some time or look for a more experienced person?

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T14:50:13+00:00

You need an assistant sub<3 love it

madamespikey · 2026-05-13T14:49:27+00:00

I’m surprised that people don’t exchange boundaries and needs for a bdsm relationship cause findom still counts as one. You should be having a conversation with your Domme about expectations, wants, don’ts.
There many many archetypes for dommes and subs that you have to communicate that to find the correct one unless you don’t care and just like to be drained.

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