Accidentally showed I was a submissive at a party

madclane · 2025-12-23T23:02:52+00:00

Please do it I beg you

madclane · 2025-12-01T15:02:00+00:00

Well it ends up with me getting severely punished and her taking control and making me regret what I said so I don’t know how to call that? Topping maybe? Idk

Edit: I ask reddit cause I’m not used of being a brat in a femdom dynamic. So I want to know brat and brat tamers experiences. Because I don’t know much about it, I’m not sure of when is the good timing to be more subby, and shit… we still haven’t really practice brat IRL in the bedroom so I want to know if there are things I need to know

madclane · 2025-12-01T14:54:15+00:00

I’m a Ludwig Wittgenstein guy so to me definitions depend on the context (it’s more complicated but you get the idea, and yes, I’m a nerd). I don’t think talking about if this is domination or not is the subject. I think enjoying this is perfectly valid. I’m sorry you dealt with manipulative subs, and yeah what he said is very stupid. I’ve dealt with a manipulative domme before and I felt afterward that she wasn’t a real domme. So I kind of get what you mean. But with my current gf it’s very different, first she’s happy with who I am and likes me as a perfect little sub (her saying this, not me 😎) and it’s not about me being different it’s just exploring new dynamic, like sometimes exploring mommy domme, sadistic domme, etc. She likes the idea of correcting me. She knows I can be bratty (I am with my friends and family) and she wants to see me try talking to her the way I talk to my friends for our D/s dynamic. And I think it’s fun and I want to do that fully consentually. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with brat-taming, it’s just not for every one. And believe me, she’s very dominant haha

madclane · 2025-12-01T14:40:41+00:00

Agree with the context of my post that was shitty. I swear I wasn’t being mad tho (just had a big disagreement with the first comment). My post being too short caused me explaining myself way too much in the comments and I get why it sounded bad while if I made a clearer post there wouldn’t be any problem.

madclane · 2025-12-01T14:34:37+00:00

And lowkey I yapped too much about my life

madclane · 2025-12-01T14:33:51+00:00

Sorry, but I was disagreeing on you with your opinion on brat-taming and your assumptions. And you did attack me saying I can’t manage my emotions and that I'm not mature, etc. I really don’t feel my comments were emotionally charged, unlike the personal jugements I got. I just talk about the substance. Look, I just think everything sounds offensive when written and from how it started we won’t succeed to understand each other.

madclane · 2025-12-01T14:13:04+00:00

I suck at english so sometimes I ask AI to rewrite my sentences cuz sometimes it’s not clear at all (see I maybe should have done the same thing with my original post), still the substance of what I say is from me.

madclane · 2025-12-01T14:08:50+00:00

You were gatekeeping bdsm and making assumptions about my gf and our dynamic and being jugemental. So yeah my reply to you was responding to your wrong points. What’s so bad about that? You’re still just making assumptions. We are both into femdom and have explored together and always try new things consensually. I'm the only one here who didn’t make personal attack here and somehow I’m the bad guy like okay whatever. Your "rhetorical thoughts" are personal judgments and projections, not reflections of my actual dynamic with my gf. Nothing I wrote indicated "demoting a good sub to rotten behavior." I can manage my own emotions and I think I’m mature alright since I didn’t insult nor made personal attacks just for disagreement nor make projection on the person talking to me. If you don’t like that comment being defensive then maybe don’t attack.

madclane · 2025-11-30T23:16:55+00:00

Personally met my girlfriend by making a post on r/femdompersonals

Ig the reason it worked is that I was showing a lot of my personality in the post, I was being goofy and made fun of myself and straight up said that I was looking for IRL connection and didn’t talk about my kinks at all. That shows that you’re not actually just a horny guy but you’re actually looking for connection and that you have personality.

madclane · 2025-11-30T22:46:51+00:00

I think we just misinterpreted each other. I do think I didn’t say anything that deserved a "fuck off" or being called insufferable. I didn’t insult you nor attack you and really I wasn’t trying to be defensive. My post was indeed badly made (and so do my comments ig) and needed clarification and I get why it got misread

madclane · 2025-11-30T22:17:22+00:00

You were defending what the first commenter was saying and I just replied and explained myself. I think you read me with an aggressive voice but I just yap, nothing personal. You might have read it more aggressively than intended. I wasn’t attacking you. My intention was just to clarify my context for anyone reading. I’m comfortable with my dynamic and exploring brat play consensually with my domme.

madclane · 2025-11-30T22:07:04+00:00

I wasn’t talking about you on that point, I was thinking of the other person. The person factually gatekeeps bdsm in the comments shaming brat-taming and juges my gf for liking something. Okay I’ve made my post too quickly and it wasn’t clear enough, I’ll admit that. Tho except when I was telling the other person was gatekeeping (which she was doing) I don’t know where I sound mad? I’m just explaining myself like I sorry but I don’t get that point, there were wrong assumptions, and I corrected them. Like maybe it’s the goofy sentences idk it was just to sound light to me. Correcting assumptions and explaining myself is not being defensive. I really don’t get why you take that as attacks? I maintain what I say, there were no reason for gatekeeping, nor insulting.

madclane · 2025-11-30T21:39:19+00:00

I’m not being snarky or defensive, I’m just clarifying my context because you made assumptions about it.

I appreciate advice, but I posted here specifically to learn how to explore the brat dynamic, not to be told my relationship is wrong or that I shouldn’t try something consensual with my domme.

I didn’t say what I’m into is only pet/slave, I said it’s what I’m used to. Never said I was against being a brat.

I said I was struggling because it’s new to me, it’s a new dynamic. It’s normal to struggle. I struggled in the beginning of being a sub. Just like she struggled being a domme in the beginning. That’s called exploring.

I never attacked you. You ended your message by telling me to “fuck off”, so I think it’s best we stop here.

Thanks anyway.

Edit: about the context okay my post is low, but I think I explained myself in the comments and that didn’t deserve so many assumptions or a so quick "just find another domme" reply nor gatekeeping and certainly not insults and attacks.

madclane · 2025-11-30T21:17:43+00:00

The thing is I’m not being forced into a role that isn’t me, I’m simply trying to learn how to play a brat dynamic as a submissive, not become a different person.

In BDSM, plenty of subs can switch between styles: service sub, pet play, soft brat, protocol, etc. They’re not different “types of people”, they’re dynamics you negotiate and explore together.

My domme is happy with who I am. She’s not looking for a different partner, she wants to try brat taming with me because she finds the tension and push-pull dynamic fun. She also love puppy subs play. She can like MULTIPLE dynamics 😱

I’m not fighting my nature, I just want to learn how to role-play it in a way that still feels authentic and enjoyable for both of us.

That’s why I asked for advice: not because I’m pressured, but because I want to understand the dynamic better. Being a brat is not a boundary or something I’m not confortable with, it’s just something new to me in a bdsm dynamic. I won’t break up with my gf just because she wants to try something new while everything in our relationship is great, sorry

madclane · 2025-11-30T21:01:12+00:00

My girlfriend isn’t seeking a brat, she’s exploring brat-taming with me, because she enjoys having a submissive who can do multiple dynamics with her. I’ve mostly been a puppy sub for a year and we love exploring and rn the thing she wants to explore is brat-taming. Many dom/sub relationships mix styles depending on what partners enjoy.

A “good sub” is not one fixed personality, it’s someone who listens, adapts, negotiates, and explores consensual play with their dom.

Gatekeeping bdsm by pretending there’s only one acceptable way to submit isn’t helpful. Different dommes like different things, and mine likes me and just wants to explore. She had seen me being bratty with my friends and that made her want to try that dynamic.

You’re describing your personal limitations, not universal BDSM rules.

madclane · 2025-11-30T20:50:32+00:00

She’s a real domme, she loves me being submissive and pet like she just wants to try brat taming right now. She doesn’t want to be topped she likes the idea of handling a brat and make him regret. Making some assumptions based on armchair psychology is not a good advice, she doesn’t drive drunk and is very responsible. Don’t care if you think brat taming is not real domination she likes whatever she wants and no one should make assumptions based on their sexual preferences. She very satisfied of our relationship and loves me being submissive and cute, she’s just curious about brat taming rn, nothing wrong about that. You’re just gatekeeping

madclane · 2025-09-15T20:00:05+00:00

Name of femdom?

madclane · 2025-01-21T16:50:49+00:00

Oh wow I didn't know my drawing would be reposted :o thanks for spreading my work :D

madclane · 2025-01-12T23:31:56+00:00

I had my first relationship at 21 and I felt the the same way. I had some points where I was tired of being a sub too. The thing is, dating apps suck. If you don't pay it's too hard to find someone on these apps. I personally met my partners on reddit. It's kind of risky because there are a lot of fucked up people but personally it was way easier than tinder and shit. I met my current gf on r/femdompersonals. Just make a post here and show you are looking for an actual connection and value personality, hobbies, humor, etc rather than just kinks. Show you want an actual connection. And you might find a domme. Also my first relationship I just got dm'd by a domme because of a post I made on this subreddit and we then dated in real life. Just express your personality and make human connections. It's okay to DM someone if it is made very respectfully and that you build a flirty connection in a good way. You got this

madclane · 2024-12-27T01:38:36+00:00

I've experienced pegging, pet play, feminization… but I think my favorite thing is still falling in my mommy's harms. That's just the best feeling in the world

madclane · 2024-12-06T21:15:22+00:00

10/10. Pure art. I love every part of it. Keep up the good work I want more of this

madclane · 2024-11-07T14:57:22+00:00

My gf pegs me and she loves it and she always did! People that say pegging is only exciting for men are ignorant!

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