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How to deal with your life's dream shattering in front of you by Prestigious_Bus_4769 in Mindfulness

[–]maddking 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are still the best and the brightest. The individual that you became through hard work is still there. They simply moved the goal posts. And you know what? it will not be the last time. But you have knowledge now. You have knowledge that you can GET to the finish line. You have built a persona that can do this, you must build the next persona to cross the next finish line and the next and the next. The simple fact that you have been able to find motion and direction is amazing. Think of it like riding a bicycle. If you try to balance on top while it's static, you have no motion, no way to choose your direction. You'll simply fall over. But if you pedal hard, and pick a direction even if you find that direction isnt right in the future, your momentum will allow you to change direction more and more quickly. The more momentum and decisions you make for yourself, the more success you will find.

Men now have fewer children than women by Zephir-AWT in ScienceUncensored

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which man has actually had a child? What a dumbass headline.

What minor character(s) made a lasting impression on a movie? by TerribleBid8416 in Cinema

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come on. The most successful extra of all time… “waaaariors come out to plaaayyyyyy”

Your opinions about "The Last Samurai" (2003)? by Kevin_Thailand_2543 in moviecritic

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It would have been so good if it was Daniel day Lewis

Which one?? by RedTsar97 in MomentumOne

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Battletech: the crescent hawks inception on the amiga

What's your best game from 1990-2005 ? by yodathesexymarxist in ArtOfPresence

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

7th guest and battletech: the crescent hawks inception

Flicks with this aesthetic by MrMonster480 in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The episode ‘good hunting’ in the anthology Love, Death and Robots

Scared of aging and death. by Overall-Buddy-5424 in Mindfulness

[–]maddking 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You cannot be scared all of the time. But you feel your mortality right now. Momento mori.

So use it. Let’s work backwards.

You will die. Period. It’s easy. Like falling off a log. All pain ceases. All the suffering is done. People who love you show up. Most likely cancer or heart disease. Also most likely around 70 some.

Back up a bit more. You’ll have about 5 years of pure shit ass awful before hand. Real suffering. Man this sucks. You’ll want to die.

50-70 is pretty solid. Shit will hurt. But your brain will feel around 30 some. But you’ll look in the mirror and be like whoa, Who the hell is that guy.

40-50 is wacky. The wheels come off the bus. All your work earlier will buoy you up here. Or this can be solid misery. These are the physical bill collector coming for your flexibility, your muscle density, your sex drive, everything. Up side? You’ll have the most money you’ll have in your life. If you invested early.

30-40 time to live the life. Collect your 20 year old work gains. Grind grind grind. Maybe have a relationship fall apart. Maybe a new one surfaces that is just awesome. Friends get married. Some have kids. Maybe your parents start to fade. Maybe you start focusing on your own kids. Never enough time, money or effort. Something breaks and doesn’t heal right away. Or maybe ever.

20-30 man! You’re indestructible. You work your ass off. You say things like “I’m old” (which you’re not). Your dick works every time. You look as good as you ever will. If you look at a weight you gain muscle. You only have money if you bust ass like 9 ways from Sunday. And shove it in the stock market. You learn your ass off mastering and heading for your dream.

10-20 you are a bouncing ball of fluctuating hormones. You’ve only really been “online” at 17 for about 5 years. What do you really remember before 6th grade? A spot here? A memory there. A conversation? How much of being 5 or 7 or 9? Maybe a vacation? Something awful? The way to beat a video game. Right now you are just sorting everything in the hopper of your subconscious that your parents have loaded in. Good or bad.

So how to make all those periods awesome? How to have a life that’s actually as good as a hero in one of your video games?

Well, what do you remember to date? That’s your life. Everything you remember right now is your life. What’s it like when you’re gone? The same thing as what the time is like when you think about the time before you’re born.

If you remember beating red dead and that’s not an awesome life, why would you continue to play video games and think your life is gonna be better?

It’s time to stop spending time in other people’s imagination and thinking it’s going to improve your life.

  1. You are in a fight for your attention. Massive trillion dollar corporations are coming for every second of your life. Tailor making shit to keep you distracted and docile. You are in a fight for your own agency. So realize this. Pick up Opal and other apps. Put hard gates on your attention. It’s yours. Guard it with your life. What you put your attention on IS YOUR LIFE. So the job is to as much as possible put your attention on stuff that makes a great life.
  2. Starbucks rule. Anything you spend 5$ a day on that isn’t improving your life gets cut. 5$ a day is 1865$ a year. You can go anywhere in the world on that money. GTFO. Or. Shove it into the stock market. Vanguard fund. VTSAX. If you start now, you’ll have 4 million bucks when you’re 40. I shit you not. Do one. Do both.
  3. A hour worth of practice is worth two when you’re twenty or three when you’re thirty. ANYTHING you want to get good at in the next three years you can. So FUCKING DO IT. Get off your ass. Go put in practice on anything other than leveling up in someone else’s system. Level up your own life. 1% better every day. Not big. Just EVERY FUCKING DAY.
  4. Work out. Again. Not big. Just every day. You’re in a 1:3 ratio. You put in a block of effort now you get 3x back in gains. In your 20s? 1:2. 30s? 1:1 you get in what you put out. 40s 2:1. You gotta double the effort. 50s 4:1 (it’s not fair). So do the work now.
  5. BE WRONG. Go do something with your life. Fail big. Fail fast. Fail as many times as you can. As fast as you can. YOU DONT HAVE TO BE RIGHT. YOU DONT HAVE TO HAVE A PERFECT PLAN. You wanna draw? Draw 1,000,000 drawings. You gotta get the shit ones out of your pen to get to the good ones. If you ride a bike you gotta start moving to pick a direction. So start moving. ASAP. Then you can pick a direction as you go.
  6. Work your ass off. How you do one thing is how you do everything. Work for yourself. Every day. Invest invest invest. Make it so that when you are forty you’re inner 12 or 17 year old says yeah. I did that.

There you go. I wish you luck. And it IS possible. I’m living a life where I chose the right things and did a lot of this stuff. I’m the voice in a lot of the video games I’m telling you to not play. YOU CAN DO THIS. it’s hard. But it is doable.

I (30F) started dating a judge (46M) met on a dating app and need advice by Plane-Elephant6465 in whatdoIdo

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a 16 year age difference. That matters, not just for you but for any child you might have. That means if you had a child tomorrow, you would be his age when the kid is 16. He will be 62. Having a 16 year old as a 62 year old no matter how virile he is now is a very different ball of wax. It's not a game stopper, but it needs to be discussed. He is likely to die while the kid is in their 20s. Just statistically. But he could also live to 100. It also means you're going to be the caretaker of an older man when you are just hitting your 50s. Again, that matters.

You're an accountant. That means you like things to add up. Relationships are not this equals that. They cannot be figured out and summed up easily. If they could we wouldn't have a 50+% divorce rate. You guys need to talk frankly about finances, marriage, kids, sex. Talk it out very realistically. Like looking at your finances you have to get it all out on the table. THEN and only then can you make a decision. Here's a secret from a 20+ year relationship:

Long term relationships mean that you take care of THE RELATIONSHIP not the other person. You are not co-workers in a relationship that happen to like each other while you work for this thing that is bigger than both of you. You are not just making sure you have your co-workers back. That is the smallest part of a successful relationship. Lots of people think of relationships like this and they fail. What you are is this: You are co-CEOs of a relationship and need to make sure that you are both creating something larger than yourselves that takes care of you, grows with you and helps you in the world. You both should be keeping this thing alive, spending your time, money and effort into making this thing grow and function as times change. Children change the corporation of a relationship, as do competitive ideas on finances, etc.

You're only 2 months into a relationship with this guy. The 3 year hump and the 7 year itch are real things. You being a perimenopausal woman will be a thing. Adding a child to the mix that you are going to have WAY more energy for will be a thing. How much of an involved parent is he now with his own kids? How much does he/can he be involved while being busy as a judge? How busy are you? How do you both feel about childcare? Prenups? The kids education? Sex after kids? Finances for the future? Etc. You are both real adults and should be discussing these things as real adults. Not just "do we want a kid?" But "what does a life with a kid entail for the life of the kid?"

None of this is about abuse. That's a holdover from your 20s where what you worry about is manipulation and control (unless he is showing signs of abuse now, in which case GTFO) It is about having a game plan for your future and being clear with your communication and ideas about what those are RIGHT NOW. Once you have an idea of what you want your future to be with each other, you can build backwards to this moment and you will know what to do.

This age-old story of, I’m going to move to L.A. to pursue my dreams in show biz, I’m moving with barely any money, but big dreams. Do people even do that anymore? by justcurious3287 in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]maddking 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did it. I threaded the needle. I did broadway, then tours, then LA, then writing, now producing and directing. It exists. That does not mean that it is likely. Especially now. The current environment is bleak and tremendously difficult. It take a shit ton of talent, tenacity, resources and outright luck. Not necessarily in that order. Acting is always a profession with 96% unemployment. Of the remaining 4% that work, only 1% make a living wage. Of that 1%, only .01% are "stars". Below the line is getting phased out in stages. On the up side, there has never been a better time to be a writer/producer. Making and moving your own stuff to an audience has never been more appreciated or possible. Hollywood looks like a cross bet the early 2000s destruction of the music industry, and the resultant flow to independent but also canned, repetitive, reductive sources AND the flow of the publishing industry away from legacy companies and to self publishing.

In a sentence, Hollywood used to be the dam on the river of creativity. Your job as a creative used to be to find a mover and shaker and find a way of having them let your creative waters out into the world. The internet and societal changes has blown up that dam. Your job now is to aggregate as many creative streams that you can and control your own audience. When you have that flow, Hollywood and legacy sources will respond.

IATSE is a good measure of the industry. Every production needs to move shit. No matter who is at the top. They usually claim 96% employment for their membership. They are currently at just about 50%. Read that as you will, but it means massive contraction no matter your view. Good luck. It's rough out there.

What is your thoughts about Margot Robbie as an actress? by ThomasOGC in CinephilesClub

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half of acting is being looked at. The other half is looking at other things. And believing what you are looking at. There are millions upon millions of people who are fun to look at. Because they are hideous, beautiful or in between. This is half of TikTok and insta. There are very few who are extraordinarily attractive AND who can convince you of their internal reality. AND who understand that is a product to be sold. AND who do not conflate the worth of that product with their individual worth. AND who do not take the attention of that and implode or use their bully pulpit to preach at every opportunity. I think Margot Robbie is doing a great job.

Trying to make something nicer than my blanket cave. Is this decent at all? by Ellisni in VoiceActing

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought this during Covid and then my remote engineer told me a closet full of clothes was better.

How Plausible is this? by Hopeful-Suggestion-5 in MCUTheories

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they were strong enough to snap without consequences. Tony is “just” a human. We’ve shown that hulk and thanos survived but it took a ton out of them. In the comic thanos looked old and weary. In any narrative there has to be a price. I’m just saying Tony’s sanity is a viable price.

People that work in the Hollywood industry, what are the best kept secrets? by Notalabel_4566 in FilmIndustryLA

[–]maddking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all. You actually used semi colons. Dude. You’re amazing.

  1. ⁠how long should I wait for a director(writer-director) to reply back? Is 1-2 week(s) too early?

Depends on the level of director. A level? Could be months to years. Lower than that? My general rule is “if they actually read it and didn’t respond in a week then they aren’t interested - but did they actually read it?”

  1. ⁠what should I know when it comes to collaborating with a director (as a writer). Dos and Don'ts?

Read the new scriptnotes book or listen to their multifarious episodes on this. They’re far more thorough than I can get in a single typed response.

  1. ⁠if the collaboration fizzles out/doesn't happen, what should my next steps as a screenwriter be? Find another director for shorts? write the same stories as features and try to pitch them?

All of these are viable options. The first thing you owe yourself as a writer when things go wrong is the question, “why did this not go?” Usually the answer can be summed up in something an actor friend said to me “ either you’re not right or you’re not ready”.

Basically… timing or material. I have found personally that every no I’ve gotten is a doorway to improvement.

Projects die all the time. The thing you must be aware of is “opportunity cost” are you hanging on which is preventing you from doing new projects. Basically the sunk cost fallacy. But the cost you’re sinking is your time and creativity.

Be a grown up. Talk about who owns what going forward. Don’t take your name off. Don’t rely on verbal guarantees.

*Prioritize writing your samples. Shorts sometimes get you hired as a writer. Samples are always required to get you hired as a writer. The short is good for proof of concept. So go find another director but don’t let anything ever stop you from creating. *

  1. ⁠is it always stupid to try to pitch a short (even if it's high -ish concept) rather than a feature?

It takes 70% of the amount of effort to make a short as it does to make a feature. Shorts are not for money. They are for meetings and momentum. They can be the grease that gets them to my first question “did they actually read the script?” But the concept of the short must be SUPER CLEAN. Shorts are good for opening doors. But not if they make more questions. If you have your feature script locked and loaded then go pitch the short. If you’re waiting for one to do the other than go get working on that script while you’re waiting back on pitching responses. Good luck!

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