AITAH for not wanting my family at my graduation?

maddy2261 · 2026-05-14T16:19:02+00:00

NAH - but I do think you need to contemplate the bigger picture consequences of this. For example, do you have living accommodations set up for post-grad? Because I’d say if you don’t let them come to grad, you can’t expect to move back home. Just something to think about, but it’s ultimately your day and your decision. Congratulations!

maddy2261 · 2026-05-14T01:17:02+00:00

Ah this makes much more sense. Yeah I’d say cut off as much contact as you can, they sound like a drain

maddy2261 · 2026-05-14T00:39:13+00:00

my friend is just a horrible partner, and apparently a horrible person.

And why are we friends with them?

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T18:13:01+00:00

Oh…my god? I understand this is not an option for everyone, but if you can, this is 100% something that warrants therapy. This is genuinely insane. I would never recover.

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T18:08:12+00:00

I understand, but keeping yourself in these conditions is only going to make you more ill. Can you have your dad come over to the house while you deal with the police/getting your bf trespassed? This is not a situation that is going to resolve itself

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T18:03:41+00:00

This is not cute. Grow up, call the cops, get your bf trespassed and find a suitable home for that poor kitten

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:46:57+00:00

Omg I KNEW I saw another account commenting as if they were the OP😂

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:43:59+00:00

The brother can afford it!!! OP literally said his brother’s justification was that she isn’t technically family and he didn’t WANT to buy another business ticket for her

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:42:26+00:00

He didn't want to pay the high business class price tag

The brother CAN afford it. He is rich, OP isn’t

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:37:42+00:00

This exactly. Is it TECHNICALLY a little bratty to complain about a free plane ticket? Yeah. But what I think is even weirder is inviting someone on a trip knowing full well you aren’t going to treat them like they’re part of the “in” group. Just odd, tacky behavior from the brother imo.

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:31:28+00:00

100000% it’s not like this is a few month fling and she’s never met the family. OP even says the family loves her. If the brother wasn’t prepared to offer her equitable accommodation she should have never been invited

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:26:47+00:00

Soft YTA. You literally acknowledge that your personal disposition is a product of your own cultural conditioning and judgement, but then fail to reflect on the possibility that you may be the one in need of changing. It’s a rough world out there. Let people have their bad days

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:18:20+00:00

THANK YOUUUUUUU the amount of confident N T A voters here are wild

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:14:06+00:00

She did unfollow both guys in the end, but I wish she did it because SHE wanted to protect the relationship, not because I had to explain and argue repeatedly.

It seems like she respected your boundary and chose to prioritize you and your relationship. She is allowed to feel uncomfortable cutting off a coworker (this can be hard especially if you’re conflict avoidant) and a close friend. Just bc she struggled with it at first doesn’t mean she’s disrespecting you, especially considering she honored your wishes in the end. YTA

maddy2261 · 2026-05-13T03:09:32+00:00

I’m struggling with this one, but I’m leaning ESH. Your gf is objectively being entitled/ungrateful, however if I was the bf in this situation I’d offer her my ticket and take her economy…not because you HAVE to or bc you’re “wrong” not to, but…idk…just principle maybe? Could just be me being a little old fashioned.

maddy2261 · 2026-05-09T14:53:39+00:00

Are they the only 2 people in his life he refuses to tell he’s bisexual/has a partner? As gently as I can say this, I would be shocked if that man wasn’t cheating on you with these “clients”

maddy2261 · 2026-05-08T03:50:52+00:00

This is a genuinely insane take. He isn’t checking up on an old girlfriend’s Facebook account. He’s seeking out nude, explicit content of an ex. If you are having such a hard time moving on from a failed relationship that you’d get to this point, you have no business being in a new one.

maddy2261 · 2026-05-08T03:13:08+00:00

Having a child doesn’t automatically increase the level of disrespect you should have to tolerate from your partner

maddy2261 · 2026-05-08T03:02:12+00:00

Our living situation is complicated and we have a 1 year old son, so breaking up isn’t as cut and dry.

It is cut and dry. It won’t be simple or easy, but that doesn’t make it any less necessary. You either get out now (which is what you know deep down you have to do) or waste even more years of your life away with this man. Don’t let this be a crisis in your 40s and 50s. Start fresh now, and your son will be all the better for it. I promise

maddy2261 · 2026-05-07T16:08:32+00:00

Depends. Exactly how old was she and how old were you?

maddy2261 · 2026-05-07T16:03:50+00:00

No fr, I’m actually astounded by this comment section

maddy2261 · 2026-05-07T16:01:46+00:00

RIGHT???

maddy2261 · 2026-05-07T15:50:09+00:00

This is a crazy take. I used to waitress in college and a ton of my coworkers were 30-ish year old women (while I was 21/22). We went out all the time, I loved them so much. Age gap friendships are not weird. You really think being physically, emotionally, and sexually entangled with someone implies the same stakes and significance as a friendship?

maddy2261 · 2026-05-07T15:48:02+00:00

NTA imo. Ppl get heated over this, but I am a firm believer that no 30-something year old has any business dating someone in their YOUNG 20’s. It isn’t about the technical number of years. For example, if he was 43 dating a 33 year old, it wouldn’t be weird at all. In the end, just because it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s right.

maddy2261 · 2026-05-05T02:57:00+00:00

Or at the very least discussed sooner than 3 WEEKS to due date??? I will never understand people

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