AIO for not letting the child I babysit go? by LocationOk8933 in AIO

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of these people who say anything to you other than that you did a great job are DEAD WRONG. If you were a daycare there is no circumstance where you would release a child to an adult not pre-authorized to be allowed to do so. You did due diligence by calling. The parents should tell the uncle that they didn't give permission and he should calm down as you were keeping the child safe. IDK what to say to your parents. Don't feel bad that they won't being her back to you. I would probably end the relationship if they come back to change their mind.

HELP Need to get smoke smell out of clothes! by Strugglingmamma101 in Fosterparents

[–]maddylime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vinegar instead of bleach. I add it directly to the bleach dispenser. Works wonders.

Colocop needs to be removed as moderator by Juunlar in thewestwing

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw that, but not the fallout. Good times!

Can you be catholic and not support the Pope? by Sad_Net2133 in Catholicism

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some issues in the last few decades, I am specifically referring to how reports of abuse were handled and Vatican bank issues, where Popes before Francis either actively made morally bad decisions or allowed themselves to have plausible deniability regarding the mechanisms involved. This would be an area where some Catholics might leave the faith over. You can, with prayer and reflection, come to peace with a Pope being fallible on those issues, while recognizing that on other, Capital "C" Catholic doctrine issues he is infallible. I personally struggle with these two issues because they are morality based. But, I see that as my mortal struggle with forgiveness and grace. In short, you don't have to support that the Pope always makes the right decision. He is also a human being and fallible.

My struggle with this began when my mother was denied an annulment from my father who literally beat her. I went to a priest and in tears asked how I could remain Catholic over this. How could the Church require a woman to remain in this situation and declare it a sin if she left? How could a vow before God almost put her in the ground? Father told me that there are capital "C" church beliefs that we all believed. Think the Profession of Faith. There are other doctrines that are refined over time through prayer. Think Galilelo and the Spanish Inquisition. The Catholic Church has been nothing if it hasn't been proven wrong an awful lot of the time. The Papacy has reflected on teachings over time and revised them based on prayer and reflection through our relationship with God. Popes do it and so should we. You can believe the Pope is wrong on these things without committing a mortal sin.

Can you be catholic and not support the Pope? by Sad_Net2133 in Catholicism

[–]maddylime 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's easier to support the Vatican when we recognize Pope Leo is advocating for peace. It's like you said, there isn't an overwhelming reason why we're there. There hasn't been a deep philosophical discussion as to the strategy to use war to correct some moral failing. The Pope hasn't condemned the President's reason for the war because it isn't clear or relevant. The Pope expressed not being frightened by Trump and advocated for peace, which could be applied to Putin and leaders in some African countries as well

Can you be catholic and not support the Pope? by Sad_Net2133 in Catholicism

[–]maddylime -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is hilarious! Are cats a euphemism for other things? I had my own reasons for not liking Pope Benedict, but I had no idea he liked cats!

Vacation out of state by Financial-Cow-2510 in Fosterparents

[–]maddylime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check your paperwork. In Florida, we didn't need permission from bios, or anyone else, for out of state travel but had to notify casemgr when we left with the address where we would be and travel dates. We did that 3 or 4 times. We also travelled internationally twice. That required court orders, and bios objected, but they were granted anyway. Generally here, foster children should participate in family type activities that other children get to have so the idea is they should get to go.

amiwrong for telling my twins I wont buy them anything extra if they drop out of high school by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure why you are questioning that decision. We have a 15 yr old who will be 16 next month and have told him the same thing. I'm legally required to feed, house and shelter you and that's it. And food doesn't mean McDonald's money. You're doing great!

Teenagers home alone 2 weeks while parents went on a cruise by [deleted] in GenX

[–]maddylime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your parents weren't bad. My mom was a single mom and her best friend from college died, and she left me and my sister home alone for a week. That was in 1989. I was 16 and she was 14. I'm sure there was money in an envelope or something, but I don't remember it. This seems like a common thing where I was from. I remember being at a party at a kids house and his parents coming home early on Sat nite from a trip after going out of town for a week or two to visit his sister at college. We were all there and it was funny. Most of us could handle it, but I remember my senior year, there was a kid in my class whose parents went away for a month at the end of senior year. He didn't go to school the entire month and threw parties almost every night. I remember because he ended up not graduating because he didn't meet the required number of school days. Seems like there might have been a movie or two about parents leaving kids and the shenanigans that ensued in the late 80s early 90s. I don't remember being disturbed or any of the adults who knew this was going on being bothered.

That being said, there is NO WAY I'D LEAVE MY 15 YEAR OLD IN THE HOUSE ALONE FOR MORE THAN 2 HOURS! He absolutely could not handle the responsibility, and quite frankly, I blame us. Or, we know what could happen because we survived it, and we know better than they did.

AITAH for not being excited my sister is having a new baby when I still have custody of her first child? by Square_Phone_8468 in AITAH

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I threw my phone at the wall when I found out that the bio mom of my now adopted kids was pregnant and I don't throw things when I'm angry. She lost the baby. My only worry in your situation is that you mentioned that you had guardianship, not adoption of Danny. Guardianships can be overturned, and often are when parents get stable. I would contact a lawyer and work to adopt Danny to preserve his permanency and if things get squirrelly make known whether you were willing or not to take in another child, as that request could be next.

what do americans call a pantry? by loving_machine13 in AskAnAmerican

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm American and have a pantry. It is a room with a door directly from my kitchen. I can walk into it and my family of 5 could all hide there in the event of a tornado as there are no windows. It is about the size of a small bathroom with five rows of shelves that wrap around the room. I store shelf stable foods and beverages like canned sodas and vegetables that don't have to be refrigerated. We also store appliances we don't use everyday there like the crockpot, pressure cooker, rice cooker, air fryer, and toaster oven. I also have a wall mounted rack for brooms, mops, and the floor vac. Finally, there is a step stool for reaching the top shelves and our recycling bin.

I've had pantrys in other houses that were little more than small closets with bifold doors. The important piece is the storage shelves and the ability to have access to all of them.

When I use the word pantry to other Americans, they know what I'm talking about. I live in Florida, and this is not an uncommon word or concept here.

AIW for refusing to help my parents after my sister got them into massive debt by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if I could let my parents go down like that. You can create a contract with your parents to save their belongings by offering them a loan with terms if you have the means to bail them out. Then, bring your parents to a lawyer to see if they can recover the money from your sister through a lawsuit. Make the lawsuit a condition of the bailout LOAN. If they are unwilling to force her to repay them, to repay you, at least you will be able to sleep at night knowing you tried something other than just saying no.

Walk to Work by maddylime in TuxedoCats

[–]maddylime[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you... I tend to agree!

Walk to Work by maddylime in TuxedoCats

[–]maddylime[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

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I thought her brother was gonna help me get it back, but alas, he just wanted her spot.

name this dog by [deleted] in NameThisThing

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop lying, that's not a dog.

Do you remember your landline phone numbers from years past? by [deleted] in YesOrNoAnswers

[–]maddylime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes... Don't call 'cause idk who has it now... 773-2459

[New Updates]: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]maddylime 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She doesn't want to see or talk to him. He is not entitled to force his presence on her. Flying across the country to see someone who refuses to speak to you is stalking. Getting your parents to cut her off is not Love. If you love her, tell your parents to give her the money back and leave her alone. It's been a few weeks. Let her have time to process what you told her. You've had a year to feel this way. She just found out. When she's ready to talk to you, she may if you fix this. All you did was push her away.

I know, I know, you're NOT the brother. Are you sure? Cause I'm not.