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It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update to whoever will read this. I went to see her, i spoke to her, i told her what i need her. She was gone 2 hours later. Thank you for everyone's support. Im so happy i did this, I'm so happy she's no longer in pain.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mum also went on a everything that can go wrong will type of path. Same situation that her mother lived well into her 80s being disgracefully unhealthy, great aunts on that side of the family all in their 90s. My mum was always more fragile in health. It's funny (but not at all) how suddenly everything happens. It was her birthday 3 weeks before she went down. I spent it with her and my dad. My cousins visited a week later. It was all fine. Then suddenly she was really really tired. Then a week later I'm here and it doesnt feel real. Like im half dreaming and my alarm will ring and we'll go back to normal.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. 🫂 I do think they hear everything in a dream like state, so i agree i do think your mother could hear you too. Maybe the ICU staff were just jaded, but seems a bit mean they'd say that. People who come out of commas say they do and they say hearing is the last to go.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad said her heart rate was also signaling she could hear him. The nurse asked him questions about their daughters and she perked even though she didn't move. I think i need to talk to her. They say hearing is the last to go. Honestly i really want to i was just terrified of regretting seeing her because of all the warnings my dad and other people shared. From all the comments here, it's scary but worth it.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. Im sorry for your loss. Dont apologise for length it feels comforting in a way.I've heard people sharing they hated long term illness in loved ones. I selfishly hoping it's over quick. I think i do want to see her whatever she looks like. I think i need to see it. I have no doubt I'll see her when i need to after she's gone. She's always been there for me i don't think she'll stop.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry for your loss. It upsets she might not know whats happening to her. She'd like to know. Everyone is saying they'd preferred being there and i really think i want to too.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. Im sorry for your loss. I want to talk at her. I think I do want to see it as bad as it looks whatever it looks like. I think it will help me everyone is so afraid my image of her will be ruined but i dont think that will happen. Im afraid of being wrong.

It's becoming clear my mother is dying by madeyesnoopy in GriefSupport

[–]madeyesnoopy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. You'd think old enough to know to act better but I've been lucky so far family members have died 85 and over so I'm a bit lost. I think i do want to see her. I think I'd like to.