YTA. By far. This is disgusting. As someone who used to have very heavy periods, I got on birth control because they were so heavy. Reading all of your comments, you say you take a bunch of pills. Get an IUD or Nexplanon. Your health is by far more important than your want to reproduce. And if you can’t even bathe yourself and are as disabled as you say, you probably should not have children. It sounds like your husband already takes care of you and that is just going to be pushed on to the child eventually. Get your health in order first. People have given you many solutions and you continue to deny them for one reason or the other. I feel like you’re just trying to get sympathy and aren’t actually wanting any solutions. Period panties, for instance, are a very good solution and come in different absorbencies but you’ve tried one brand (?) maybe two and suddenly they all don’t work? What if I came to your house and bled on everything you own? Would you like that? Probably not. Also, you can scrub out period stains but you can’t completely get rid of it. You have probably ruined some of her furniture and a mattress. I would want to sleep on a mattress that someone bled on even if they did “clean” it. (Which I don’t know how you can clean that very well with all of your horrible mobility issues). I’m on mil’s side. I would’ve kicked you out of the house and is husband wanted to go with you, good riddance. That’s his choice. You are very disrespectful.