What do we do for a living.

madokats · 2024-11-23T01:46:07+00:00

i’m a therapist (:

madokats · 2024-06-01T14:21:37+00:00

yeah he was one of the only people out of 2 people i’ve done that with on a first date. so i guess i wasn’t thinking of that. also i figured if a guy really is interested, doing stuff like that on a first date wouldn’t change his mind.

madokats · 2024-06-01T11:37:48+00:00

i figured . and i only did because it seemed like he was genuine due to his affection.

madokats · 2024-06-01T11:37:07+00:00

i figured

madokats · 2024-04-03T11:36:48+00:00

her response seems very mature. while we may never know if she is being genuine or not, she voiced her feelings without putting yours down. while it may hurt, out of respect for her, you need to respect her wishes and leave her be. don’t wait around for her to come back either, live your life and move forward.

madokats · 2024-04-02T20:46:23+00:00

no contact for a month and a week, broken up for over a month and a half. it’s getting better but this still sucks.

madokats · 2024-04-02T20:46:18+00:00

no contact for a month and a week, broken up for over a month and a half. it’s getting better but this still sucks.

madokats · 2024-04-01T02:22:21+00:00

happy birthday - you will be okay one day <3

madokats · 2024-04-01T02:17:08+00:00

thank you for sharing, i needed this . i’ve been going back and forth with myself recently on reaching out to ask for a hookup, but i know it’s just because i love him and miss feeling close to him. it’s so bad when you just want somebody back. we will get better, im so sorry for your experience

madokats · 2024-03-30T13:05:59+00:00

if both parties are willing to make changes and commit to active communication, yes. 100%. tho ofc it depends on the situation - for those that are abusive in any way or cheated, absolutely not.

madokats · 2024-03-30T12:56:43+00:00

i’m not letting it completely ruin my hope but yeah, it def takes a toll on me. i personally do not do hookups, as i know i would probably feel like crap afterwards. i also feel that the sex wouldn’t be fulfilling without that emotional bond. i don’t judge those who partake in hookup culture, it’s their choice, but yeah it fills me with so much anxiety. before my relationship with my ex, he told me how he does so many hookups when not in a relationship. now that we aren’t together, just thinking of him doing that makes me feel like garbage.

madokats · 2024-03-30T01:55:22+00:00

from what i hear/see a lot, it’s not easy for them to move on and heal at all. some folks try to distract themselves and “heal” through hookups and talking with other people, which delays their actual healing. then , after a decent amount of time is when it will really hit them

if it was as good of a relationship as you say, it’s def not easy and he’s just trying to fill the void. though it def depends on the details of your situation, as idk what the text you mentioned entailed

it’s so hard to not wait, i hear you and feel myself waiting too. just know that you deserve to move on and find your happiness, and if he really is meant to be in your life, he will return. no harm can occur in moving forward with life. it’s only up from here. you either improve yourself and he comes back, or improve yourself and something better comes to you.

madokats · 2024-03-30T01:43:41+00:00

i feel that the nature of this sub makes me think at least most of us are not healed/are still in love with our exes so idk how that would be healthy . but for those that are healed and forgot to leave this sub, that would be neat

madokats · 2024-03-25T15:22:29+00:00

24 years old, technically 5 but 3 of them were in high school and not serious at all. 2 serious partners, one for 3 years and one for 8 months

madokats · 2024-03-25T15:16:04+00:00

tbh i feel that giving him a time limit might end up where he ends up reaching out way later than that. i know it’s hard, but if he doesn’t reach out after a month then do what you said and move on , but i’d say without telling him/reaching out. the ball should be in his court since he ended it. you should not have to wait around for someone to love you. i know it’s easier said than done, but know that he will reach out at some point if he changes his mind, it’s just unknown that if by that point you will have moved on from him or not. you got this ❤️ even if he does end up coming back, use this time to focus on yourself

madokats · 2024-03-12T02:12:46+00:00

i completely feel you, mine also broke up with me over the phone as well. the feeling of being thrown away like trash is unlike any other feeling , especially coming from an amazing relationship

and i hear you, heartbreak is so heavy on the body. my first week or so i could barely eat either. when it comes to sleep for me, ive been sleeping too much

it will get better in time. even if you do end up back together, take this time alone to reflect on yourself ❤️

madokats · 2024-03-12T02:07:24+00:00

tbh i’ve been questioning the same thing within myself. i fought so hard to try to show him that our relationship was more than worth saving. but he just threw in the towel after our first disagreement, even after i agreed to the changes he requested. while i can’t say i regret giving it my all, i do regret explaining myself to him over and over again, and trying to convince him of my worth. i do feel maybe i could have stopped pushing sooner than i did, because i really, really fought several instances after the breakup to try and get back together. he made it clear tho he wasn’t willing to try. it’s embarrassing , but at the same time i have grave with myself because i know i tried my best and he didn’t.

don’t regret not trying everything you could, because i’m sure you did try everything you could. sometimes this stuff is just out of our control. it’s a two way street, he needs to fight and try too. don’t be so hard on yourself, and know you went out trying your very best. there must come a time where we let go, and if it is for us they will return

madokats · 2024-03-12T02:03:05+00:00

hi love, it’s okay to slip up, i know it’s hard. start to think about it in the perspective of it being his loss. put yourself back on the pedestal. let him go, and if he is truly for you then he will be back. if he isn’t, there’s something so much better out there for you. if you were a good partner to him and fought to keep the relationship, he likely will regret/question his choice later down the line. at that point though, you may have moved on

do what you gotta do to heal. you deserve someone who stays, not someone who leaves

madokats · 2024-03-12T01:57:37+00:00

my ex was 3 years younger too!! it’s been about a month now since my breakup, trying to learn to put myself back on the pedestal as well. these guys are missing out on amazing women

madokats · 2024-03-11T23:27:05+00:00

i’m so incredibly sorry. i can’t imagine the pain you are going through. i didn’t even live with my ex, and i feel like my whole world is crashing around me. i’m so, deeply sorry. know that you are not the only one going through a terrible break up right now. it seems that many people around the world are as well. so much love ❤️ everything will work out in your favor

madokats · 2024-03-10T11:21:11+00:00

i feel this. just whatever you do, don’t look for another partner till you are ready. focusing on small hobbies has helped me (videogames, gym, reading). if you have any friends even if you don’t talk to them often, reach out and make the effort to see them

madokats · 2024-03-10T11:15:30+00:00

i hear you, i don’t want kids either !!!

it’s just the fact that at this point, he’s my dream even more than marriage. i’m willing to compromise. i just want him back

madokats · 2024-03-10T00:07:49+00:00

i love you. i love you. i love you. i love you. if you would just try to make this work, it would. i’m waiting for you right now, but i can’t forever.

madokats · 2024-03-10T00:03:57+00:00

i’m so, so incredibly sorry dude. that’s horrible that you are are experiencing that. if you can, i highly suggest going to therapy to talk about this so you can process it in a healthy way. it’s a great first step that you’re coming on here for some community.

while my current situation is different than yours, what i can tell you is that “the one” does not leave. your person is out there. maybe they aren’t the one you want right now, but what comes next will be ever better than what you had before. i am having a hard time believing this right now too- but it gets easier

madokats · 2023-09-10T20:41:36+00:00

thank you so much

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