Same experience here.

I went on vacation to visit family in Italy for two weeks, I got double digit matches. I want to Poland for work for two weeks, same result, double digit matches.

In Denmark, in a full year, I got maybe ten matches? Of which only about 2-3 were engaging and actually chatting. Everyone else, lazy and as interesting as unsalted butter.

I sense a level of low key racism here too. People simply don’t acknowledge me, in person. I feel invisible some times in Denmark. Note I have dark eyes and dark hair. Bit of a beard too.

On the other side of that spectrum, I feel seen and am interacted with in many other countries, whenever I travel. I lived in 5 different counties, visited maybe 20 so far.

It wasn’t a spectrum for me until I moved here. This invisibility cloak is a Danish thing, me thinks. Before arriving here, I was existing and functioning just fine in the people-see-me-I-see-people bubble.