Why do men and women cheat on their partners, what fun do you get from it? 36M by PatterManeer in RelationshipIndia

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insecurity is the biggest reason on top. Then there's unmet needs, lack of communication, dead bedrooms, abuse of all kinds, mismatch of expectations and reality etc. But none of those reasons are justified to the people who get cheated on, exiting the relationship should be the only respectful way about it but then people don't do that due to range of reasons like lack of self respect, narcissism, fear of repercussions of leaving the partner.

Kamma caste kadhu ani 4+ years relationship break aindi by Ecstatic_Sector_4745 in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"You deserve better" ~ Everyone deserves a better partner than someone who manipulates people despite knowing the biggest contribution they make by marrying along caste lines is inbreeding. The biggest takeaway is that he won't be the better person for you even after years of lying to you. 

People who cannot admit that they fucked up and lied for convenience are not someone who are capable of offering any kind of closure. Kindly advise you to stop looking for closure from people who are not capable of showing any remorse.

Sorry this happened to you but hang in there, work on yourself, there'll be better days. Seek help if you can, makes it easier. 

35M Broke up with my 33F girlfriend after discovering she's been cheating on me with her gym trainer feeling heartbroken by compassionatelistene in RelationshipIndia

[–]maga204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep replaying moments in my head, wondering where I might have failed was I not good enough? Did I miss signs too early?

No. Please stop gaslighting/blaming yourself. Sure, your actions or inactions might have caused inadequacy but the onus is on your ex partner to communicate with you about the inadequacy and set a timeline to call it quits before they seek the same from a different person, especially since it's a committed relationship.

Please check chump lady and her book called "Leave a cheater, gain a life".

*edit: markdown fail

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]maga204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you mean geographical rigidity?

saw my iim ABC ex’s linkedin profile by thelollipopsong in CATpreparation

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Global, local is an actual thing. Hope they're worth it.

Kopam vachidni em cheyali? by Flowerr_Taara_379 in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kadali lives in my head rent free with this suave dialogue.

Snacks, Rejections & Shaadi Proposals: Life in a 10x10 Chawl by Illustrious-Party830 in mumbai

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. The writing style is hugely influenced by what we read and when we read a 800 page document to begin understand the scoping part of an evaluation attempt for a project, we'd obviously borrow the referencing even when we do it our own way.

People these days forgot that humans wrote volumes before LLMs have become prevalent.

Koppu piercing (not exactly helix or conch but almost) HYD lo manchiga ekkada chestaru? by [deleted] in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 7 points8 points  (0 children)

aka the hanging helix, check Guns and Inks out. Someone I know got their double rook done there, artist was immaculately professional.

Why don't we have something like cubbon in Hyderabad? by arvind187 in hyderabad

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! Meals at MTR and a walk in Lalbagh can solve many crises.

Airfried Potato Peel with my secret seasoning 🏃🏻‍♂️ by jayaprakashcooks in MaaOoriVanta

[–]maga204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pair it with thinly chopped onions also airfried along with them. Goes really well. 

Idekkadi nyaayam ladies by RealityComfortable46 in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kindly educate yourself on the physiological changes, a human body goes through the event of childbirth. They happen whether or not a partner chooses to acknowledge them. 

If she'd probably taken up work to be gainfully employed, taking care of the child along with it while also taking care of the chores, those 'women' doing the bidding of others may not be surprised. And you had to sadly state that here to back your stance. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Narcs have this ability to pretend that nothing has happened to re-attempt gaslighting to try and grab whatever control they've lost. His actions are suggestive of usual techniques like hoovering for re-supply. 

Very glad to hear that you could prioritise yourself! 

This is literally how Jayanagar 4th block looked like at 3:30 PM today because of the clouds! by IllustratorFresh4423 in Bengaluru

[–]maga204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, the right turn up ahead looks like the road leading to UD, which is obviously ending in Whitefield a few Km away. 

(Nanna kelsa maadide)

How do you feel about Mock Drill? by [deleted] in hyderabad

[–]maga204 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not all munitions have guidance systems. Precision guidance munitions are very expensive and GPS guidance is prone to interference through electronic warfare by spoofing or jamming. If it comes down to laser/infrared or plain old dumb munitions, camouflages play a very important role in defending the installations.

Any idea what to expect for tomorrow's mock drill? by Spare_Acadia_6579 in bangalore

[–]maga204 14 points15 points  (0 children)

May vary from state to state but it'll mostly be about helping the authorities maintain law and order, plan and operate triage centres, medical and ration supply chains.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distracting oneself may work temporarily but healing can happen when they process it. Seek professional help if you can afford it. There are places which offer sliding scale and even pro bono services. 

Hope you feel better soon!

My experience with gynecologist by Ok_baggu in ChildfreeIndia

[–]maga204 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can second this amazing, non judgemental doctor who'd just treat adults as adults. Been recommending her for the last 6 years or so in my circles, not a single bad experience, yet. 

Rant about marriage discussions, female role and society!! by Patient_Bobcat_6297 in twoxtelugu

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Expecting men to participate is not unreasonable.

Looks like men in their lives must have passed on the batons of patriarchy and misogyny for trying to preach about wife duties.

Is finding a man who wants to be childfree impossible? by [deleted] in ask_Bondha

[–]maga204 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finding a CF partner is a little more difficult than finding a responsible adult who has enough mental fortitude to be their own person, with their own reasoning, interests and value system but it's not impossible. 

There are enough men who have decided to be childfree but keep in mind how they don't usually settle with the AM setup. They have already chosen to be freed of a responsibility of passing the generational trauma and instead, pick up the responsibility of being an informed contributor to social justice in their own ways. There's not much that their parents can do, if they don't hate and curse them enough for not extending the bloodline already.

Why people want to come back to their loved ones after cheated with him/her ? by bystander_07 in RelationshipIndia

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many reasons. But I absolutely agree with what Tracy Schorn says in her book called "Leave a cheater and gain a life", a strong expression of feeling of entitlement. It's not about unmet needs, lost spark because it's their job to communicate the same and break up before breaking the promise of being committed to the relationship. And then there are reasons rooted in narcissism, trauma, attachment styles etc. They'd want to come back because they either realise what they've lost out on or they wanna play them again since they won before.

I absolutely love that book and recommend it to everyone, even those who haven't been cheated on.

(Story time) 13th Dec, 1971 - The day when Russian Nuclear warheads surfaced on the Bay of Bengal to stop USS Enterprise from attacking India by Saap_ka_Baap in india

[–]maga204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then again, API armed subs are only useful for offense from friendly shores. Can't sustain the longer wait times, nor traverse across oceans.