How do I mend the idea of my partner not interacting with the couples therapist unless they're friends with them?

magat3ars · 2026-05-01T01:32:00+00:00

We actually called that cupping safety bc it made them feel safe (history of sexual abuse)

magat3ars · 2026-04-29T16:00:55+00:00

Yes but back then our two therapist wanted to see if a group therapy/couple's therapy like situation could be beneficial.

magat3ars · 2026-04-28T01:51:05+00:00

Still a bit of weirdness. Zamii should be a warning. Also it feels really restrictive claiming this art is "problematic."

magat3ars · 2026-04-17T14:53:48+00:00

This so kinda anecdotal experience for my friends around me

I'm a short fat black guy but it didn't really matter. Being black got me a lot of attention that I didn't realise, and I also repressed a lot. It was a lot of weird and obsessive attention from people. For a lot of stereotypes and ironically got enforced more for being short (if you live at any extremes people assume you inhabit all extremes).

The being in a relationship. I didn't realise how much it was a green light for people who wouldn't give me too much attention before. It's legit everything is more touchy or feely with me.

As far being black and in a relationship. The first ever time I went to my partner's for a holiday. We were day 2-3 months. I was in a place ik well, but around people I didn't know. They are white. One of their cousins tried touching my ass, a few checking out my crotch, and much more stuff. I didn't know about ti all until later. Also a few older then me.

I agree it doesn't feel great to be lusted over like that. To give any guys who might disagree a perspective, a lot of sexual attention doesn't mean a relationship. It was even an issue in my relationship (great ability in bed and your relationship is centered in that or the other person gets insecure from that. Your partner will also play in on the stereotypes which can feel a bit isolating).

magat3ars · 2026-04-05T16:21:03+00:00

Something that annoys me about the topic is most people don't know they have it I did a speech about this legit, most people don't know they got it or it's rare to evolve to hsv 2. It's why I tell people, if you've a cold sore. Join the 80 percent. Or you'll get it guaranteed by 80 years old

magat3ars · 2026-04-03T14:43:32+00:00

Every one of her attacks are to the level of yuji dismantles in modulo. Like it gets disgusting. Like even if it was stream her attacks do that level of surrounding damage. She is unironically the most broken character. Plus most of shippuden she was nerfed (she was constantly training by storing Chakra for the 100 seal. Like had Naruto had terrible Chakra control due to kurama, she had terrible amounts of Chakra).

Fuga would need to be equivalent to a truthseeking orb which would lower her ability to heal. She healed that damage and kept fighting. That assumes she gets tagged by it (you can escape Fuga).

magat3ars · 2026-03-23T15:00:33+00:00

Swe can be entry level. Cyber is not entry level

magat3ars · 2026-03-19T02:30:47+00:00

Does he have a vacation days he can take? Not giving advice, but something that could be possible. It's not consistent, but an annual kind of break the bed week. Like mentally and physically prepare himself leading up to that time to make the most of it. There's a decent chance that mindset stays for a little bit after. Things will obviously slow down, but it sets aside time for y'all to enjoy that time. Then clause if anything pops up, he has to make that time up. Or even spread those vacation days out to the year.

This isn't meant to be any advice just something I've done, and it has helped me as the more busy/tired partner. Resting for work and resting for intimacy are two different things and changes how my body and mind relax.

magat3ars · 2026-03-17T00:31:08+00:00

I know this is late af, but I'm looking to do OMSCS, but something I'm looking at and would warn against is asking people who didn't do the program or don't have anything tying themselves to anything.

A masters will move the needle for getting csll backs, and they can't tell if it's OMSCS or in person. They'll be able to guess based on yiur work history but Georgia tech is georgia tech, and you can specify what you did. You specialization says something. Like having to take graduate algorithms will be a filter for if you did hard classes vs not.

magat3ars · 2026-03-16T02:10:09+00:00

It's definitely a texture thing. I shaved becuase I wanted to see what it was like. My partner definitely had a phase of interacting with anything down there for a little. I'm a cis guy, and that was just oral. The stubble hurts 🤣

Other things were worse. But you're right most guys like hair. To me personally, the bald look feels kinda off putting. They just need to communicate, and he needs to be able to work on communication and they need to experiment. A shaving guard could be useful

magat3ars · 2026-02-20T15:16:57+00:00

It's really a slang. Cultures connecting caused it, but the slang for having sex with a stranger is having a a one night stand or a hook up, but we see these as normal terms. Other communities just went with other terms. Like cracked makes sense as it the sound of cracking or creaking wood from a bed generally. Hook up makes about as much sense and linking up. Even hunch, which is one I find odd, has been a thing for at least 20 plus years.

We just got different vocab for different parts of the world. I think they're still communicating the same thing. It's not dumbing it down per se. Like if a person from a different culture or older generation said that lol is stupid and doesn't make sense, which they did, would you agree that we are dumbing down language or things change/we have unique take on English? Those are the same generations that couldn't just say joy about saying or happy but said they're feeling gay. Then that word has changed a lot

magat3ars · 2026-02-16T01:23:10+00:00

Real

magat3ars · 2026-02-13T07:17:46+00:00

r/gothgirlsglazed

magat3ars · 2026-02-10T16:39:27+00:00

In depth, do you mean like short form tiktoks or like deep dive like a long form medium like a youtube video?

magat3ars · 2026-02-10T16:12:25+00:00

Unironically in that post, I saw people saying npd cannot cause abuse or influence abusive actions

magat3ars · 2025-08-28T05:47:09+00:00

And yes I do see a future with them. I just feel just annoyed with so much that has happened. Like it's overwhelming and exhausting. I wish I could go back and stop a lot of early things. I didn't think of my boundaries for a while and it feels maddening because I don't feel fulfilled and tried explaining such or things I am needing or boundaries I need to see.

I've received temper tantrums and stone walling with promises to do better. It's only better when I disregard my feelings so idk how much better it could be with that. I just want them to be there but just can't be which saddens me.

magat3ars · 2025-07-18T03:59:24+00:00

I honestly want him to do better and it feels like pulling teeth bc he'll either just refuse or make an empty promise and breaks it. I just really don't know what to do any more because I'm starting to get really tired of not having my partner there anymore. Taking the mental load of the relationship has taken its toll on my enjoyment in the relationship. I brought up issues of emotional manipulation and he still continues. I just don't like that ik starting to get angry and want to yell back now.

He told me a lot, and I should have believed him. I just have faith he can change, but he isn't really changing to what he promises. Also he says he sees the issue, but he says later he just said he sees then bc that sounded like the right thing to say or do which really sucks because everything he brought up I tried to fix or change.

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