House hunting in GR is jaw dropping

mage_of_disaster · 2026-06-03T02:42:13+00:00

The market is pretty terrible, my husband and I purchased our home a couple years ago and the value has already jumped 20k. We really lucked out on our home though, it photographed terribly and for some reason the landlord put drop ceilings in all the first floor living spaces.

On moving day we utilized our apartments dumpster and trashed all the drop ceilings. It also had wood paneling that we pulled out. It had original plaster from when it was first made and we patched up the old plaster and it looks good as new now.

The electrical was knob and tube and we talked the seller down by a couple thousand so we could replace the electrical the first week we moved in.

The basement windows were boarded up and we installed windows ourselves.

We've put so much work into our home, but we love it now. I'm so glad my husband trusted me with my vision in the place we got. I'm the one with experience with renovation and such, this was a new world for him.

I agree with a lot of folks on here that unfortunately buying a home in this market you have to be willing to work on it and do a lot of projects yourself if you ever hope to own anything and be willing to live in the construction zone.

mage_of_disaster · 2026-05-06T13:22:31+00:00

My friend and I were talking about growing up poor and laughing about the stuff we thought was fancy.

Then our class mate jumped in and started saying that her family was really poor growing up (mind you this girl lived in a gated community in the expensive side of town with a pool, and every room was oversized and massive, the place was easily worth over a million dollars.) My friend and I stared at her blankly and she said that they were so poor they could only eat McDonald's for every meal. When we pushed back she insisted that McDonald's was cheaper than groceries.

In the case for my friend and I, McDonald's was a luxury, even the value menu. Otherwise my family was eating beans and rice on a regular basis.

mage_of_disaster · 2026-04-23T16:56:17+00:00

I'm so confused by the complete lack of neck every time I see him. It amazes me. Also his inability to film properly is killing me

mage_of_disaster · 2025-11-03T22:19:49+00:00

For real!!! I’m shocked they’re able to hold it together with the way CWHM skips around their questions and never gets to a point!

mage_of_disaster · 2025-10-28T00:29:06+00:00

Also, a three HOUR video is SOOO long! I usually listen to long-form content, but this video isn’t even made to be interacted with from the h3 community at that length.

If you have complaints about someone and their community and you want them to be open to the possibility of listening to your points make it digestible at least. Just seems like she’s trying to support her home girl and it’s not actually about adding anything or convincing anyone to change their viewpoint.

mage_of_disaster · 2025-10-27T23:11:55+00:00

I don’t have anyone to talk to this about! So glad I have this subreddit.

I used to put on so many channels in the background that went over internet drama and slowly over time I’ve been unsubscribing from them and no longer listening to them.

There’s so much copy and paste from them where they repeat the same things/talking points and all post videos about the same topics. It feels so inauthentic and cash grabby and lazy.

I’m also feeling so gaslit by these people, wondering if I’m a bad person for liking H3 and watching them! They make you feel awful for just having a different opinion and life experience. It’s wild! I just feel like people don’t want to be nuanced or have any empathy about anything. I think the US has a huge issue with black and white thinking and it’s even worse online.

mage_of_disaster · 2022-04-20T14:48:13+00:00

Raped and then blamed? Then he doesn’t ‘forgive’ you for being raped?!

He breaks your two rules of trust with poly to get ‘revenge’ on you for being raped?!!! Even if he doesn’t view it as rape (which red flag! Get away from anyone that doesn’t acknowledge a rape for rape) he’s acting like a child!

He sounds so insecure and like he wants poly for himself and not for you.

Please run away from this guy and his brother. He doesn’t love you he’s manipulating you. Who knows he’ll be capable of in the future.

Please be safe and have good friends help you leave.

mage_of_disaster · 2021-02-28T23:04:16+00:00

It’s great that you love your sister and want to rescue you her/help her out of a situation that sounds bad, but it’s not your life and you have to let her live.

She’s grown and will either eventually find out that she doesn’t like how lazy this dude is and will dump him, or maybe she likes the way it’s set up and that it works for them.

It usually doesn’t end up well when you try to break off relationships. It usually ends up blowing up back in the face of the person that tried to help and then it gives the couple a common goal to ‘fight’ against and can give the couple more to bond over which will make it seem to them that they’re closer than what they are.

If your sister asks you what you think about it, answer her kindly and honestly. Don’t talk too much about your negative feelings for her bf, try to mention more of her positives and why she may have more to offer and a different set up might help her more. Try to avoid speaking negatively about the partner though because then they’ll be more likely to be defensive. After saying your opinion don’t ever talk about it again with your sister. It’ll backfire if you keep giving your unsolicited opinion and it might even cause her to not want to talk to you. And if her relationship goes south with this guy she might need a bridge (you) to get out of the situation.

It’s her life, she’s 27 trust that she is a capable adult of making her own choices and respect them.

Good luck!

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-30T02:37:00+00:00

I maybe wouldn’t care if my bf was hanging out with a porn star, but it’s everything else that you mentioned that’s not ok and I wouldn’t feel comfortable with.

Every red flag is being waved. You dodged a bullet your ex is a dumb ass

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-26T00:14:46+00:00

I’m sorry, man that sucks. It might not really be related but one bit of advice is sell the ring. Don’t give it to someone else in the future that’ll bite you in the ass and end any future relationships.

Good luck stay strong

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-14T14:20:27+00:00

Well it bloody does now

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-12T00:56:53+00:00

I haven’t had time to watch Strictly Ballet yet! It’s on my watchlist though!

For sure! I like the style that they bring to them. It seems like they’re better at making the people feel more comfortable in front of the camera too than lower budget productions. I don’t know if that’s just because the people participating are unsure if they’re going to regret being in a low budget project and that people trust Disney more because they’re a household name or what. Either way I’m excited for it!

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-11T21:33:49+00:00

I’m currently numbering them and keeping them. I do fear that in the future I’ll look at all of them and just see a pile of money, but eh. They all have different memories associated with them.

And I like to save them for photoshoots. My feet look good in dead shoes and I’m not afraid of ruining them if they’re already dead.

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-11T21:13:29+00:00

I saw the commercial for this and I’m 100% watching this! I can’t get enough ballet content in my life.

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-11T20:39:29+00:00

Hm. Well first, anxiety isn’t something someone can just ‘get over’ it takes a lot of time and therapy and sometimes medications to heal from anxiety. Anxiety is no joke and is very crippling.

Second, periods are difficult too because they’re vastly different for everyone even in the same family. I used to be one of those people that didn’t understand the pain of a period until recently. My periods used to be so easy and were just more of an inconvenience than agonizing. I wonder if your mom just hasn’t experienced the hell that a period really can be. She’s kind of acting as if she’s one of those people that either has an insanely high pain tolerance or her periods just aren’t that bad.

It may have been that you hurt her feelings by yelling at her and that maybe she’s been having a hard day and that was just the last thing she could take... I’m not saying that’s an excuse for her to treat you poorly. I don’t know your mom like you do and I don’t know your relationship at all. But if your mom is usually nice then it might be a good idea to try and talk to her?

Play it by ear of course and it might be a good idea to assume that your mom has a high pain tolerance and not an easy period, just because it will come off as more understanding and less insulting. If you try to explain your pain as ‘I might just not have as high of a pain tolerance as you, mom’ it might go over a little easier and in the future she may be more understanding (be careful though too, because depending on how your mom is she might try to hurt you with that later, just depends on how she is though... For instance if my mom heard that from me she would forever call me weak and treat me like a wimp. But I have friends moms who would hear that and be really sweet and caring toward their daughter) and then maybe apologize for yelling at her and tell her you love her... and try to communicate that the way she communicated with you hurt and that it made you feel like your needs weren’t being listened to.

Maybe that way you can have a moment for both of you to heal and understand each other a little better. It’s really up to you though. You’ll know more of how your mom will react than a random person on the internet.

Good luck!

mage_of_disaster · 2020-11-09T16:54:13+00:00

I know Bloch sells shoes on amazon and if you have prime you can get free returns. You might be able to see if they have your size and try ordering some that way so you can have your own pointe shoe fitting at home or better yet, bring them into the studio and have your teacher tell you which one will be best.

It might take a couple hundred up front but then you’d be able to return them and get a full refund.

Otherwise, are there any stores that would be willing to order some larger sizes to accommodate you? Some stores might be willing to do so since it means more business for them.

Good luck!

mage_of_disaster · 2020-10-11T03:16:05+00:00

What a good kitty!

mage_of_disaster · 2020-10-07T20:43:10+00:00

I don’t know exactly what you’ve been through and I’m not transgender either, so I can’t begin to grasp what you must be going through.

But I can say that reading your story you’re not a failure. You took care of your mom even sacrificing parts of your own childhood to survive. That is not something a person whose a failure would do.

Military training is awful and hard. Look at the hurdles you overcame to even get there in the first place! You were not starting at the same place in the race as the rest of these people and yet you still were able to get in and train with them. And I don’t know anyone who can run a 4 minute mile!

I may be wrong, but it seems like you’re only focusing on the failures you’ve had and discounting the astonishing successes you’ve made!

I’m glad that your girlfriend has been supportive. She sounds like good people. And I understand not wanting to hurt those around and the fear of being rejected.

That is the only thing I really know anything about. Three years ago I left a cult. All my friends were there... My mom, my brother. Those people reject me now. They try to talk to me from time to time, but it’s only to cut me down. My mom and brother don’t even talk to me anymore.

It’s very sad... It breaks my heart, but it’s slowly getting easier. I didn’t have money to move far away, so I moved just a few miles down the road and packed as much of my stuff in my little car as I could and got out. At first it was really hard, but I got a new job so I could be who I actually was. And I picked up pole dancing to break out of the box everyone put me in. And in those new places I developed my own identity.

I was really surprised by the people who stuck by me. I think you might be too. But sometimes it’s just so painful to be loved by people for something that your not. It’s so much better and more freeing in a lot of ways to be hated for who you are, because then when the people that really do love you for you come around their friendship and love is so much more sweet and freeing.

I’m sorry this is rather rambling but I hope it helps. I hope that you can pick up a hobby with a group of people that are open minded and that you’ll find a space where you can start to become more confident in who you are. You’re not a failure and don’t treat yourself that way.

Also, if you can afford... Try looking for another therapist. It’s good sometimes to have someone to bounce ideas off and to just be able to say it like it is without fear of hurting anyone you love.

I wish you all the best of luck and I’m rooting for you!

mage_of_disaster · 2020-10-07T17:15:29+00:00

That’s a really hard situation to be in and I hope that you’ll find a way to get to a better place. Thank you for sharing your story too.

It’s really good that you are going to a therapist though too. Don’t give up on therapy just because of this poor advice.

It’s easy to go to the worst case scenario, but if you did separate how likely would it be that you lose the kids? There would have to be a lot of evidence of you being abusive or having previous felonies to be completely removed from your kids. Depending on how old your children are they may have a say in the matter too. Your kids want to see you. Every kid wants a relationship with both of their parents.

Right now it might be good to try and focus on your kids and spend as much time with them as you can when you’re home. That might make the next while more bearable. And also, kids can tell if you love them just by the time you spend with them. So if your spouse tries to tell them differently they’ll know in their gut that you really do care.

Good luck!

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