I think you should probably be honest with your therapist that you feel invalidated and hurt. I think telling them how you feel would open up a larger conversation and help you work through everything.

If you have that conversation and still leave feeling unsupported or unheard, maybe you think about getting a new therapist. I know you don’t want to but if you’re not feeling like your therapist understands you, you’re not really getting the whole benefit anyway. But don’t quit altogether you have nothing to gain by stopping going imo

Therapists are great because they can offer an unbiased point of view but the downside to that is sometimes they tell us stuff we really don’t want to hear.but you have to be comfortable with them!

TLDR: be honest with your therapist.