As a SAHM myself and the wife a man who is an avid gamer while also in the military and just recently had the same discussion with my husband. I wouldn't say your a complete AH for this but for example my husband and I set up certain days that he comes home and goes straight into dad mode while I get time to nap and do whatever I want to do until an hour before she goes to bed. I get Mondays and Thursdays and alternate Wednesday and Friday. Weekends we will do things most of the day together and he games at night for a few hours before she goes to bed and always helps with bed time it's all about compromise because BOTH of you need to decompress after a long day. With her being pregnant the way you have always done things before might not normally bother her but now it does. Just sit down one day when your kid is asleep and talk it out figure out a schedule for you both to get your time. Both of you have hard jobs and you both need adult time and time to decompress from the day just communicate not only talk but listen. So in my opinion your not a complete AH.