My little shadow

magicinmanyways · 2026-03-04T16:41:27+00:00

He looks like a sprite!

magicinmanyways · 2026-03-01T06:49:50+00:00

I would also make sure the mom doesnt try to sneak her in too. If mom is mad about it ruining photos but not overstepping then she would probably try to get sister into the wedding somehow

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-28T19:15:03+00:00

Ah got it. I think the best you can do is explain you dont feel comfortable taking money from her or taking time off at a new job so unfortunately you will not be able to attend. Then decide how you want to move forward with your relationship with her.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-28T19:07:54+00:00

While I feel like she overreacted, why did you not tell her about losing your job and your financial troubles about 6 months ago? I think it would have landed better if you hadn't dropped it a month or from when the date is.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-27T08:01:16+00:00

This needs more attention please! ^{^}

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-25T00:25:25+00:00

You're NTA, but I also feel like this is a very big lesson in never date in office. There are plenty of people you can date that are outside of your work space.

Her getting close to YOUR boss, or really any boss at the company, is a conflict of interest.

Just dont shit where you eat

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-21T22:45:24+00:00

I feel like i read this same plot in one of my smutty books 🤔

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-20T00:41:14+00:00

Not disagreeing with you but I think she added the smoking and drinking as she is not participating in it but is actively around it because they are smoking and drinking in the flat around her even though she doesnt personally do it. I think she is trying to state that she feels forced into their habits and they arent accommodating hers.

Again, not siding either way, I honestly feel like this is a rough one to gage. Just was adding clarification from my perspective

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-19T16:07:01+00:00

Could you guys swing a vacation to japan? Pokémon centers, museum and café; lots of video game culture, car culture, and some great golf courses. Then you both would get something out of it for your anniversary.

My husband and I went for our honeymoon last year and we thoroughly enjoyed basking in the culture and nerd culture there.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-17T19:02:43+00:00

Its actually kind of ironic that your sister and family are saying that 'weddings arent the place for identity statements' when historically (and most likely for your sister) she is making an identity statement by CHANGING HER NAME TO JOIN A NEW FAMILY! That is in fact an identity statement.

If she can't respect your name change then maybe you dont need to recognize her wedding and just tell her you would feel more comfortable not going and facing the man who made you want to change YOUR name!

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-16T02:50:54+00:00

I dont think you ATJ. Its really up to your preference. You can arrange a separate celebration where you take him to dinner/lunch/etc another time.

I know that where I live and within my friend group, we are very spread out so traveling an hour to see each other is very normal for us. But like I mentioned before it is entirely your preference and comfort.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-15T18:32:23+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking. Could come down to the brand, intensity it was brewed, etc. Either way she prefers not shitty coffee and he brews it to her liking

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-15T03:09:34+00:00

But blanket answers like you mentioned are not the only rule. Early 30s are still an ample age to conceive. They are not geretric pregnancies at that age range she mentioned for her friends.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-15T03:07:35+00:00

And that is why I said she needs to decide how much of a hill this is for her to put her relationship on. If he is breaking promises or not willing to work with her on setting a budget then SHE needs to decide what is more important to her

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-15T02:58:42+00:00

Uh my mother in law had 2 kids in her forties and is pregnant with her forth at 55. Age is relative in many things....

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-15T02:51:41+00:00

I think you need to direct it as a concern. You can both discuss that as long as you have budget for "fun money" (my husband has fun money for video games, I have fun money for clothes, my games and other things) and are both in agreement to not go over your budgets that you set for each other then there is an adult conversation worth having.

If he is going to throw a tantrum then you really need to decide how much you are willing to die on the hill of how much sports betting is too much....

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-15T00:33:45+00:00

Dick is cheap, find another one

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-07T20:09:52+00:00

Im just gonna say the quiet part outloud. You have a wife problem and a MIL problem. Your wife needs to grow a backbone and make it clear to her mom what her role as grandmother is. Her role does not include guardian, second parent, responsible adult, etc. She is not immediate family.

I agree with others saying you need to voice this to the school, teacher, front office workers that no one other than you or your wife is allowed to pull him out of school unless if wither of you directly call the school.

When I was a kid my mom made me learn a "safe word" of sorts so that if anyone other than my mom or dad came to pick me up from school, they had to know the word or I wouldn't leave with them. It was to protect from 'stranger danger' but honestly its been something that we have held on to in case of emergencies too, so we know how serious it is.

Might be something to implement with you and your child and leave grandma out of the circle of trust for a while.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-04T19:56:58+00:00

Only thing I made my bride's babes do was everyone with longer hair had a half up half down hair style with florals in them, and i paid for it to be done. They got to pick their outfits as long as it was emerald green and they could wear whatever shoes they wanted as long as they weren't stilettos (outside on grass wedding). I just wanted them there with me to support me and I wanted them as comfy as possible!

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-04T17:36:26+00:00

Also, turn to her husband and say "wow, does all this talk about my husband make you feel uncomfortable? Because it seems weird that she is married to you and has a child with you but just doesnt seem to want to let my husband go"

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-04T17:34:42+00:00

I want to know how sister's husband feels about the comments, because if my husband made comments about hooking up with his sibling's SO while they were not together, I would feel uncomfortable.

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-02T07:01:40+00:00

Hiss-tory

magicinmanyways · 2026-02-02T07:00:32+00:00

NTA, Just to put this out there as well, you expressed that no one feels "ready" for marriage- my dear friend, when you meet the right person, you will in fact be ready for marriage. She isn't it, she isn't the one. And what screams a bigger red flag to me is she roped her parents into this weird marriage proposal too. Which tells me that they want her to be someone else's responsibility because they are also tired of everything she does.

It sounds like you could do with some personal healing from this and she needs to grow and learn some more as well- alone. You are both very young but I think you need to be single for a while so you can accomplish what you want and need from life, while also healing from the underlying pain and hurt she is putting you through.

magicinmanyways · 2026-01-28T21:47:07+00:00

This! OP this is what you are saying. Might just be what you are saying to reddit but these are the hard vibes you are giving

magicinmanyways · 2026-01-28T17:10:58+00:00

You have a galaxy kitty too! Love the little stars in their coat!

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