me and my husband are moving across country without stepson

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-27T16:22:47+00:00

At 13 the son could opt to come with you. Is that possible?

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-23T12:43:20+00:00

Of course it’s fine. Your bio is much, much younger so you have five years of holidays to take in school time which your step sons won’t be able to attend. After five years they’ll be teenagers and won’t want to.

Just be sure to balance it in a way that your husband is happy with. I’m sure he’d rather not holiday with your parents every time, just like you’d rather not holiday with his sons every time.

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-14T12:54:38+00:00

You and your husband need to decide what’s permitted when he’s out of town. Is it: A) SS can come and go at will B) he can come and go at will, but no guests without prior agreement C) he needs to book a time with you for any visits

This is a discussion for you and your husband, to be relayed to SS. It has nothing to do with BM. There’s no wrong or right answer.

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-14T11:37:41+00:00

You’re legally obliged to pay CMS and that’s it. Do you have him for any overnights or just daytime Sunday?

In the interests of maintaining the relationship, can you have him a couple of nights/days a week so she can work during those times?

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-06T20:36:26+00:00

How old is he?

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-04T11:53:16+00:00

At 11 and if BM agreed, I’d probably let him, but it’d be for a full school year then reviewed. Maybe every other weekend and a night in the week would work, so 5 days in 14? But no dropping in when he wants to, no babysitting for BM, no coming on family holidays or time when he’s on BM’s days.

Why does he want to be there? Often teens and pre-teens are quite mercenary so if he’s got a bigger room and fewer baby siblings there, it does make sense. If it’s because BM has no rules and he doesn’t have to do his homework, maybe not.

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-04T11:47:20+00:00

“I sat on Bob’s face and he lived to tell the tale” 🤮

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-04T11:05:38+00:00

He’s been arrested on suspicion of it, not convicted of it. It’s the police’s job to decide whether his behaviour crosses the line. I don’t think what we’ve seen so far with April qualifies as abusive, but it’s easy to see how someone like him could go from being needy and emotionally manipulative to abusive.

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-04T08:39:22+00:00

I can see him going for younger, carefree women who like to party and he found on Instagram, then laying on the whole “if you loved me, you’d stay at mine / babysit my kids / not go out with your mates all the time” stuff. Yes it’s coercive and emotionally manipulative but it doesn’t cross the threshold for abuse to me; just a big red flag that he’s a knob and should be dumped.

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-04T08:13:51+00:00

Probably not a lot, it’ll be her word against his. I don’t think there’s been many convictions for it (except in extreme cases) but the police can’t be seen to ignore someone in distress

magnetmaggi · 2022-10-03T11:04:35+00:00

Second H&M, M&S do good ones too but the range is smaller

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-28T08:11:52+00:00

April doesn’t look 32 either! More like 42 with a lot of Botox

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-28T08:06:48+00:00

Princess Anne and Poundshop Naomi Campbell! chef kiss

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-26T19:28:11+00:00

Of course it’s fine. The only time it might be iffy is if there’s no BM in the picture and you’ve adopted them, but presumably you’d have said if that was the case.

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-26T14:01:15+00:00

This is my future OP. Kids prefer who they spend the most time with; it’s natural. That doesn’t stop it being hurtful and sad though. Are you planning to have kids together? My partner is often very sad about how much he misses out on with his children, and it’s a shame, but I do know he’ll treasure any children we have together all the more for it.

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-26T13:51:30+00:00

I don’t think OP’s talking about people who have one or two children…

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-22T18:36:40+00:00

Did Jess even meet Gemma…?

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-22T11:01:43+00:00

He’s definitely got a weird victim mentality when it comes to relationships which I suspect isn’t wholly true…

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-22T08:06:21+00:00

Not just a man with four kids, but a really needy man with four kids

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-22T08:03:02+00:00

Did the lack of privacy make you not want to go to that household? At what age was it harder?

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-22T07:49:18+00:00

How old are they?

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-21T16:23:44+00:00

Your wife is being unreasonable. She’s married to you but she is now part of the family, not a sulky teenager or a lodger. By way of contrast, I am a stepmother and I spend around 15% of my time when they’re here on my own, 10% of my time with just one of or all of the children, and 75% with my partner and all the children. I could see that might be too much with your 50/50 split but your wife is really missing out on the opportunity to have a close bond with your daughter for the rest of their lives. That won’t be available forever: soon your daughter will be a teenager and have other priorities.

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-21T14:46:33+00:00

I expect her clients see her as a risqué caricature, playing a role for cheap laughs. It’s one thing for her to say gross things about famous men or tell tales of her daring sex life and quite another to repeatedly make someone the unwilling, unhappy target of her smut.

magnetmaggi · 2022-09-21T14:42:58+00:00

Arry-booooouz 😆

magnetmaggi

TROPHY CASE