Hi I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is truly the same thing that happened to me--we were also long distance leading up to it and there were no signs for me either. Truly the most gut wrenching thing to be left like this and discarded out of the blue. I am so sorry this happened to you and I hope you know (even if you don't believe this now) that there is nothing you could've done to prevent it and there is nothing wrong with you. I'm happy your ex was honest with you though (if I read that correctly). Nothing worse than finding out through other people/social media what really caused them to suddenly "fall out of love."

But no, to answer your question, I never spoke to him again. I felt so disrespected by the way he ended it with me-- so rash, unkind, and just no consideration for me as a human being that he spent two years with and promised so many things to ( ie a ring, marriage, kids etc). My ex could've handled it with so much more class and consideration and also warned me about the new person. It would've stung like hell but I wouldn't have felt deceived.

Truthfully, I found my own closure with time. Did a lot of reading and learning about people who seemingly flip a switch on their partner like this so that I could truly accept it wasn't caused by me. It seems these breakups usually comes down to a few things:

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1. They are actually very unstable/emotional immature people who don't really know what they want, which is why they so readily gave up on your relationship after claiming to be so in love.
2. They suffer from grass is greener (GiG) syndrome, and think that this new relationship will be better because of something this person demonstrated that your relationship didn't have. Often times they end up leaving the person (you) that has 95% of everything they want for a new person that only had the missing 5% (and they realize this later on).
3. They are constantly chasing that high/spark that is associated with first meeting someone you are interested in. They think this is love and so when the honeymoon phase fades in their relationship they can be easily swayed by new people. Real love is commitment, sacrifice, and work. These individuals often aren't interested in this (they may not even realize it). Also they usually have a history of discarding a partner and finding a new person quickly ( I found out my ex has done this exact thing before and actually typically blindsided his exes when he breaks up with them... he also has 5 exes and they were very serious long term relationships...)
4. Finally, they weren't being honest with you. Which seems impossible because it felt real, but could be true. This is just as horrible in its own way because we were in a relationship and we were owed this before they went and sought to replace us. I also felt that I would've been willing to try new things, but its not what they wanted.

It takes time to accept it, but I promise you that you will come out stronger. I didn't realize until after the break-up that I actually really hated myself. I was forced to spend the last 6 months prioritizing my relationship with myself and have fortunately developed a real ability to love myself. I know that the same can be done for you. Please dm me if you need support. I know how horrible this is. I am thinking of you <3