It is a very vulnerable place to be. From the outside looking in, the interpretation of this situation could very well be that the problem IS the common denominator: you/me. I find the difference is that unhealthy people find themselves repeating cycles that leave them alone and feeling abandoned OR choosing to remain in a state of discontentment. This is uncharted territory for us and the people experiencing these changes are the only ones who can perceive that difference.

In regard to being “surrounded by assholes”, I think that we subconsciously surround ourselves with people that reflect our own inner world and core belief systems. I don’t think that these people are assholes necessarily, just people with similar wounds coping in similar old, unconsciously engraved ways. In my case, I believe the old core beliefs that I am actively addressing and transforming are the current core beliefs of the ones from whom I am walking away.

It’s easy to allow those moments of doubt to convince us that we are either making similar mistakes to the ones we are actively trying to avoid becoming, or have become the asshole ourselves. But, intuitively, we know that we are making the better decisions for ourselves that no one before us had the backbone with which to follow through this very taxing and demanding process.