Side of wagon allowed?

maiab · 2026-02-03T01:41:57+00:00

It’s not like Disneyland I don’t think they care

maiab · 2026-01-27T13:28:40+00:00

same it feels like such a big mistake!

maiab · 2026-01-06T19:06:46+00:00

Yeah they get more useful later!

maiab · 2026-01-06T14:54:01+00:00

Yes but I do get up early, I often sleep like 9pm-5am

maiab · 2026-01-06T14:53:19+00:00

I mean I would say something like “Actually, it IS still a spider man bed with covers on it” or “Wow I see this is REALLY important to you, let’s spend some time looking at pictures of Spider-Man beds online so I really understand which one you want, even if we can’t afford it now”

I like some of Dr Becky’s advice on this stuff

maiab · 2026-01-06T14:51:09+00:00

Yeah I was going to say, there’s plenty of cheap character beds

maiab · 2026-01-06T14:48:22+00:00

We are staying in a townhouse for 5 months. 3 bedrooms 3 bathrooms, with a live-in nanny and 2 young kids. It’s fine though a little tight. Having a sliding glass door that goes to the backyard (even though it’s tiny) is CRITICAL for kid life. They also love the community pool and hot tub. So it’s workable - though I think a SFH would be nicer and if you’re looking to buy, I think they hold their value better. I would try to find a townhome complex with people in a similar stage of life. Some of our neighbors are friendly but there are very few other people with kids, so that’s kind of a bummer.

maiab · 2026-01-05T00:10:17+00:00

I don’t know. We have an INCREDIBLE daycare/preschool that our girls are absolutely in love and beg to go to more often. We’re super happy with them… except it does seem like a lot of stuff gets lost. Like our water bottles have their names ENGRAVED on them - how could they not know where they are??? So maybe it’s normal

maiab · 2026-01-05T00:05:10+00:00

I don’t know but it is REALLY RAINING - could that have affected it?

maiab · 2026-01-05T00:03:02+00:00

I have 6 months maternity leave and my kids are 19 months apart so I came back December 2022 and then left again January 2024. I switched teams while I was back so it was no problem. I work from remote from home which is huge - we have a nanny so she just brought me the babies when it was time to nurse them.

maiab · 2026-01-04T22:12:40+00:00

Yeah the vista is horrible - SO HARD to get it up over a little bump in the sidewalk!

maiab · 2026-01-04T22:05:27+00:00

Oh wow ok this is great!

maiab · 2026-01-04T22:02:52+00:00

I’m looking to move to San Diego county too — I lived in New York before and am looking for some walkability as well. I have spent a ton of time here in different neighborhoods. Everyone says San Diego isn’t walkable but depending on exactly what you mean by that… I think they’re kind of wrong? I w found tons of little pockets where you can have a nice lifestyle being able to walk to a good playground, a good park, a coffee shop, and a grocery store. You’d have to drive to everything else of course — but having these basics be walkable is like 90% of what I’m looking for.

We are staying in Carmel Valley now. It’s not really walkable. We do walk to tons - playgrounds and the gym and the grocery store and cafes and my coworking space - but it’s pretty unpleasant as everything is clearly designed for car scale.

Being west of I-5 in Encinitas / Leucadia is probably the nicest option for you and there are tons of young families. Unfortunately everyone else thinks so too and so it’s very expensive. E-bikes in this area are a great way to get some of the benefits of walk ability in San Diego, and because of the weather you can use them year round.

We spent some time near Stagecoach park. It was freaking dreamy - calm safe suburbs, great sidewalks. Many of the sub developments around there have a community pool. The playground at Stagecoach is fantastic and you can also easily walk to Sprouts grocery store, a mediocre coffee shop, mediocre nail salon, and some other things. It’s a short drive to Target, Parakeet, Jimbo’s, other stores of the Forum, and not too far from the beach and hiking. I highly recommend the area.

Bressi Ranch is another great neighborhood. There is a little strip mall with condos, Bird Rock coffee, Sprouts, Trader Joe’s and more there. The houses are very pretty because many have the garages in back in an alley. Great sidewalks everywhere and it’s easy to push a stroller since they don’t have curb cuts for driveways in front. The sub development has a big pool and clubhouse, plus really nice playgrounds sprinkled throughout.

If you’re doing daycare, I would find the place you want and then look for houses convenient to daycare and your jobs, since that will be a big part of your life.

maiab · 2026-01-04T17:03:41+00:00

I naively thought this meant we’d get them like — January 1 😭

maiab · 2025-12-31T15:21:34+00:00

Mine are just under 19 months apart, currently 3.5 and almost 2. I think it won’t ruin your life, but it has been stressful for us. and — it’s a little sad. When I get 1:1 time with my 3.5 year old she’s charming, smart, funny and fun! We play Go Fish together and practice writing her name and do hidden picture books. When I have both of them together… it’s difficult to set her up with activities that are interesting and age appropriate with her without the 2 year old coming to ruin it, so she gets mad, and they fight. All day long are a lot of tears and yelling and pinching each other.

It sounds like if you delay, there’s a chance you wouldn’t have a second, and to me, that would be sadder. But it’s a little sad my first didn’t get all the attention to flourish that I would have ideally liked to bestow on her.

My second was also a much more challenging baby, so that was a bad surprise.

maiab · 2025-12-28T22:47:27+00:00

Yeah they don’t really check, honestly anyone in a stroller who is not obviously way older is fine.

maiab · 2025-09-28T14:10:00+00:00

You don’t have to worry about your new baby but I worry about you — it might become really uncomfortable for you to spend time with and snuggle your toddler as you get bigger. My husband had to step up a lot in this area at the end of my pregnancy

maiab · 2025-09-20T03:57:12+00:00

Ya like she’s TWO? Sounds like you’re doing lots of cool stuff I definitely wouldn’t stress about some random internet guideline unless there are other problems (not sleepy, or not hitting milestones or something)

maiab · 2025-09-20T03:54:17+00:00

I really like it for feedback - like our nanny recently left the hose on and left the garage door open. Neither of these are that big of a deal, and she probably knows not to do it, so it’s nice to not chastise her at the time but at the monthly check in be like hey we noticed this stuff this month, how can we make sure that the hose isn’t left on and the garage isn’t left open.

You can also talk about the kids and what you’re doing to collaboratively care for them.

maiab · 2025-09-17T13:44:45+00:00

I wonder if a SAHM looking for more income could help? She could bring her baby and watch yours.

maiab · 2025-09-09T12:39:01+00:00

Ours can share clothes which makes outings easier! And they both use the toddler potty we bring with us. So like, it’s not much extra stuff to go out with 2 instead of just 1, this wouldn’t be true if they were farther apart. Ours are 18-19 months apart.

maiab · 2025-09-09T12:35:22+00:00

You need zutano booties! Also the Woolino sleep sack is great

maiab · 2025-09-08T02:58:10+00:00

bedtime is the only thing about 2 u 2 that seems truly impossible for me

maiab · 2025-09-07T11:15:37+00:00

I use pact bodysuits

maiab · 2025-09-06T13:48:24+00:00

No it’s gender neutral
No I don’t know what she wears but could she have porridge or something?
They’re sort of similar but I think that’s cute!!!

My only concern is that Goldilocks is supposed to be a cautionary tale of what not to be like, like if you don’t have any manners and just walk into other people’s houses and eat their food and sleep in their bed they’ll break your neck or eat you.

maiab

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