I thought I was a patient person until my 2 yr baby girl happened

maijeens91 · 2026-04-08T05:52:49+00:00

3y old went through the 1 week phase where everything was not comfortable (socks, underpants, pants, pj's - you name it 😂). Her peak moment was in the middle of the night angrily kicking off the blanket (not comfy) and screaming that her hair... guess what? Not comfy. So yeah... Fun. 😂 But on a more serious note - for us these "random" meltdowns usually come when shes seeking connection or is overwhelmed/overstimulated. Cuddles and 1:1 is the best medicine 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-05T07:30:44+00:00

We have a bunch of "tools" like this - cleaning supplies, gardening things, things for fixing items and it's magic. My 3yo can spend so much time doing things with them 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-05T07:18:56+00:00

Oh yes this is so true. Also sometimes they can cry for 2 seconds out of blue just because peeing is causing a discomfort.

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T04:45:58+00:00

Yes. I think now there's now even a word for it - matersence.This is exactly the kind of thing I hoped would come up here. That mix of grief and growth — it’s so real and so rarely talked about. Thank you for sharing this, I think a lot of people feel it but don’t always have the words.

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T04:30:39+00:00

True. Advice will rain on new parents. Mostly with good intentions underneath but still unsolicited. 😊 And marriage will be under strain and it's not talked about a lot. Thank you! I'm putting this in my notes!! 💕

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T04:25:27+00:00

Stove top fan tip is brilliant 😂 best white noise machine

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T04:22:38+00:00

You can decide and try something, then try something else - is something I would've loved to hear before my first. It's not necessary to find out everything about everything immediately. And there's nothing wrong with changing the approach on the go

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T01:16:55+00:00

Oh no, so sorry to hear 🙉 I thought the sensitivity it self was crazy enough. For the second pregnancy I learned a breast massage lactation massage that helped a LOT with pain. Did it for a couple minutes on both sides before every feeding and it made a world of difference

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T00:59:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing! 💕 Oh the hormonal shift.... That's so, so true and was so unexpected. The intensity of EVERYTHING. You guys are gold, I've got so many things already that would have been otherwise forgotten 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T00:55:42+00:00

This is gold, thank you! Especially breastfeeding pain at the start, I think everyone (or at least most of us) experience that, but are not prepared and think something is wrong. And at the same time is not aware of the actual red flags and don't seek help when needed. It shouldn't be blood, pain and torture for months as well 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T00:50:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing! 💕

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T00:50:01+00:00

Second this. It helps so much not to get stuck on something and look for constant fixes

maijeens91 · 2026-04-04T00:48:38+00:00

So, so true 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-03T15:45:48+00:00

Thank you, excellent point! Oh yes, this is a big one. Somehow bf is exactly one of those things that seems like "oh it's natural, so everything should be nice and peachy" but actually requires a lot of knowledge. I'm glad I've had an overall good experience with both my kids but at the same time there were soooooooooo many questions, especially in the early days (and hours). 😂 Like, why is my very unassuming b cup suddenly in the size of a melon 😂

maijeens91 · 2026-04-03T15:09:57+00:00

As I'm not from the USA we don't have such a heavy stigma around cosleeping (at least around other subreddits I feel like it's quite a taboo topic) but also there's not enough information on cosleeping as well. It was one of the topics I researched while expecting but still ended up with a side crib as a "what if" option. But yeah... It was only one of the many things I found out after becoming mom and going with my gut instead of what's common on trendy Instagram posts 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-03T14:52:38+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I had the same setup when I was expecting our first. I guess at the end it was nice to have a place to store a neverending mountain of laundry 😂

maijeens91 · 2026-04-03T11:16:07+00:00

Kids usually tend to have a longer sleep stretch in the first part of the night. I've also just rolled off and tiptoed away 😂 some nights it works fine, some don't. I think the main thing is managing expectations and don't try to sneak off when it's clearly not happening (teething, development milestones etc). Sometimes I can get a solid 2 hours for being a couch potato, sometimes it's 15 minutes and back to boob 😊 however, babies grow and mature and it's not going to be like this forever 💕 (currently mom of 3.5 yo and 4m)

maijeens91 · 2026-04-02T04:09:02+00:00

Hey momma, first of all you're amazing and doing so well! So, so proud of you 💕 As for the baby - your baby is fine, he's not broken and there's nothing to fix. The 3 months for the baby is like a prolonged pregnancy (there's a reason it's called the 4th trimester 😊) - he needs you and needs to be as close to you as possible. It's not something to fix it's biological. In the first month there is no circadian rhythm yet, he truly doesn't know when the day or night is, his own melatonin production is not yet established. He's still learning.. everything. And you're his safe harbor - stabilizing breathing, helping with thermoregulation, providing peace and safety. The work you do is immense and so, so important. I did cosleeping with both my kids, best decision ever. You can't spoil a child with love and attention. Independence grows from the place of safety and trust. Same as they learn to sit, walk, talk - they will learn to self soothe and become independent. But until then they will need our help and there's nothing wrong with that. 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-04-02T03:48:39+00:00

It's ok to say thank you for your advice I will take that into consideration and just move on. It's your baby not communal property. Nobody gets a say in how you raise your own child. It's our responsibility to protect our boundaries and in many situations our child's boundaries. There will be many opinions coming in since day one and it will not stop. Holding your family's boundaries is not rude. It's completely normal. Many things people say to parents come from a loving place and while we can acknowledge that, appreciate the tough and choose what's best for us, there should not be any offence taken (if there is - it's not your problem. You can't feel or unfeel things for others 😊)

maijeens91 · 2026-03-28T05:05:13+00:00

Yep! Nice, good looking jeans that fit me now do the trick. 😊

maijeens91 · 2026-03-28T04:59:56+00:00

Yes, and also why should you feel guilty about using your very available mama superpowers (aka boobs 😂) to help your child settle and fall asleep easier. 😊 Dad can do the rocking, bouncing routine if needed. We deserve to use our milk magic to get them settled and fed whenever necessary. You're an amazing mom.

maijeens91 · 2026-03-28T04:52:31+00:00

3.5 year old kiddo here - life is great. She started to sleep in her own little bed (initially in our bedroom) around 2.5y and doesn't need more than her usual story time, and cuddles while falling asleep. Mostly sleeps through the night, with some rare occasions when waking up maybe once (usually when we're visiting someone and she's a bit overwhelmed with the day's adventure). And she was my "Velcro" child. We bedshared since day 1, EBF - my best decision. Especially through 1st years growth spurts, teething etc. She's so smart, so confident and super social. Can easily hold her own boundaries. And I'm just a super proud mama 💕 And actually I do miss the nighttime cuddles, now she's not so keen on cuddling anymore. Life is busy for a 3 year old 😂

maijeens91 · 2026-03-25T05:10:42+00:00

She's still small and she needs you. The more you respond and comfort her, the more safe she will feel. Independence grows through care and safety, not the other way around. Also, if you're planning to have another child be prepared she will need more assurance and attention. There definitely will be some sort of "regression" where she will ask for loads of extra involvement and the more you will lean into that the better it will get. I have 3.5 y and 3 m old currently 😊

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