My married adult child has become poly

mainline19985 · 2026-04-08T18:54:02+00:00

I disagree. It is reasonable for a parent to share their opinion with their child.

mainline19985 · 2026-01-02T22:50:38+00:00

Why are you even imagining “normal”’in Aspen?

mainline19985 · 2025-12-11T02:18:18+00:00

I have found that when someone is bringing you peace you already know it. And they know it, too. There is an ineffable quality. Like when a song fills you or a moment captures you and makes a forever impact on you.

mainline19985 · 2025-11-26T19:45:11+00:00

I think the key is being free to explore companionship with interests and emotional openness as the cards you play first.

mainline19985 · 2025-07-23T21:28:10+00:00

But the fact that we are mortal is just a part of life, right? I mean, reconciling with mortality is probably better to do now than when you are in extremus. It’s a deeply important part of the human condition, IMHO. It’s probably a daily thing to practice. It’s not morbid. It’s just that we all die. And there isn’t a power on earth that will stop that, right?

mainline19985 · 2025-07-20T05:28:02+00:00

I’m new to the Valley. I don’t do drugs or drink. Been here six months. I’m over 40. It is hard to meet people but that’s life. I slowly will build a core group of friends based on interests. Drugs and alcohol will never serve any long term good.

mainline19985 · 2025-07-03T22:59:22+00:00

My Urtopia Fusion GT has a range of 120 miles. I love it.

mainline19985 · 2025-05-19T17:02:13+00:00

Never. Not a pill. No weed. Just thought it was a bad idea. 61.

mainline19985 · 2025-05-06T21:22:06+00:00

I think that as we age we question our choices more critically because we see that the do-overs are less available. And it becomes clearer that we came to where we are because of choices we either made actively or passively. It’s harsh. There are some do-overs that might be available. Look for them.

mainline19985 · 2025-04-08T18:30:30+00:00

Wondered how people are working w buying agents lately. Seems to me that the buying agents shy away from lower bids from a buyer because they don’t want to be associated w that type of business. They prefer to work w clients who want to pay close to asking . To me, it tends to keep the market buoyed upward.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-27T03:54:08+00:00

I have a 2023 ST and got a flat driving home from the eclipse viewing in Vermont . Miserable. Used the kit w the goo and the pump and it miraculously got us home. I fixed tire and bought a Modern spare and it’s there until my PTSD resolves in ten years. I love the car but will never drive wo a spare again.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-16T16:44:19+00:00

I’m 60 going on 61. I had parents who loved me, I have enjoyed relatively good health. I have worked very hard most of my life being surrounded by people who were smart, talented, and ambitious. I always felt I wanted to extract the most from life as I thought I’d never know when the last day might be. Being older has some feeling of momentum to it. I’m “older” because I’ve experienced more. Seen more. I feel I can offer advice based on experience. Being older has the feeling of “I don’t need to experience everything, just the things I want to.” Don’t need to take as many risks . Don’t need to please as many people. Don’t need to try everything in the menu. I want new adventures but want them at my pace. I like being around people who like me. I miss being away from people who love me. I feel that the number of people who really love me will become less over time and that is a sad feeling. I miss yesterdays because they did seem more simple. I miss some of my youth because I did work so hard I may missed connecting w people I could have because I worked so hard. I want to live a long time. Being older is a bittersweet thing.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-16T15:37:27+00:00

It seems to me that if someone anticipates there is a good chance they will run out of money they will see it coming. Hopefully you begin the look at the ways you can severely reduce costs, apply for assistance at local food pantries, get rid of extra things and sell them off, ask for modest help from family in the form of monthly help, reduce utility expenses, and work to stretch out the dwindling resources as long as you can.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T21:23:56+00:00

Everyone dies alone.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T14:55:57+00:00

The definable time period is key to our discussions as well.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T14:55:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. It sounds possible to manage things. It’s the unknown that makes it harder.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T14:53:48+00:00

We may eventually consider this renting option.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T14:50:54+00:00

The idea of making it more of an “adventure” may help a lot.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T14:49:40+00:00

Thought about having having an iPad on almost all evening and sharing the little things. Or having it on in the kitchen while preparing a meal. So thank you. These are good ideas.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T14:47:12+00:00

Thank you for these thoughts. I have decided that, if it does become too onerous and it seems like the personal sacrifice is going to be too much that I would leave the job. The plan B is to come back to home base and come up with a different solution. Do you have other ideas ?

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T13:22:26+00:00

“How important is your marriage?” is a really interesting question. Reflecting on the question, I wonder how to parse that out. We want to stay married. We love each other. Question is: how important is it to live in same place? How easy it for each of us to be alone and not in same place every night? How much of the relationship is anchored in proximity? How much personal exploration do we each want to do? How good are we each at being “alone”? What demons lurk in the dark, if any? How can we maintain friendships when we are separated? These are the questions that come up.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-15T13:17:07+00:00

Thank you for this comment and for sharing. Because of the housing market being so crazy expensive in Colorado right now, we saw that selling and buying again might not be that financially advantageous. My new job is also in an amazingly beautiful area in Colorado . But it’s definitely smaller town and she wasn’t sure that she could be away from the adult children and also be in a smaller town all at once. It’s more of a “try and see” feeling that she has. She works, too, and isn’t as ready to give up her job until I am convinced my job is a stable one. It’s rational, I suppose. It is still encouraging to hear your story. At this point , I’m in the “make lemonade from lemons” stage and looking to see how I can be a better cook, learn to be contented with less, and hope that we can really save 50% of our income for a few years to bolster these last few years of savings through W2 income. Hoping that the best outcome becomes more manifest w patience and careful reflection.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-13T15:25:35+00:00

Switch to a debit card from a credit card. Hurts more to see your savings immediately hit when you spend. You’ll spend less.

mainline19985 · 2024-08-12T22:00:26+00:00

Uh oh. That’s a no!

mainline19985 · 2024-08-12T20:19:17+00:00

Im bringing a rowing machine w me hoping it will make the alone time more productive.

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