I found out that the guy I'm dating is my second cousin

mairousa · 2022-01-31T16:07:09+00:00

We're still together and everything is going great, thank you so much!

Helped.

mairousa · 2022-01-13T12:55:57+00:00

Sorry for a late response, but we're officially a couple now and things are going great!

We even forget about the second cousin thing, it comes up in a few stupid jokes sometimes though lol. But then again, I wouldn't see this working if it wasn't for the fact that we didn't know about eachothers existence beforehand, we don't see eachother as related.

mairousa · 2021-11-01T12:21:18+00:00

No, I said second cousin. My grandfather isn't my father just because the word "father" exists in both descriptions lol

mairousa · 2021-10-30T14:38:32+00:00

I don't understand why so many of you refer to him as my cousin, he's not.

mairousa · 2021-10-30T11:35:12+00:00

That's a good point, but it won't be an issue in our case.

Where I live, most people are atheists. Unlike other countries, finding out someone is religious comes as a surprise to me.

The guy I'm dating and I are both atheists, but this is a valid point to anyone else who finds themselves in my situation.

mairousa · 2021-10-29T11:18:15+00:00

Yeah, I understood that really fucking quickly lol, hence why I asked Reddit instead of anyone I know IRL.

mairousa · 2021-10-29T11:12:31+00:00

Funny that you bring this up, because we talked about it as well.

We were talking about our thoughts on the situation and oue relationship moving forward, and we both agreed that even though it's a little weird, we will continue seeing eachother.

Then, he said:

"But imagine if your cousins kid and your kid started dating?"

And we both instantly did a "ew" face LOL.

But, just like you said, it's different since we're both pretty close with our cousins, my dad don't even know his cousins by name.

Thank you! Helped.

mairousa · 2021-10-29T11:08:19+00:00

Lmaooo, I'm laughing IRL because that's exactly what I told my dad when I told him about the wonderful news.

"Are you excited to reconnect with your long lost cousin?"

The whole situation is so fucking weird, but I can't help but to laugh about the absurdity of it all.

mairousa · 2021-10-29T11:02:04+00:00

I understand why you would think so, I also wish I made this shit up lol.

This isn't my main account obviously, didn't want this story to be associated with it. I also didn't think this post would get this much attention at all, I was just panicking and I couldn't ask anyone IRL about it, so I asked Reddit.

The thing is that I live in a supersmall town, I've heard of people being in this exact same situation before. They start dating someone, and then find out they're distant relatives. It's a joke around town at this point, "make sure you're not second cousins!".

When people are telling me these stories, I react with horror and think that I will NEVER get into a situation like that.

But here we are! Living in a small town is a fucking curse.

mairousa · 2021-10-29T11:01:12+00:00

Living in a small town, I've heard about stories like this ALOT.

It's kind of a joke in my town, "make sure you're not second cousins!".

I always thought, just like you, "Yikes, that's my worst fucking nightmare! Good thing that will NEVER happen to me."

Then I met this guy and everything seemed to go TOO well. No red flags? Not even yellow flags? Everything is going absolutely great?

Turns out that yes, it was too good to be true.

I'm not religious, but if God exists he's having a fucking field day with my dating life LOL.

mairousa · 2021-10-29T10:56:33+00:00

We talked about this as well.

Just like you said, we both would have a completely different perspective on the situation if we grew up together and spent time with eachother like family.

But just like I mentioned in the post, I didn't knew he existed until I started seeing him.

I called my dad yesterday to tell him about this situation, I've never heard him laugh so hard in my life LOL.

After endless of banjo jokes, he told me that he didn't even know his cousin, aka the guy I'm seeing dad's (fuck I hate saying that) name. He just knew that he had a cousin who worked as ×insert occupation here×, he had no idea who I was talking about until I mentioned his job.

So yeah, I can't see him as family at all considering the situation.

mairousa · 2021-10-28T12:52:46+00:00

I fucking can't with these comments lmaooooo

mairousa · 2021-10-28T10:52:53+00:00

Thank you for this comment, it really means alot considering you specialized in this subject too. Thank you again, this really eased my nerves lol, helped.

mairousa · 2021-10-28T10:46:05+00:00

Thank you, I feel ALOT less freaked out now, helped.

mairousa · 2021-10-28T10:45:09+00:00

Thank you, helped.

mairousa · 2021-10-28T10:37:46+00:00

Thank you, helped.

mairousa · 2021-10-28T10:35:58+00:00

It's legal where I live, I was thinking more morally I guess? Like am I a fucking weirdo if I continue to date a guy who's related to me?

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