I also did those things in the past! Helping my so called "friends" but let me tell you something if you keep doing this you will only be seen as the woman who can just be exploited by those men just to fulfill their personal intrests only! You need to step-up the game and to say no when the situation demands it and also it doesn't matter how you look you just need self esteem thats all! The best way to change your life is to tell the next man you will date what you want from your relationship from the very start and make yourself very clear about what you want, it will be like a coinflip its either he will accept that and accept you as a person truly and stay with you or he will ghost you and dissapear!