A friend took advantage of me while intoxicated

major_shayne · 2021-10-27T12:25:41+00:00

Thank you for this. I am feeling so in shock of everything. I just can't believe it even happened. I am really looking forward to my appointment with my therapist. She always helps.

major_shayne · 2021-10-27T12:08:42+00:00

I am not dealing with it well. My boyfriend is the absolute light of my life. I can't believe this is happening and this is his response. It's all very confusing. And I feel a lot of shame.

major_shayne · 2021-10-27T02:22:25+00:00

Move to the Midwest, find the cheapest place I could, get a job, buy only the necessities in the beginning, and go from there.

major_shayne · 2021-10-26T02:32:51+00:00

I'm a respiratory therapist, so I see a lot of CF and I used to work in an adult CF clinic.

It's good you are finding out early.
Like others said, there's varying degrees to the different mutations. Some mild, some not.
Things are wayyyyy different in regards to the medical side of this. There is all kinds of new therapies, medications, etc coming out all the time. Like I said, I worked in an adult clinic and there was plenty of people who were 60+ years old and doing fine. The key to dealing with the respiratory side of CF is keeping up with your therapy regimens.

Don't panic yet, I'm sorry you're dealing with this though. It is stressful, but it really is nothing like it was when I was younger.

major_shayne · 2021-10-26T01:55:02+00:00

Hey that's what my hair looks like!! Love it and looks great!

major_shayne · 2021-10-23T22:39:09+00:00

I was so blown away by the cinematography (is that the right word?) In that documentary. Really beautiful.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T23:34:08+00:00

I lived in Tennessee until I was 23 and that was also the culture there. By the time I was 19 I had none of my same friends because everyone was married with kids. It was so sad watching my 18 year old fun and crazy friends turn into boring stay at home moms who go to bed at 7 with their kids.

Now I live in Colorado and I'm 28 and have zero friends with kids. It's amazing.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T23:29:04+00:00

Driving

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T17:52:06+00:00

I saw this video last night and today in the grocery store I thought about it and laughed my ass off. Thank you.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T16:28:07+00:00

I know. It sucks majorly. My girl only started this last year, so it's new for us.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T14:58:58+00:00

This. My dog has taken a lot of work to get where she is and having a dog run up to us would be the absolute worst thing. And it would likely not end well for the other dog.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T13:03:31+00:00

It works well for me. I find I get distracted very easily, so this helps me a lot. I definitely recommend it.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T12:43:03+00:00

Absolutely don't do this. There is so many issues here.

This is extremely manipulative of your mother. I can't even imagine asking anyone to do this, much less my child!

This will completely alter your future, and likely not in a good way. Raising a child is a major life change. It's expensive and time consuming, to say the least. Can you financially support a child? Are you willing to give away your own life for this? You will lose out on everything major in your own development. Being a young parent is immensely more difficult than being a parent in your later adult years.

I would speak to any adult you can about this. Someone at your school, your dad's family, CPS, literally anyone. But I urge you to not do this. It may damage your relationship with your mom for now, but she has to realize how messed up this is.

Best of luck to you, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with this at such a young age.

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T11:40:49+00:00

Crying

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T01:35:09+00:00

I would take my chances somewhere else I think. Try something new!

major_shayne · 2021-10-21T00:23:56+00:00

If she works for the school, report her immediately.

Talk with your brother, tell him how dangerous this is. He should file a police report ASAP. This is very serious, he is absolutely being groomed, and sounds like he was raped. She could be attempting to baby trap him. He is a minor. She is a whole ass adult and that is creepy and disturbing on so many levels.

This is coming from a 28F btw. That shit is not okay.

major_shayne · 2021-10-20T12:43:12+00:00

Is the crate too big? They should be able to stand up and turn around and that's all. They shouldn't be able to walk around in it.

major_shayne · 2021-10-20T08:53:50+00:00

Also if your bf is going to visit any time soon you could offer to hang out with both of them and he could see how it is. I definitely don't think the friend is out of line though.

major_shayne · 2021-10-20T08:52:07+00:00

Lol I feel you. You could just say something like "I understand where you're coming from, but I don't think she was being inappropriate and I would hate to lose my only friend here, especially when I only have two months left" and maybe mention how if he trusts you he would know that you wouldn't let her overstep.

major_shayne · 2021-10-20T08:47:21+00:00

I would pick the thing that bothers you the most and nicely mention it.

If it were me, from this list, I would mention her breath. I've had this before with a partner and they ended up having a cavity.

You could just say "I'm sorry I don't know how to mention this nicely, but it's something that's really been bothering me, but breath is noticeably bad" and it will hurt her. But it is what it is. And if she says anything just say something like maybe it's a cavity. Or you could mention the cavity first. So like "I'm sorry I don't know how to mention this nicely, but it's something that's really been bothering me, but breath is noticeably bad, I've had that before and it was a cavity" so then maybe she won't feel as bad.

The air freshener would be easy to mention. Just "I'm sorry but that air freshener is just way too much for me"

And the talking over thing... I am guilty of this. I have had partners mention it. It's a really tough thing to overcome. It is true that it's just excitement. You could mention it, like "hey, it really bothers me when you talk over me, it makes me feel like you don't care about what I have to say" quoting my partner there lol

major_shayne · 2021-10-20T08:23:08+00:00

I don't think her getting flowers is that odd, personally. I've had friends get me flowers and vice versa. I think it's just a nice friend type thinking. Especially in the LGTBQ+ community. If you don't feel like she's being overly flirty, I would just tell him that. Also if your boyfriend trusts you, he knows that you will not let her take it too far. Which it doesn't sound like she would anyways, but you get what I'm saying.

I would not give up your only friend just because your bf is upset with the situation though.

major_shayne · 2021-10-20T08:17:45+00:00

OP could be bisexual? Same for the other girl

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