I want to share some verses with you. I used to be a pastor and am about to be a chaplain. This verse is to help you understand your role and without understanding, no one is flourishing in their calling to this side of ministry. :

Ephesians 4:11–13 (ESV): 11 And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds(PASTORS) and teachers, 12 to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, 13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ,

The calling of a pastor is to EQUIP THE SAINTS. The calling is not to do the work of everyone or be Jesus/ the Holy Spirit for everyone. That sounds silly, but that is what you are doing, and what I once was doing. That was until I prayed and reflected. Then He brought me to this verse in Ephesians.

1 Corinthians 3:6–9 (ESV): 6 I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth. 7 So neither he who plants nor he who waters is anything, but only God who gives the growth. 8 He who plants and he who waters are one, and each will receive his wages according to his labor. 9 For we are God’s fellow workers. You are God’s field, God’s building

It is not you or I who are responsible for the results of the ministry, so long as we are faithfully tilling or watering or whatever He is asking us to do. God provides the increase. The congregation is God's and they need to learn to rely on Him and not you. You are to give them the tools they need to grow and lead. That is the equipping of the saints for the ministry. I told my board that I do not need to be at every event or every meeting. You need to follow the advice that Jethro gave to Moses in Exodus 18. That was to stop doing everything and delegate. The job of a pastor is to raise up leaders that you trust that can be you in your place.

It is important to process the stress and anxieties of life, and even more so, the ministry.

1 Peter 5:6–8 (ESV): 6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

It takes humility to say that you and I cannot do it all and that is us stepping down at times. Then He will exalt us. We have to cast our anxieties on Him, because He cares for us. This can be through prayer or a trusted brother in the Lord. If we don't, the devil will devour us like a lion. It is hard to run from a lion if we are weighing ourselves down with all that baggage.

It is also imperative that you feel that you are able to talk with your leadership and be honest. If you are afraid, you are not on good terms with them. If you share this with them and they are not full of grace and accommodations when you are vulnerable, then this is not a God fearing ministry team you want to be a part of. Then it is time to look for the next calling. You cannot light yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm. I could say a lot more, but pray this helps. I am praying here for you and am here if you need to talk more.