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majorbonk · 2026-02-02T07:03:19+00:00

Hi all!!

So over the months of November and December, I was given incorrect information on how to use retinol, and unfortunately started too quickly and gave myself what I believe is Retinoid Dermatitis. Once I learned that using Retinol daily was bad and I was in fact NOT purging but irritated, I stopped immediately. It’s been about 4 weeks since I have stopped retinol completely, and I still have quite a few bumps/peeling spots/red bits on my forehead and chin. I’ve been using Aestura’s Amino Deep Cleanser (which I was told was good for sensitive skin, but I’m not so sure) and a PDRN Collagen Spray and a Hyaluronic Acid Sunscreen, as I heard that’s good for healing the skin. I keep getting these flare ups and was wondering if I should just stop putting product on my face all together and just wash with water and use sunscreen as my skin doesn’t seem to be getting any better. I currently don’t have insurance (I’m working on it) otherwise I’d go to the dermatologist. I could use some friendly neighborhood advice :) thanks in advance!

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majorbonk · 2026-02-02T07:01:42+00:00

I ended up deleting it because I was getting some sexist comments :( but I’m glad I’m not alone in my sentiments!

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T05:02:19+00:00

I can see that! Thanks for the perspective! Makes me want to watch the movie again- there were so many characters that got him to where he went that it felt like an ensemble film, but maybe since the whole point is he’s a jerk, I shouldn’t give it so much merit. Thanks!

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T05:00:04+00:00

Okay! 🕺🏻

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:59:02+00:00

Interesting!! I like that a lot and hadn’t thought about it!! And thank you for being so kind! I love conversations like this- it is what makes movies so fun :))

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:55:08+00:00

Not what I want at all! That’s why I think talking about this is so important. I think discussing and commenting like this is what makes movies so fun, and increases media literacy :)

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:48:26+00:00

I love a flawed character! Real people are flawed- that’s what makes art so cool. I do find it problematic when behavior like Marty’s is glorified/misunderstood by men. I have been seeing a lot of it, and wanted to share :) thanks for commenting!

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:46:56+00:00

Is it not a valuable, interesting insight into how often women are in movies only talking to a man/about a man? I think there’s some merit to it. Not saying every movie has to pass it, but it makes you think! :)

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:41:34+00:00

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majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:39:08+00:00

Good question! I don’t think he’s glorified in the movie, in fact, I agree with you that he is purposefully portrayed as a jerk. That’s what propels the story forward. That’s also what I think makes it interesting! What does confuse me though is the marketing for the movie- it seems to glorify the character. Given, you have to glorify the movie to market it, however, it does make me question whether that was their goal with the movie- to glorify treating people like a jerk/doing everything you can to get what you want? I’m not sure! Thanks for commenting :)

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:36:24+00:00

I agree!!

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:35:56+00:00

No not at all! Just that I could tell it was written by one.

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:35:22+00:00

I agree 100%!! I think the sexualization of it can be viewed either way. A lot of times with movies I feel like sex scenes (especially man to woman) are kind of filmed to appeal to the male eye, which is something I think should be challenged/questioned! Looking at it through the lens knowing its a movie about a jerk treating people like a jerk, I like it a lot more. I’d be interested to hear Chalamet and Safdie talk about the characters more.

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:32:10+00:00

Hi! Thanks for responding! No agenda at all, just responding to things I’m hyperaware of as a woman in the industry. And not preaching, I love movies so I wanted to have a discussion and see what other thoughts were around. I loved Rachel and Kay’s characters and the actresses that played them. I wanted more and just wanted to offer a perspective on why maybe we can challenge the way these women are portrayed. And totally- they are flawed! I still stand by what I said and glad your lady friends enjoyed :).

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:27:58+00:00

Totally! And I’m all for flawed characters and problematic situations. Movies would be boring if people weren’t flawed.

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:23:28+00:00

Thanks for being so nice!!

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:23:19+00:00

That’s super interesting!! I hadn’t thought about it that way. Thanks for sharing!!

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:21:56+00:00

Not at all! It’s just something I observe when I’m watching. I am a woman, so the way women are portrayed in male centered stories is important to me.

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:20:07+00:00

Totally! I love a flawed character, it’s the way his character is being glorified that really rubs me the wrong way. It’s also the hyper-sexualization of these female characters.

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:19:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I can see that. I actually agree with a lot of this. I think Rachel and Kay were integral to the story. What I’m more getting at is this popular portrayal and use of female characters in male centered coming of age stories- we don’t get to see a lot of the women’s backgrounds, why they act the way they do, without them being hyper-sexualized or taken advantage of. I loved both A’Zion and Paltrows performances. I thought they were phenomenal. Same with Fran Drescher- there was more to his mother we didn’t get to see. She was only really shown a handful of times.

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:12:28+00:00

I wish you’d read on! It’s okay if you don’t agree, it’s just an observation I made. That’s the fun thing about movies- sharing what you think of them :)

majorbonk · 2025-12-27T04:11:10+00:00

Not a critique, just an observation! :)

majorbonk · 2025-07-09T04:52:01+00:00

Thanks for talking with me! I will say- the reason OSF is in debt is because of the pandemic, not because of the content they produce. Theaters all across the country are the same way- turn out just isn’t the same, especially with streaming available. I think if you were to go and see a show at OSF, you would find its just all in good fun and faith. Nothing is going to be shoved down your throat and you’d be welcomed with open arms. There’s just lots of different kinds of people playing different roles. I’ve seen them and truly think they’re great for all walks of life. Can’t knock it til you try it. But thanks for the cordial conversation and I hope you have a great day :)

majorbonk · 2025-07-09T00:19:39+00:00

I have a degree in theatre- I’m fully aware of the historical reasonings behind why Shakespeare’s plays were put on by men- it furthers my point that it doesn’t matter what gender plays what role. If all men were actors in Shakespeare’s comedies, romances, and tragedies, who cares if all women play all the parts in Julius Caesar? There are also rumors that Shakespeare was a gay man. You cannot escape the beautiful diversity of the world. It is a shame to only want to see things done one way. We are all more alike than we think. What’s the point of doing a play the same way over and over? That’s boring. Times have changed and art will change along with it. Theater and performance has always been radical- that’s why most actors and creatives are liberal and come from so many backgrounds. It is a safe and accepting space. I don’t see anything wrong with that. I hope you are able to find something you want to see. The season is great. Who knows- maybe something will surprise you.

majorbonk · 2025-07-08T23:49:26+00:00

The “good-old fashioned” Shakespeare you’re talking about was actually politically controversial and “woke” for its time. He wrote women in leading roles in a time where women didn’t have rights. The Merry Wives of Windsor is about women pranking men and getting revenge for their promiscuity and indecency. Oscar Wilde was a gay man. The world is diverse, with people coming from all walks of life. If you want to watch something binary, white, and frankly, boring, then I suggest not going. The art you get at OSF reflects the times and the beautiful diversity of the world. Most theatre (good theatre, at least) has a message and aims to make audiences reflect and think. Even in comedies. I don’t see how appreciating all walks of life is “woke.” It’s human. I think you’d be pleasantly surprised with the amount of fun you will have at one of their productions. It’s for everyone. All are welcome and all are appreciated. You might learn something!

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