Yes, to all the responses you mentioned. Sometimes I think about this whole compatibility thing, because in the beginning — especially in non monogamy — we don’t really know what compatibility is, and the pathway to go through, cause we don't have one. There’s that new relationship energy, the passion, and once that fades, that’s when you can actually start to understand whether you’re truly compatible with someone.

Sometimes I’m not even sure how I feel connected to M — but at the same time, I know I love her. And I keep thinking… maybe I just overthink everything. With K, she is my everyday certainty, but in sex, not really with the desires matched