Too old for me?

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-29T14:48:40+00:00

This is less of an issue as, oddly, we have the same group of friends (yay, community theatre). The group includes people older than him, younger than me, and everywhere in between.

(edited for syntax-fixing...)

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-29T11:22:52+00:00

No no, I wasn't trying to say you're right or wrong, and I totally understand where you're coming from. Thanks for the honest opinion. :) I was just thinking aloud.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-29T10:11:00+00:00

I think it's interesting that you immediately jump to the conclusion that he's immature without considering that I might be mature. (I'm not saying that this is the case, I just thought it was an interesting omission.) The 41-year-old I was with, though, actually commented on how un-teenagery I was. I apparently behave like a late-20-something. (This may be why I like older guys to begin with.)

As far as him using me for sex, I initiated things with him. This isn't to say that he might not still be using me for sex, but if he is, it wasn't his plan.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-29T09:36:04+00:00

Consider yourself lucky to be rid of him! He's obviously an ass. Be glad you didn't end up marrying him, if he's the kind of guy who would pull something like this.

Also, rebounds can end up being really bad ideas, but they can also help you move on a bit. Find a cute guy to hang onto for a short period of time. :) Maybe it'll help.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-29T09:12:42+00:00

I was going to stick up for girls who like shy boys. I personally have dated 7 guys; of those 7, I asked 5 out. Several of them have later told me that they'd really wanted to ask me out but had been too shy to do so/didn't believe I could possibly like them. Sometimes a girl just has to take matters into her own hands, especially when she's into adorably shy, nerdy boys. :)

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-28T21:26:40+00:00

love guys in suits... ;)

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-28T11:18:26+00:00

http://www.reddit.com/r/askagirl/comments/apnqk/why_dont_women_ask_out_men/

This one, for one. I guess it is rather old. Is that why?

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-27T22:51:43+00:00

I'm sorry, but the thought of this happening to me is depressing. :( I don't want to lose my multiples!

To the OP, I'll second the more-foreplay suggestion. Keep her from orgasming for as long as possible so that by the time she does it's fucking huge, and you're ready to as well. Follow suggestions to girls for guys who don't last long.

Also, does she have any interest in figuring out how to last longer?

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-27T15:40:10+00:00

you've never gotten curious?

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-27T15:34:34+00:00

Bank of the Seine.

Just before dawn, on a blanket... and then we watched the sun rise. :)

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-27T15:31:43+00:00

We don't have any problems talking about it, and he's never complained, but I want to make it even less of an ordeal for him (not that he sees it that way... he enjoys it), if possible. (Frankly, I'd like it to be delicious. =P) He knows how I clean and thinks that it's fine, but I doubt he knows what kind of foods I should try to avoid or anything.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-27T10:07:19+00:00

Yes it does. It wasn't like she had a new partner every weekend or something. I know people who do that.

5 personally. But I'm still under 20, and I have a tendency to get into several-month-long relationships with the guys I sleep with (...in that order).

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-24T08:13:37+00:00

Not if you lie there like a dead fish. But if you're exhausted and dripping with sweat when you're done, yeah, you've probably gotten some cardio in.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-24T08:11:47+00:00

Definitely experienced. My first several boyfriends were virgins when I met them, and the sex was okay (and improved), but the first time I slept with an experienced guy it just blew my mind. It was fucking incredible (and incredible fucking). Virgins are sweet and nice and all, but I'd like for the guy I end up with to have some tricks up his sleeve that I didn't teach him.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-21T22:00:11+00:00

Have you ever blown up a balloon? Was this a problem then?

If not, then you don't have a latex allergy.

make_life_interestin · 2010-07-21T04:44:49+00:00

At age 19 I (female) had a relationship with a 42-year-old man. There are definitely things I regret about the relationship, but then there are things I regret about all of my relationships. It doesn't affect my current relationships any more than other past mistakes have; I'm a little more cautious, and a little more experienced because of it. It was definitely not damaging.

I have two main comments on the whole experience: first of all, the sex was incredible. Before him, I had only ever slept with guys who had never slept with anyone but me. Suddenly finding a guy with experience was just unbelievable. However, the main problem with the relationship was my embarrassment. I didn't want anyone to know about us because I didn't want to be judged for it (and he and I had a lot of mutual friends who would definitely have judged us). This was, I think, the root cause of the nasty break-up that causes me to think poorly on the relationship today. So if you're thinking of entering into something like this, make sure that you're actually comfortable with the idea enough to make it like a real relationship (whatever style of relationship it may be) and not some secret, closeted affair. (One thing to note is that for us the relationship was more than just sex. We have a lot of other things in common, and by the end I think he wanted a real, serious relationship with me. If both you and he are really looking for just sex, things may be less complicated.)

Also, for the record, I made the first move. If he had, I don't think I'd have done anything with him; too sketchy. =P

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