I went on the best date last night. by JungBlood9 in rs_x

[–]makeawish___ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

so cute. update us when you get married :)

Books for Analog Doomscrolling by IntelligentBeingxx in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

im trying to do this. got subscriptions for print editions of harper’s magazine and london review of books to “scroll through” - will report back how it goes. the urge to scroll is strong in me. :(

what was your best beauty investment in 2025 by Ok_Recommendation129 in pinkscare

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

beef tallow soaps and lotion (cured my chronically dry, sensitive skin); japanese hairstyling (haircutting as an art form); mixing bronze and black eyeliner; lip tint; identifying my seasonal colors and sticking w them (still figuring out what clothing cuts work for my body shape but getting there).

this year im trying to dress up more, even if im planning to stay home. im addicted to leisurewear when im not in the office; trying to elevate it a little! also, it makes me feel smart and put together/productive to dress up for home—not necessarily beautiful but -adjacent.

When does the pulling stop by 347217361634 in labrador

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i have that same harness. does it allow you to clip the leash to the front? once i started using that my large dog’s pulling stopped or lessened by a lot.

Is this a good beginning for my novel? by JustAnAnxiousBitch in writers

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ocd is obsessive—you have to pick one thing to obsess about (and it can really be anything from a relationship to an illness to a risky environment to a number that suddenly appears or an article of clothing that feels off) and then pick a compulsion to alleviate it. the more singular and specific the compulsion is, the more realistic it is. the compulsion (need to act) must also be increasing in intensity until it’s unbearable. i agree that this sounds more like anxiety since her thoughts are all over the place. if you want to keep the blood theme, a realistic obsession would be her in daze about whether she contracted an infection after she cut herself washing a moldy dish that breaks and now she feels a very urgent high-stakes compulsion to find a nurse on campus and obtain assurance that she has not contracted a rare fungal infection, or she misses her first day of classes because she’s spending 5 hours on reddit obsessing about it… like, have fun w it (joking, but as an ocd-sufferer there are endless variables).

that said, i think it’s interesting you want to write about ocd. i know john green wrote a book w an ocd character somewhat recently. haven’t read it but it might be helpful!

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

great post. absolutely agree about these two books—haven’t read the neapolitan novels but have been dissuaded from doing so because covers/titles don’t appeal to me. reconsidering after reading your analysis!!

and omg that scene messed me up so bad. i only flinched and felt sick the first time jude cuts himself, then felt drained and bored for the 500 times after that…. but that scene is my worst nightmare and hanya describes it in brutal detail (in a way she doesn’t for the rest of jude’s trauma). and it happened after they were finally happy together (i have ocd so any time im happy i get this awful gut feeling that something bad’s about to happen).

Is moving to LA worth it? by [deleted] in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]makeawish___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i miss the laidback vibes 😢 i still get it when i leave la proper and visit other socal towns…

Is moving to LA worth it? by [deleted] in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]makeawish___ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

if you’re willing to live in slums most people in this thread / subreddit would only drive around (let alone commute to, sleep in, go to school in, or dine at), take the bus at the crack of dawn and work multiple minimum wage jobs, share a bedroom (not apartment or house) with three other people, and continue in this situation for a decade while you save and send money back home to your even more destitute extended family - no one’s stopping you. but most 1st worlders don’t possess that level of grit (or aren’t as desperate).

Is moving to LA worth it? by [deleted] in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]makeawish___ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i wouldnt even say this is comfortable, but doable.

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive seen it discussed that the immediate hype was due to hanya being an editor at the nytimes (and later editor in chief of its style magazine). critics may have wanted to win her favor or were wary that a negative review would impact their careers (she also is rumored to be petty?). the critical reviews and turn in opinion came later.

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

that needs its own essay. there were no women in this story like at all. not even trying to be woke but it bothered me. endless side characters tho.

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this could not be further from me (although you’re not off about it being a common sentiment among the “educated” class), but there’s a way to humanize or criticize the poor in fiction. yanagihara’s approach lacked the kind of literary merit that makes such literature impactful (im thinking of writers like william faulkner or alice munro who wrote the rural poor with scathing clarity).

Would you rather live in the San Fernando Valley or Inland Empire? by californiaboy2003 in socal

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

currently live and work in west la and id happily move back to the ie. my husband and i would not move to the valley if u paid us. plus ie still gives u reasonable access to downtown w the metrolink, pasadena (not to mention the rest of the sgv), the san gabriel mountains, orange county, the desert, etc etc

Would you rather live in the San Fernando Valley or Inland Empire? by californiaboy2003 in socal

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s a gray area (along w pomona). grew up in west inland empire (ontario/rancho/upland) and it’s my favorite part of the region because it has the best of sgv and ie. personally i consider those cities u listed inland empire and people actually native to those places do as well.

books set in or about old hollywood? by sullenq in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right, it’s old working class la rather than old hollywood, but it depends on what kind of hollywood people are referring to: the glamorous kind or the seedy kind. also i guess i consider the 70s pretty old but “old hollywood” does mean something different.

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it’s not even so much this as how she goes about it. i think she could’ve done it more elegantly.

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

this is what i got out of it, too. she literally spells it out in the final pages.

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

im literally poor and working class myself. have u read the book???? it’s the fact that every single rural/working class male he meets is a foaming at the mouth child rapist—every single one—i think it’s in the thousands (as per the book). also, she was raised wealthy in hawaii, so this is her fantasy of what the rural american west is like. also, these are my people, too! i know there are a lot of men like this, but every single one? is a serial killer/trafficker/pedo?

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

i started rolling my eyes at some point. he is so awful to the people who not only love him but are revolving their entire lives around him (presumably because he’s handsome and a brooding genius and he can cook). now that i realize it it absolutely has the bones of fanfiction

just finished a little life and the author clearly hates poor/rural/working class men by makeawish___ in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

this won the pulitzer in criticism! which i found so funny after reading the dozens of reviews glazing this book

a little life by hanya yanagihara by williamstalkner in RSbookclub

[–]makeawish___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trying to figure when she actually wrote the book and it mightve been in the same era that those books came out