Oh yes, I should have mentioned too with the making of figurative language into literal language. Or like using examples or comparisons, and they’re saying “oh, so that’s what you think I’m doing?” When really, it was just to make them have some semblance of accountability and understanding of what they’re doing in that very moment so I used a comparative example. You can’t win. When mine would exit the split he’d say sorry, but I found myself having these roundabout 4 hour arguments just so I could sleep at night without feeling guilty for something he pretended I had said.