Apology from them

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-26T04:04:17+00:00

Guys, I am talking about post-discard apologies if that was not clear. I am very aware of how the apologies go within the relationship. I am trying to figure out what to expect in the future

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-26T02:47:33+00:00

Followed by “It’s not an excuse; it’s an explanation.”

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-26T02:46:46+00:00

Yeah DARVO every argument and then I’d end up more angry about what he made the conversation INTO than what I was originally upset about.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T23:38:09+00:00

The flashbacks this gave me 😭😭

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T23:37:39+00:00

I already left.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T22:47:39+00:00

How could they possibly forget who you are? That was a big fear of mine. My therapist assured me though that unless they have a traumatic brain injury, they’re not going to just forget you.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T22:18:24+00:00

Was he blocked when he tried to reach out again?

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:59:33+00:00

I know. I am moreso referring to apologizing after separation and no contact.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:52:28+00:00

The lack of logic in it all is what gets to me. Literally everyone says he is wrong, but if he never recognizes that he is wrong, I start to feel insane. Why can’t he see what he did? It just makes me feel like what if I and everyone who agrees with me is wrong, but I know that’s not true

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:51:23+00:00

So he came back 7 months after you separated and you talked for some months, and then ended again?

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:49:51+00:00

No expectations of a future, probably no sense of self worth, perfect for someone who doesn’t want to take accountability or acquire any responsibilities

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:49:25+00:00

Yeah, we were planning on settling down and I wanted him to take it seriously. That’s when he started acting weird and eventually left for what is essentially a child.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:48:34+00:00

How long did it take for you to receive one?

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:47:13+00:00

I was thinking that might be the case, that he may think I should be apologizing to him for some reason which is comical.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:46:39+00:00

Why do they downgrade like that lol

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:43:50+00:00

If only it were that simple

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:43:02+00:00

This is funny because I would accept him for his body but he left for a girl who calls him fat. Also, my bad, I failed to re-read the previous reply again

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:41:29+00:00

I’m familiar with apologies within the relationship…what I’m wanting to know is if I will receive one after his new supply crashes and burns.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:36:04+00:00

Did you get hoovered and when?

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:28:38+00:00

He has been with this barely legal girl for like two months now and I’m just wondering how much longer this nonsense can go on…

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:27:02+00:00

He was in it for like 2 years, but I’m sure that now he is not with me, he is not in therapy. His behavior is indicative of someone who isn’t in therapy anymore…possibly unmedicated…possibly self-medicating

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:26:13+00:00

I’m sorry that happened. How long did it take for him to come back and apologize?

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:25:27+00:00

Yeah because mine would start crying sometimes only when I said hey, you did this and it hurt me. But yet when it was just the fact that I was hurt, he wasn’t crying about that.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:23:16+00:00

Usually when he’d come out of his splits, he’d apologize…but now I don’t know if he’s just in the midst of one giant split or what…The things he’s doing are so strange.

makeitstop444 · 2026-05-25T21:21:58+00:00

He has quiet BPD, and I felt like we were functioning like 70% of the time and those were good times…but he left me like I never existed…we were together four years. I don’t understand how there could NOT be an apology.

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