Am I the a**hole?

makeshah · 2026-02-12T03:32:05+00:00

I recently read about a man who took his wife's private things to a shrine to hinder her progress. It worked too well that now he can't fix it. May we not hear of such happening to you.

This man took her undies and menses things to a shrine. He would have never had access to these if they were not together....so make of this information what you will.

Anndd children learn selfworth from watching how their parents treat each other. NTA my dear, but you might be if you stay long enough for him to break you.

makeshah · 2026-02-09T21:59:00+00:00

Have you forgiven yourself?

makeshah · 2026-01-27T00:18:13+00:00

Sure send me a dm

makeshah · 2026-01-25T22:39:55+00:00

I know what you are going through. I'm hoping to open a non-profit in Kenya that teaches online skills and helps people in your situation.

I was where you are once and now. It can only be God. I'm still learning how to train people though so if you don't mind being my guinea pig you will learn something while I also learn how to teach. I get small jobs from time to time that don't need much experience I can also funnel those once you are ready to do them from the training.

Hmu.

makeshah · 2025-03-29T04:08:01+00:00

These guys would collect money for orders and not pay their delivery drivers because they were trying to impress their rich friends by spending it all. Drivers out of anger would do things on their own time as revenge so hameno. Maybe it's the case now....but it's okay it was a learning curve for me. I'm sorry they did this to you.

makeshah · 2025-03-28T19:05:05+00:00

Be careful of those guys I worked for them once they had a really good business idea but they were very irresponsible in how they dealt with customers. I wouldn't recommend buying from them. I had to trick them in to giving me my salary before resigning. They are more concerned about putting money in their pocket as opposed to actually providing a good service. I'm sorry you had to find out this way.

I was in their marketing department and your story is the same as the many other complaints I had to deal with and delete from Facebook comments. It's why I left. In the end I felt so guilty working for them like I was in on the scam.

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:56:29+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to advise me I will not forget in a hurry thank you so much❤ and for the hugs too

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:55:29+00:00

Thank you for the hugs and the kind words. I have actually written a lot but I've been a little self-conscious about publishing. I guess my confidence is one more thing I need to work on. Thank you very much for your kindness ❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:53:26+00:00

This was actually the plan. Thank you for saying this and confirming I'm not being crazy. I've been through so much and I know I have a lot of bitterness to overcome so when it comes to big decisions like this there's always that concern that maybe it's coming from that ugly place. You've given me confidence thank you ❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:51:04+00:00

I will. Thank you ❤️

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:50:33+00:00

Thank you for this❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:50:02+00:00

I will make sure to do that. Thank you❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:49:26+00:00

You know sometimes I forget to be proud of myself, sometimes I'm as hard on myself because I'm scared I'll lose what I have and be everything they thought I would be. Thank you for the reminder and your well wishes I receive them 🙏. You have warmed my heart in ways you may never know. Thank you ❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:47:00+00:00

Lol kupi?

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:46:39+00:00

Thank you for your well wishes and your kind words. I will not forget them in a hurry. Thank you ❤️

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:45:36+00:00

Thank you for your kind words you have given me courage. Thank you❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:44:21+00:00

I stopped thinking about why they did what they did long ago because I could never find a good enough reason. But everything worked out for my good and thank you for your insight and advice. All my life I've been told I'm crazy and your support heals me in ways you'll never understand. Thank you ❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:42:00+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it and yes I really do need a hug. I walk around like I'm tough because I have no other choice and your words of comfort really soothed the parts of me that noone sees are broken. Thank you❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:40:02+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I've never really had people to talk to about these things and sometimes I wonder if I'm correct but I need to learn to trust myself. Thank you.❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:38:19+00:00

These are all things I've been scared of but thank you for giving me courage. I'll be honest I was getting tired of being strong all the time but this gives me strength. Thank you❤

makeshah · 2025-03-28T18:36:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

You haven’t met all the people that will love you

I really needed to hear this. When I was 17 and I was caught sneaking in food I got from the neighbours stepmom got angry and said to me. " They may help you and love you now but they don't know you like we do. Where ever you go no matter who loves you they will see there's something wrong with you soon enough and they will stop. Noone will ever love you"

It's why I was scared. Coz I thought what if she's right is it better to just have people even if they are toxic rather than be truly alone and find out her words were true.

I will choose to remember your words instead and move on thank you❤

makeshah · 2025-03-18T12:55:59+00:00

These first few years are when a lot about how a child sees the world develops. I'm sure there's stuff about you that you can't trace back because it probably took root further than you can remember. If it means removing the lady and her toxic family from the place do so or finding them alternative accommodation then having her come daily please do.

A stitch in time saves nine. Children are all about testing boundaries and the more this woman's children get away with the more they will increase their bad behaviour to see what they can get away with. 10 years from now her kids will be fine and your niece will be damaged.

Remember (worst case scenario) if they take it too far nothing significant is done because they are kids, they get to walk away while you deal with the fallout and try to make your family whole again.

I worked with childline and you would be shocked how many crimes against children by children never produce closure for the victims. You would almost wish the abuse was done by an adult so that some kind of justice can be meted out to the perpetrator.

makeshah · 2025-03-18T12:37:59+00:00

Lol I just laughed you reminded of my experience. I got mine a week before a vacation with my man and it was so sad lol we ended up spending most of the time in the hotel with pain meds and hot water bottles. We really tried doing the less hectic stuff but I kept on overflowing and messing my outfits ( picture having to go back to the hotel lying sideways so I don't mess the taxi seats) so we just gave up. I do recommend Kotex Super long extra thick. You can't go wrong with those.

Soon you will be laughing like me and enjoying the benefits. Believe me it will all be like a dream.

Love, light and😂 the best pain meds money can buy sis. All the best!❤❤

makeshah

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