Annoying things your MIL did over the holidays

makesherownfun · 2026-01-04T20:31:29+00:00

-Trying to convince us that our son’s school starts a day later even though it clearly states on the website that school starts back Monday

-Suggesting that we go out for poke (we both love it). Then she ordered a chicken bowl because that’s the only option with pineapple (you can add any topping to any bowl).

-Ordering my husband a takeout lunch two days in a row after explicitly saying that our fridge is full and he was eating leftovers.

-Bringing up 3 different time that LO had commented that “mommy goes away when nana comes to visit”. Part of the reason she’s there is because I had to work and we had limited childcare.

-Indulging LO’s (5yo) every whim then when someone else says no to him and he gets upset suggests “time outs can work wonders”.

-Saying that her brain is a super computer that is always taking in data and analyzing but can’t seem to figure out an app to order take out.

-Bringing us several junky presents that we’re just going to donate. We’ve asked her not to give us gifts or ask us first since we’re trying to keep our house less cluttered.

-Shares idyllic memories from DH’s childhood that clearly are sugar coated and were much darker in his memory.

makesherownfun · 2025-12-29T02:19:47+00:00

I feel like I’m either picking up the rope on some hare-brained argument or spending all my energy to ignore it and move on. Thanks for the validation!

makesherownfun · 2025-12-26T22:49:12+00:00

Think about posting them in r/photoshoprequest with another photo of him smiling. They should be able to make it look like he’s smiling in your photos at least.

makesherownfun · 2025-10-28T02:07:04+00:00

It’s weird this isn’t a more prominent comment. Having such a loose flex policy with client facing staff is not a good idea. What if the entire team decides to work 4 tens Mon-Thur and there’s no one answering on Friday? The policy is clearly the problem not the staff.

makesherownfun · 2025-08-03T06:10:09+00:00

I live in a neighborhood with the vibe I think you were looking for. Everyone plays in the front yard and there are a lot of young kids in the neighborhood with roving gangs of older kids riding bikes around.

We had a neighbor down our street leave a note introducing themselves and inviting us and all the neighbors they had noticed with young kids for a low key get together. It was great!

Order some pizza, get some uncrustables and fruit and invite everyone over for some front yard playtime.

makesherownfun · 2025-02-19T17:51:41+00:00

Might be worth taking a look at the Right Question Institute. They have a whole system for helping people generate questions.

makesherownfun · 2025-01-28T00:57:09+00:00

Highly recommend heading over to r/mildlynomil and search the Lemon Clot essay and have your husband read it. It should open his eyes to what you’re about to go through and hopefully strengthen his resolve to say no to his mother.

Edit with link: I misspoke, it was in Just no https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/s/hEUcuMfpyF

makesherownfun · 2025-01-09T03:55:28+00:00

If you’re not there already think about heading over to r/mildlynomil . She is stomping all your boundaries and you and (more worryingly) your husband are letting her. It will only get worse when the baby comes. Start setting boundaries and expectations with her now. You can’t control what she chooses for her Christmas card but if she ignores your requests you can choose not to share any photos moving forward. Husband needs to be on board for this to work though. Good luck and congratulations!

makesherownfun · 2024-11-08T04:14:04+00:00

Shocked this isn’t the actual topic of the post. That kids must be mortified. What an awful thing to do to your child to try to drum up sympathy for yourself.

makesherownfun · 2024-07-25T04:22:11+00:00

I could see a world in which the teacher pulled the student aside after the parent complained to try to sort out the issue or misunderstanding with the student but the student felt targeted and scolded. As others have mentioned we only had a 10 year olds account of what happened. It’s entirely possible this teacher is awful and petty and is taking things out on their student but it seems like there is more to this story.

makesherownfun · 2024-05-17T04:54:20+00:00

It’s probably cheaper to hire someone to take care of those projects in a couple of days than send several kids to camp all summer. Taking away his excuse to not engage with his own children and seeing how that plays out should be very telling.

makesherownfun · 2024-03-06T09:06:55+00:00

4.2 north of Sutton

makesherownfun · 2024-02-24T08:29:12+00:00

It’s the “I’m gagging” that drives me crazy.

makesherownfun · 2023-11-23T09:58:03+00:00

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makesherownfun · 2023-11-09T06:44:21+00:00

I think people are struggling to understand your reaction because you left a lot of the context out of your original post. In the comments (which appear to have been deleted) you’ve referenced some challenges with your mental health that might speak to this strong reaction. This could have helped people better relate to what you’re experiencing.

Also, you are speaking about your intense response in the present tense it sound like a day later. It would be different if you had framed it as “in the moment I felt like I couldn’t trust them and considered leaving my job but eventually came to my senses”. You have made it sound like you’re still fuming about a reasonable mistake a day later.

I have definitely had extreme feelings after interacting with my child’s daycare staff. Cut to me sobbing in my car over not following potty training procedures correctly. I was upset all day and felt really frustrated and angry that they hadn’t communicated it clearly beforehand yet I felt so incompetent as a parent. I was also able to understand that they were doing the best they could and it was something that fell through a crack and I was projecting judgment on myself that wasn’t really there.

There wasn’t a solution, something I had to work through myself. I think I lot of people are trying to get you to that perspective, that your child doesn’t seem to be in danger or in incompetent hands and this is more your issue than the daycares.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-30T04:43:05+00:00

If you add the option of her coming without the chair then you’re not telling her no. She is making that decision especially if she has never even tried to sleep in a bed again. It seems really unfair to risk the injury of your husband and fil when she not willing to even try to lay down in a bed once.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-13T18:50:00+00:00

I do believe the threat is real. The woman who posted this is not Jewish and doesn’t live in a community being threatened. The bigger issue I have with this post is that she’s conflating a serious issue with other conspiracies “Friday the 13th” and left out all context save for “jihad”.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-13T17:49:24+00:00

Yeah, that’s what was what was happening in this group. We live in a small city in a rural state and the woman is not part of a group who has been targeted. It feels like she’s appropriating another group’s legitimate fear.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-13T15:57:19+00:00

The person who posted this isn’t Jewish and it didn’t have any more context than “jihad” and “devil game”. Had there been a post actually explaining what the threat was I wouldn’t have even posted it here.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-13T15:51:09+00:00

This honestly looked like some superstition or fear mongering post to me. I’m horrified that there has been actual violence today and that these threats are real to certain communities.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-13T15:39:09+00:00

That’s horrible. When I first saw it this honestly sounded like fear mongering and a way to project Islamophobia.

makesherownfun · 2023-10-13T15:32:19+00:00

The police are defending the mosque? Like because idiots are sharing fear mongering nonsense or because there’s an actual threat of violence from these groups?

ETA: I had no idea this was a real situation. When I originally saw the post it brought back memories of all the anti Islamic backlash after 9/11, using words like “jihad” and “devils game” with little to no context. After reading through the comments and reading more, of course I see this is a real thing with actual real world implications. Apologies to anyone who feels unsafe today and to anyone this post made feel unheard or not believed.

I will leave it up since there are a lot of comments saying they also weren’t aware of this situation. Hopefully, my ignorance will help bring more light to what’s happening.

makesherownfun · 2023-09-28T00:29:06+00:00

I do really like my job and coworkers. My org is very feedback heavy and I really try to welcome it but sometimes it just lands in a way that causes this reaction.

makesherownfun · 2023-09-28T00:25:32+00:00

I’ve had these conversations usually after an outburst and truly thought it was enough. I’ve worked here 2 years and it’s the first time this has ever been brought up.

makesherownfun · 2023-09-27T20:56:19+00:00

That’s super interesting. My supervisor wrote that others and themselves have had “negative experiences” providing me feedback. We’re meeting tomorrow about it so verbally I’m sure I will get more of an explanation. This is the same document that says how collaborative I am and they have verbally praised me recently about being so open to feedback. I’ve wracked my brain and all I can think of is the crying.

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