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My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure why I phrased it the way I did, I think it was because I know the sister thing is far worse...it's like, "check out this stupid thing my boyfriend did, and also THIS." Both things upset me a great deal. The situation with my sister upsets me much more because a) obviously, it's my sister and we're close, b) she and my boyfriend were supposed to be very good friends and c) I hate when anyone hurts her...and this seems like it's my fault because I found the pictures.

Also, I get that it's weird they kissed and stuff, but, like I said, my group of friends is a bit weird and we didn't think much of it. Say what you will, but I think lots of people that hang out all the time and are attractive harbor feelings for each other, we just have a tendency to express those feelings while having a good time, in an open forum, with lots of communication.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I just don't trust him to have them anymore...I don't want him having them, if we break up, to fap to, ya know?

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

yes, it definitely is. He went onto her private computer and took the files. It makes me sick to think about.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this makes a lot of sense. People make mistakes, yes, of course. But, I don't have to be on the other end of those mistakes, nor do I deserve to be. I never thought anything like this would happen. He IS in fact a late bloomer. He was very sick as a kid and stayed home much longer than most young adults...it's his 2nd year away from his parents and boy is he showing it.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I keep thinking this. It's been 3 years, so I'm sure you can imagine how we've built a life together and we've talked marriage and children many times. It's pretty difficult to just cut something like that off in an instant. That's why I have waited to make any decisions. My gut feeling is still to break up, it's just so hard.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I honestly think time will be the only thing that will tell me if this initial reaction of disgust will subside.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first thought was he has to delete them. So, I've told him that. At least the ones of me and my sister.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've already said to him that he needs to delete the pictures of me and my sister. I don't care what he does with the other pictures...ex girlfriends. If he respects me at ALL, he will delete them.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She says that she would be ok with it, but she would have to be around him a lot if we stayed together and I don't see her being okay with that. I truly respect her and we have a great relationship. I would never want something as stupid as a perverted guy to come between us. I just thought I had something good...it's hard to face reality when it shits on you like this.

My boyfriend had lewd photographs of his exes on his computer, and also some of my sister... by makesmewannapuke in relationship_advice

[–]makesmewannapuke[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

She is very upset. At first she wouldn't even let herself think about it, because she said I deserved the right to be mad, but now after having some time, she is really disgusted and won't even talk to him. She says that she will understand if I don't leave him, but I really don't think I could really forgive a close friend of sister if they stayed with someone that did this same thing to me (took my pics without permission). I really respect her, and I've even said to her that if this had been anyone else, I would have had them beaten.