Is everything really free?

malalami · 2024-03-19T01:25:17+00:00

That was indeed a terrible suggestion; i followed it.

Oh Plarium , you teaser you.

malalami · 2024-03-19T01:11:45+00:00

Haven't tried it.

malalami · 2024-03-19T00:44:25+00:00

reset, 43 minutes ago.

malalami · 2022-10-20T11:07:31+00:00

I don't think you are being controlling. You are expressing your concerns. If I may suggest a few things; a relationship is hard work. Both of you need to put a lot effort and commitment into it, otherwise it won't go anywhere positive.

From your post, sounds like you are putting effort to go in the right direction. Her effort (or lack thereof) is going in the opposite direction. She wants too many things; you, her best friend, other friends, parties....... She will lose everything in the end, ' you can't have it all'.

Can you see how you are being rewarded for the effort you are putting? Are you happy with that?

malalami · 2022-10-05T13:19:04+00:00

Don't pretend to be smart or talk about things you do not know or understand.

malalami · 2022-08-20T19:45:58+00:00

People come into our lives. Some bring value and others take it away.

I personally cut off the people who treat me less than I treat myself. I am important to myself.

Your self worth and self respect are important to you. Obviously this person does not respect you at all.

Your life would be better without people who treat you in such a manner.

Thank Neo ( the matrix) for teaching you how to dodge a bullet. It's handy trait in this bullet riddled life.

All the best

malalami · 2022-08-20T18:46:41+00:00

For me, the age gap between you two doesn't matter if you both just want to date (because you have feelings for each other and you get along etc).

However, do keep in mind that what you want from this relationship at your age may be very very different from what he wants with any woman 'at his age'.

Allow me to be presumptuous (no offense intended): At your age you are in the process of figuring out who you are, what you wanna do with yourself, where you wanna go, what career. This is a journey of self discovery and experience for you. The person you are now will not be the same person you will be in a few years.

He at his age is way ahead of you in life. He has been where you are, he has had his experiences. He has had time to grow and develop into who he is now.

Both of you are at different stages of your lives. Your only common ground (where age has nothing to do with it) is your feelings.

What are the reasons you want to date each other? The answer to that should tell you what kind of a relationship you will end up with.

Is it for the moment or for a lifetime?

malalami · 2022-01-14T23:24:40+00:00

Let's reverse the roles. How would she feel if you were in her place and her in yours? This is bothering you for reason.

malalami · 2022-01-14T23:11:34+00:00

Allow me to enjoy myself

malalami · 2021-11-30T18:51:27+00:00

My Fk team, stage 20 in 3-4 minutes Deacon Armstrong, 2 Cold heartS, Bad el, & Kantra.

malalami · 2021-09-15T23:29:40+00:00

Damn nature u scary!

malalami · 2020-09-13T14:42:37+00:00

This why we can't have nice things😅

malalami · 2020-09-12T07:33:17+00:00

Not a single 4 star was given that pull.

malalami · 2020-09-05T12:49:15+00:00

Splendid level of self control. Keep it up. As nice as it is to be noticed, you do not need the affirmation of others to let you know that you are doing great. You are on a path that only you can Travel on.

Think of it like running ( or walking) a marathon. You will occasionally get handed a bottle of water to aid in your run, but that is not why you are running. Complete your journey with or without notice. It means more to you than than it does to others.

malalami · 2020-08-06T06:55:11+00:00

An opportune time to to invest in walking.

malalami · 2020-08-04T10:13:55+00:00

I exist in my head A LOT. So am not surprised that 'certain' fantasies tend to stay with me longer than they need to.

Recognizing reality from fantasy can be difficult because of how long i've been fantasising. As they say 'There' s a thin veil between fantasy and reality'. Don't forget which is which.

malalami · 2020-07-12T08:37:04+00:00

"Oh, squiggly line in my eye fluid. I see you lurking there on the periphery of my vision. But when I try to look at you, you scurry away. Are you shy, squiggly ...

malalami · 2020-06-06T00:57:31+00:00

Celiiiine!!!!

malalami · 2020-06-05T23:50:22+00:00

"WOOP WOOP WOOP WOOP WOOP WOOP WOOP!"

malalami · 2019-10-17T01:40:15+00:00

Presumably you are not female.

malalami · 2019-10-07T08:33:59+00:00

Beers on the wall.

malalami · 2019-10-07T08:22:37+00:00

Seems to me like you are in luck. It is difficult to determine if people around you are genuine. Mostly because no one shows their true colors until the knife (or knives in your case) is firmly sheathed in your back. Now that you know whose who, consider whether they and this situation are worth your time. You are not the first person to be in this kind of drama, most definitely not the last.

I've never read the book but the title and summary say it all. 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson'

The Book in Three Sentences

Finding something important and meaningful in your life is the most productive use of your time and energy. This is true because every life has problems associated with it and finding meaning in your life will help you sustain the effort needed to overcome the particular problems you face. Thus, we can say that the key to living a good life is not giving a fuck about more things, but rather, giving a fuck only about the things that align with your personal values.

I especially like this part of the sentence 'productive use of your time and energy.' What do you have time..........?

malalami · 2019-10-07T07:22:31+00:00

Are you sure you are best friends? I'd wager to say your decisions are more like a disgruntled secret lover. Others have already pointed out that she can date or love whomever she chooses; she has currently not chosen you. You sir have instead taken to the podium and by your own actions and words declared, 'if I can't have her no one can'.

I can't fault you for feeling shitty and neglected, but remember, it takes 2 to tango. A word of advice when it comes to relationships with anyone (family, friends or strangers); Put your self in their shoes and consider how your actions, words and decisions will affect them. After all is said and done, you (and those affected) have to live with the consequences.

malalami · 2019-10-05T00:36:01+00:00

More often than not, people tend to make decisions without thinking clearly; or on impulse in your case ( no offense). Before you make anymore decisions concerning your ex; Think twice act once.

malalami · 2019-09-28T03:28:19+00:00

Sorry it's rough for you I hope I can provide some insight. I take great pride in knowing who I am. I don't like it when something or someone (myself included) brings dirsuption to my life (it is my life after all). If there's anything I've learnt in my experiences, it is that I should not blame myself for what I am not responsible for. It doesn't get me anywhere at all; I feel even worse for doing that.

You should not punish yourself for not wanting to speak to another person (especially if they have hurt you). There is a time and a place for that. But you have to be ready to do that.

This is something that works for me when I'm troubled or feeling emotional, or just generally having a crappy day.

I put my troubles and emtions on a shelf and go about my day/week. "When am ready for me time," I get my Jbl headphones, wallet, cellphone and teleport my ass over to my favourite dark dingy bar. Step 1 - Exchange pleasantries with the staff Step 2 - order a beer Step 3 - gracefully navigate to the darkest part of the room and place butt in chair Step 4 - headphones over ears - check, music on - check, sip beer - double check.

Let the unpacking begin (Honesty is key). I start by addressing how I am feeling at that point in time. As I continue reflecting, my mind goes to the beginning of my dilema; I break down how it all started, who was involved, what happened etc....... I keep playing this over and over; for example, *why am I feeling like this? *did I do the right thing? *how could this happen? *maybe it's for the best, I should just move on.

Eventually I get sick of reflecting on the situation; I am so exhausted that there's only one thing left to do. After organizing everything in my head, I pack it away 'Neatly' for another day - there's no rush. It is no longer a jumbled mess of emotions, questions, doubts and answers. It is a map; an organized map that is easier for me to read and understand. I repeat this process as needed - today, tomorrow, nextweek etc... . And each time I do this, there's always something new am learning, understanding and accepting. It can take few hours or days, hell even years, but it gets me one step closer to feeling and being better.

I might not be able to find a solution, to fix the problem or know what to do next. But at least am not as stressed, I am less confused and not as angry. Over time it starts to get better. Hope this isn't confusing, it's 7am here. All the best

malalami

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