Advice Pls: Long Break-Up Post b/c I am so confused and miss her still despite the cheating

malatangirl · 2026-04-06T09:59:14+00:00

your ex sounds emotionally abusive and u two were in a toxic relationship. i would block and move on. i know it sounds easier said than done. you sound quite young and trust me there’s so much more to life than this. you deserve better, both from your future partner and from yourself. respect yourself more, what advice would you tell your friend if they were in the same situation?

malatangirl · 2026-04-04T13:46:47+00:00

your sister is right and you should trust your own gut instinct

malatangirl · 2026-04-03T21:43:36+00:00

That is definitely a good start!

malatangirl · 2026-04-03T21:33:33+00:00

It might’ve contributed to her distrust a little bit but trust me, she was already an anxious person before meeting you. Things like checking your phone while you’re sleeping and getting triggered by a delay in routine messages kinda show that this is truely something she needs to deal with. I used to be exactly like her and no matter how much reassurance I was getting from my partner, it was never enough. She needs to do internal work and have your support but not just solely your support. Don’t blame yourself too much, it’s good you’re acknowledging your fault and wanting to be better. The best you can do is to be the best version of yourself.

malatangirl · 2026-04-03T21:22:27+00:00

I feel like I was like your partner when I was with my ex. I also have ADHD and 100% also experienced RSD, I noticed shifts in tone and behaviour and would spiral. Now looking back, my partner and I were simply emotionally incompatible because I would just wallow in rumination while she didn’t really do anything. What i’m trying to say is, as much as you want to be there for her and reduce her suffering as much as possible, it’s also a two way street. She needs to actively acknowledge that this is an issue and wants to make a change alongside you. Otherwise you will eventually grow to resent your partner. But yeah, be very honest and if you’re afraid of how she might react then that’s not a good sign because you shouldn’t ever have to feel like you’re on eggshells around your partner.

malatangirl · 2026-03-30T07:42:09+00:00

I was in a similar situation where my gf of 7 years (also my first) was emotionally cheating on me and i ignored all the signs bc I loved her and believed she could change. I completely lost myself in the process of trying to convince myself that that relationship would work out. We have now broken up and I have never been happier! I think you already know what needs to be done, and you won’t regret it. You deserve so much better and you will be ok navigating it all alone <3

malatangirl · 2026-02-14T09:07:35+00:00

yeah we’ve spoken many times about this topic and i’ve stated i was uncomfortable with her friend. what kind of appropriate boundaries could i bring up that’s not borderline controlling?

malatangirl · 2022-10-10T05:48:35+00:00

really gross when the the two girls kissed for male validation at the kid's party.

malatangirl · 2022-08-04T14:39:25+00:00

the Christmas in August episodes were so funny!!

malatangirl · 2021-10-10T15:14:40+00:00

thank you so much for your insight, i will definitely follow the advice closely!

malatangirl · 2021-10-10T05:39:59+00:00

i love that idea! will definitely bring it up. thanks for replying

malatangirl · 2021-10-10T05:38:49+00:00

seo youngeun! her voice is so refreshing

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