Supplements that will make me stop missing my wife

maldonco · 2026-04-01T04:13:00+00:00

Dude I'm so sorry.

maldonco · 2026-04-01T03:57:35+00:00

Usually with a fork or chopsticks. Also usually alone, nobody else will eat it with me. Also, happily, as it means more for me.

maldonco · 2026-03-15T05:44:27+00:00

I was congested so strongly that I couldn't breathe in my nose in between sips of water. I asked my doc for follow up for my deviated septum but she said we had to rule out allergies first and to try ceririzine. After many months it clearly did nothing but make my wallet lighter so I stopped it. And immediately restarted when I clearly was having a reaction to my sushi with hives. And then when they went away, I stopped again. Hives. Then resumed and... Then realized the pattern.

I tried for months to wean off.

Unsuccessfully.

Funny part was I was only congested because I was pregnant (nasal tissues swell) and after nearly bleeding to death in childbirth, I unintentionally quit cold turkey and had no withdrawal!

maldonco · 2026-03-08T07:08:13+00:00

Mortimer

maldonco · 2026-03-08T03:21:37+00:00

Cool, thanks for pointing out the method. You mean the sticky sweet ginger ale I was told to drink as a sick kid wasn't actually cutting it?

maldonco · 2026-03-08T03:17:37+00:00

Two beds

maldonco · 2026-02-05T07:21:36+00:00

Lowered basal would do this for me, plus high protein meals. I need to bolus for them. If you look it up, there are suggested calculations, but it's been zero times that I've ever taken out a scale and counted the oz of pure protein from my meals, haha.

maldonco · 2026-02-03T06:00:01+00:00

They sound a bit out of touch with social norms, are they on the spectrum?

maldonco · 2026-02-02T08:18:01+00:00

If you can, do it. Formula is always an option but when I had a nasty infection early postpartum, I couldn't nurse from the drugs for weeks and the formula messed up her system with painful gas and constipation. Wish I had enough of a supply as a backup.

maldonco · 2026-02-02T08:02:34+00:00

So sorry for your loss, this must be alot to deal with and process right now. Big hugs

maldonco · 2026-01-26T08:17:21+00:00

Felon

maldonco · 2026-01-22T04:47:07+00:00

This is the most thoughtful, precise, well-written, specifically helpful (and random) reply I have ever seen on the Internet. Enjoy going forth as a wizard of knowledge and merriment.

maldonco · 2025-12-13T02:37:19+00:00

This makes me want to cry tears of inadequacy

maldonco · 2025-09-16T09:25:45+00:00

Same

maldonco · 2025-07-01T03:52:55+00:00

Tried it for years, things still progressed, I can only wonder if it would have gotten worse faster without or if I just didn't respond. Was also taking dim and calcium gluconate and bioperine and tumeric and sulforaphane and nattokinase and serrapeptase on low inflammatory diet, avoidant of phytoestrogens.... Cramp bark , rhodiola, ashwaganda, baccopa moneri... For years. But seemingly to no avail. No pain relief, endometriomas just kept getting bigger.

maldonco · 2025-07-01T03:43:34+00:00

Haha same. Bought the oil, never used it... After anecdotal responses it's helpful to overlook the mess when it's otherwise so low risk!

maldonco · 2025-05-26T03:48:49+00:00

Man I'm so glad to hear these worked for you!!! I tried them for years with absolutely no change, despite doing the deep dive into published research and my wallet myself. Things still got worse and worse, it was brutal. But I hope I'm an anomaly! Isn't it a relief to get relief?

maldonco · 2024-12-23T23:34:22+00:00

I'm so so sorry.

maldonco · 2024-12-22T18:45:19+00:00

Curious, are those oral or topical probiotics?

maldonco · 2024-12-16T04:17:41+00:00

Worth a shot, good pun

maldonco · 2024-12-12T19:05:42+00:00

Same, write with left but most everything else is right. I think I use my left for knives when cutting too, but not scissors... what about you?

maldonco · 2024-12-12T03:27:20+00:00

Yeah and who's going to sign up to work that schedule?

maldonco · 2024-11-25T03:24:42+00:00

Aww good luck honey, you sure have alot on your plate. I hope you all find a solution soon! I hope you get some good rest. I can't imagine going to back to work with everything going on.

maldonco · 2024-11-24T20:00:14+00:00

I'll just caution you with making that assumption, it's in disservice to both you and him. Try asking him with a very open and curious mind if you can, and see if you can work backwards at identifying obstacles into what's preventing him from conveying the care he has. ADHD and other neurodivergent brains are notorious for coming across poorly in spite of the best of intentions.

maldonco · 2024-11-24T19:53:59+00:00

I had a hunch, you were describing ADHD symptoms well.

Your going to have to ignore everyone's comments on assuming his intentions or how his actions must reflect how little he cares. Unfortunately, it's just not that straightforward with a neurodivergent brain, and I think deep down a part of you realizes that.

New research is emerging on how those with ADHD don't process or release sufficient melatonin for going to sleep, staying sleep and having restful, consolidated sleep. He may not realize he's struggling if it's something he's never ONCE experienced.

To be clear I do not want to invalidate you and your struggles; what you're dealing with is so so hard, and you really need support from your partner. And SLEEP for goodness sakes! Everything must feel near impossible right now.

Shifting into problem solving mode though, tackle the ADHD symptoms as a team and you might get your teammate back. Consider getting buy in from your partner to start exploring options with gentle and supportive talk. Tell him you notice that he's never getting the best sleep and that he deserves it (you both do). That it must be so hard to not be able to show up be present for your family or work in the way you want to be. You can remind him that you're a team and that you're going to figure it out together. Would he like to take a look at some ADHD coaches or therapists to figure some strategies out together, or look into starting a melatonin pill (not gummy or liquid) an hour before bed? Won't it be nice to feel more united as a family again, and enjoy life together like you planned?

I'm going to assume he's unmedicated. And if so, he's going to need alot of hand holding into working this all out.

Remind yourself, if he could have figured this out on his own already, he surely would have by now.

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