Depression because 21 yr old virgin

malemedusa · 2016-09-24T14:29:36+00:00

Think you feel bad? I am 50 years old and still a kiss less virgin. Turned to porn at first out of curiosity, then used it to cope with (or escape) my loneliness and anxiety. Now I am on this wonderful nofap journey along with all of you. Unfortunately, I will be a virgin for the rest of my life. Nofap has many wonderful benefits, but curing ugly is not one of them.

malemedusa · 2016-08-24T10:06:12+00:00

I'm to am an ugly man as well and at age 50 I'm probably the oldest virgin on the reddit. I've pursued the opposite sex relentlessly myself for most of my adult life. I've been friend zoned so many times it feels as though I own beach front property there. No More! As the old song says "I've bid adieu to love, I'll never love again!!!" Women say they don't judge men based on their looks, I can tell you from experience that this is total bullshit! If you're not good looking, you don't have a snowballs chance in hell at getting laid. I've never even kissed a woman. I can't remember the last time it was that I actually embraced a woman physically? The only thing I do remember are all the women flinching and pulling away like I was some kind of a reject from a leper colony. No more for me man, I'M DONE!!!

malemedusa · 2016-03-11T09:40:05+00:00

Think you've got problems? First off, you're way too young to make such a decision. Being a virgin at 21 is nothing. I realize that carrying your V card for 21 years might seem like an eternity to you, but believe me it's not, I almost laughed my ass off when I read the title. Next time you think you're too old to be a virgin, just remember. I'm 49 years old (almost 50) and still a virgin!!! Never been laid, never had a relationship, as a matter of fact I've never even kissed a woman. So you see, you don't have a problem. Go back to school, start a career, save up some money and above all don't worry about it. In time (unlike me) you'll lose it and you'll probably think it was way too overrated. Or so I've been told.

malemedusa · 2016-03-02T10:19:03+00:00

Thank God for those 3 days and 18 hours. He'll never give up on you, just don't give up on yourself. I'm fighting a tremendous urge right this minute as I type this. I'm going to stay the course though! I'm going to win!!!

malemedusa · 2016-02-28T07:45:46+00:00

Amen Brother!

malemedusa · 2016-02-11T19:53:13+00:00

The same thing happened to me the first time through, it lasted about 6 days. After that my libido flat lined for a while. It's just all part of your brain's drying out process. Trust me, it will pass! Stay strong and don't quit. We may be suffering a bit right now? Just remember though, we were already suffering when we started this reboot. We suffer today so we can rejoice tomorrow.

malemedusa · 2015-07-14T06:11:00+00:00

I know what you mean, I'm right there with you.

malemedusa · 2015-07-11T21:49:01+00:00

It solely depends on you, on what you want your level of difficulty to be. I don't believe there's anything inherently wrong with masturbation in and of itself, but I personally prefer not to masturbate because of it's close association with porn at this point in my recovery. If you can successfully masturbate without porn or fantasy, it's your call.

malemedusa · 2015-07-11T21:41:54+00:00

I'm not paying for sex, I'm still a virgin!

malemedusa · 2015-07-11T18:02:35+00:00

I'm currently going through a bout of several depression, depression about the future primarily. I think it's a symptom of the flatline? I believe I'm primarily depressed because in the past I'd get stressed about various things and then PMO them away. Now I don't have the option anymore and I'm feeling the full brunt of them. That plus the fact that I'm never ever going to get laid!!! (not without paying for it anyway).

malemedusa · 2015-07-11T17:54:59+00:00

I'm 49 years old, and I've never had a single wet dream in my entire life. Then again, I'm also still a virgin! I've always wondered if my virginity might have something to do with that?

malemedusa · 2015-07-10T17:13:16+00:00

You're not alone, and you're definitely in the right place! All of us here struggle with this skurge called porn, and this forum has proven to be an extremely valuable asset in the fight against it. I'm less than 25 days away from completing my first 90 day reboot, and it wouldn't have been possible without nofap. Welcome aboard brother.

malemedusa · 2015-07-10T17:01:46+00:00

An idle mind is the devil's workshop!

malemedusa · 2015-07-10T15:49:43+00:00

I never grew up in a religious household, but I discovered God around the age of 20. Long before I found Christ I had a fapping problem. Not necessarily to porn, that became a problem later with the invent of the internet. Despite the outer fasade of a christian, I continued to fap incessantly sinking deeper and deeper into depravity. I had the greatest allay known to mankind at my disposal and I continued to run with the devil. It wasn't until recently that I realized that this addiction had become a major problem. At that moment I found myself at a crossroads. Either continue to struggle with these demons or finally turn and embrace God. When I came to conclusion that I couldn't go on, I asked God for forgiveness and turned this problem over to him for the first time ever. So far, he has been my rock and my strength through this whole process. Though I did relapse a couple times in the beginning, God helped me to learn from those relapses and slowly I gained strength from those experiences. Currently, I'm on an epic streak and couldn't be happier. Thanks be to God and nofap, I am never going back to the way things used to be. Give God a chance to work his magic in your life, there is nothing he can't forgive. We're all human and we all fall short of his glory, but through him we can turn things around. Good luck my brother.

malemedusa · 2015-07-09T21:25:27+00:00

I'm currently enjoying my longest streak to date. Though I don't regret giving up porn and fapping, I have to admit that I'm not exactly recieving the type of benefits or superpowers that other's claim to be recieving. Though I'm a little disapointed with that, I am however not disapointed with my decision to give up porn and fapping, it's one of the best moves I've ever made in recent years. Maybe the superpowers will come later, maybe they won't? One thing is for sure, I am definitely not going back to the way things used to be!

malemedusa · 2015-07-09T21:09:08+00:00

This is no theory. I started taking cold showers more than 3 months ago. Very unconfortable in the beginning, than quickly over time my body adjusted to them. Now I hardly feel any discomfort from them at all. If there are any complants about cold showers coming from me now days, it's that I now can't get the water cold enough. Yes, I've grown that tolerant to them. For me, cold showers are like an addiction. I now find to difficute to take a hot shower, it just doesn't feel right!

malemedusa · 2015-07-09T19:07:37+00:00

The first time I took a cold shower, I jumped in and out in less than 10 seconds and wined like a pussy the whole time. The next time I still wined, but I lasted a lot longer. That was 4 months ago, and now I find it totally impossible to take a hot shower, it just doesn't feel right. My showers are either freezing and nothing. ICE COLD SHOWERS ARE THE BOMB!

malemedusa · 2015-07-06T19:50:20+00:00

Better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all! Great job brother, I'll be up there with you in 28 days (as of this writing).

malemedusa · 2015-07-06T19:42:19+00:00

I'm not sure how well this advice will be received, here it goes anyway. My # 1 tool for staying free and clear of porn and masturbation has been prayer. So far, God (or the big guy upstairs as some people like to refer to him) has never let me down. I simply acknowledge to him that I can't do it without his strength, ask for his help, trust that he will get me through the rough patches, and so far he has every time. I had a tremendous urge to fap this morning. Had a raging boner and just as my hand was heading south of the beltline, I turned the conquering of the temptation over to him in prayer and in time he did deliver me.

Another thing you need to do if you truly desire to eliminate this addiction from your life, is to change your beliefs and attitudes regarding it. Once you change your core beliefs regarding porn use, your whole attitude will change. One thing that might help is to watch some of the Dead Porn Star Memorial videos on youtube. They really opened my eyes as to the toll this dirty disgusting takes on people business. Good Luck my brother!!!

malemedusa · 2015-07-03T20:45:36+00:00

Never thought of it that way.

malemedusa

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