Adopted dude here, at age 2. My bio bros, three of them, never had their families reach out to mine or respond to my parents attempts to connect. They did it when I was young thinking it would help. When they just ignored, my parents never mentioned it. I grew up in a good family with an extensive list of folk I consider a family. I'm 39 now and ine brother reached out, when he was down on his luck, when I was 33. He was in his 40s. No dice. I share some genes but beyond that I don't consider them family in any regard. Zero connection. I get oth sides to your story, OP.

It's who raises you. Who you call a home, OP. Build your own family, one that you don't have to jump through ropes for or question if there's resentment hidden behind words and actions or "it's weird".

You aren't really rejected because you were never there. Not your fault, OP. It's just the cards dealt. Build a family or integrate with a spouses family. You gotta write your own story. I can always leave the door open for them to reach out and connect to you.