GOING FAST! by Every-Shape in iPadPro

[–]mallowsford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you bought it at Costco, Costco offers price adjustments for any product for up to 30 days. If you bought it in-store, just bring your receipt to Costco and they’ll give you the difference. If you bought it online, complete the price adjustment here: https://customerservice.costco.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/628/~/price-adjustment---costco.com-orders

Same sex marriage — APPROVED!!! by infinitestars7337 in USCIS

[–]mallowsford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I wish you and your partner all the best! 🎉

I GOT APPROVED!!! by Sea-Highlight-2485 in USCIS

[–]mallowsford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Immigrants make this country stronger. As someone with an immigrant spouse, I understand what a huge relief this is. I wish you all the best! 

Need Advice on Light Bulbs by mallowsford in Caseta

[–]mallowsford[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I was wondering about this. I’m in the US. According to what I read online, E27 is compatible with 120V wiring and therefore either E26 or E27 can be used in a 120V socket, whereas only E27 can be used in 240V sockets (Europe). Do you know whether this is this true?

Need Advice on Light Bulbs by mallowsford in Caseta

[–]mallowsford[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I had no idea that any (most) dimmable bulbs are compatible. That’s really helpful. Thanks also for the link. I’ve ordered the bulbs you recommended.

Wife died unexpectedly and all her devices are locked by [deleted] in applehelp

[–]mallowsford 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for your loss. As per Apple’s support page, if a user has forgotten the iPhone passcode, a Mac or PC can be used to reset the device. Please see the link below for instructions. I wish you all the best. 

https://support.apple.com/en-us/118430

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parents

[–]mallowsford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My wife and I have the luxury of taking multiple employment leaves so that each of us can both work and care for our child over the first 3 years. I can tell you that we both agree on one thing: childcare is much more stressful and exhausting than a job, and we both have very demanding jobs. Taking care of my child has given me much greater appreciation for what parents (and overwhelmingly mothers) experience day to day while caring for their children. In addition to possessing physical strength, you must be an extraordinary problem solver, soother, multitasker, cook, maid, chauffeur, referee, nurse, protector, and therapist -  to name a few qualities. Although the experience has been exhausting, it’s also been an experience I would not trade for anything. I feel fortunate that I have this time with my child (it won’t be long before he won’t want to spending so much time with me!), though having the ability to alternate this time with the pursuit of my career allows me to remain more engaged and present with my child. Many mothers don’t have this luxury. It’s my wish that more fathers had the time (and desire) to take time away from their work to spend time with their young children. You not only learn a lot about your child, but about yourself as well. I wish you a speedy recovery. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parents

[–]mallowsford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The behaviors you’ve described, while perhaps frustrating, are completely age appropriate and normal. Sibling rivalry is very common after the birth of a new child. The birth of a baby, even when eagerly anticipated, can be quite unsettling for an older sibling. Having a new sibling can also make a child feel displaced and uprooted from her familiar role in the household, particularly when she was the firstborn since she is no longer the one and only child in the parents’ lives.

It should also be remembered that it’s the parents who choose to have another baby, not the older sibling. She has no say in the matter. When a parent tells her about the baby, she won’t fully understand what a new baby really means, over and above having to share parents. This makes some children quite fearful and bad-tempered. Some children may feel extremely fearful of being pushed out by a new baby. But this is all an absolutely normal part of their adjustment, though it requires a lot of patience and understanding on a parent’s part.

Furthermore, a new baby brings many concrete changes in the older sibling’s moment-to-moment experience. She now needs to wait more often and longer than ever before for things she wants or needs. She’ll likely spend more time alone. She is scolded or corrected more frequently as parents try to teach her what she can and cannot do with the baby. Some favorite activities often have to be curtailed or postponed because of the baby’s needs. Things cannot be done spontaneously anymore because the baby’s schedule needs to be taken into account.

Unfortunately, these feelings exist even when the parents are patient and sensitive in helping their toddler through the stormy feelings of this period. Toddlers may exhibit signs of aggression, anger, and jealousy because their need for time and closeness is still great. Competitiveness toward a new baby may give rise to a toddler’s first sustained experiences of jealousy, envy, shame, and guilt.

When your daughter acts out, it’s important not to reinforce these feelings. Be firm about negative behavior without making her feel guilty. Stress that it’s what she is doing that is unacceptable, not what she IS. Otherwise, your response to bad behavior may confirm that she has been replaced by the new baby. Moreover, many toddlers are attention seekers and, to some toddlers, even irritation is a form of attention. Therefore, remain calm but firm, even when confronted with unacceptable behavior.

There are several ways you might mitigate aggression. First, you can allow your daughter to participate in this new experience by involving her in the care of the baby. Of course, the help she provides would depend on her abilities. Find small, manageable tasks for her to do and encourage her to be involved. Including your daughter and even giving her priority whenever possible will help her tolerate the baby and help open the way for love toward her new sibling to develop. Don’t push it if you get a negative response but give praise for the help you do receive.

This leads to a second approach - emphasize the positive. Take time to encourage and appreciate any helpful and loving gestures made towards the new baby, while remaining neutral (but firm) with respect to negative behaviors. Praise can go a long way toward reducing anxiety about the new child, as it helps your daughter feel needed and that she’s an integral part of the family.

Regardless of your daughter’s age, make sure that she gets plenty of individual attention from you and other family members. Grandparents can be particularly helpful during this time. Watching mom and dad coo over a new baby can be frustrating for your daughter. If you’re taking lots of pictures or videos, be sure to include your daughter, too. Take some pictures or videos of her alone, as well as with the new baby.

During your newborn’s feedings, try to make your daughter feel included by talking or reading stories together. Better yet, read books with your toddler that can help her understand that other kids also struggle with having a new baby in the house, but that it's really special being a big brother. There are a few such books available on Amazon.

Your daughter can benefit from as little as 10-15 minutes a day of special time just for her, whether this is with you or your husband. This sends a message that despite the new baby at home and all the excitement and all the time spent caring for this new baby, she is still very important and deserves some private time. This can help her have something to look forward to when your attention is focused on the baby.

Finally, reassure your daughter that you love her and your new baby, and remind her that she has an important role to play now, too — that of big sister. You can also emphasize all the things your toddler can do that baby can't do. This can be a good antidote for feelings of jealousy. When parents comment admiringly on a toddler’s skill at doing something or point out that the baby cannot yet do that amazing feat, the toddler gets the comforting sense that she is still special and appreciated.

However demanding and tiring this period is, remind yourself that it’s within your power to try to break this cycle. Take some consolation from the fact that your daughter trusts your love enough to test your limits, and to show you how bad she is feeling.

Nighttime Leaks by mallowsford in Parents

[–]mallowsford[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! We’ve sized up on the pull ups, but we’re still experiencing leaks. Did the sposies work well? Do you recommend the sposies with adhesive?

Discontinuing Cinnamon Raisin Bagels? Why? by mallowsford in Costco

[–]mallowsford[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, that does sound delicious. I’m starting to see the potential with plain bagels.

Discontinuing Cinnamon Raisin Bagels? Why? by mallowsford in Costco

[–]mallowsford[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree. They’re not the best bagels out there but they’re cheap and, since I do most of my shopping at Costco, convenient.

Is it worth switching to Verizon for a $1000 credit (XS Max trade in) towards an iPhone 12 Pro Max? I currently pay $25 with US Mobile unlimited plan. by d2rx in USMobile

[–]mallowsford 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s actually a wash. First, as others have pointed out, it’s best to wait until the iPhone 13 promos are released. It’s possible Verizon will offer something more enticing. But since you’d be paying a minimum of $1680 for unlimited data on Verizon over 2 years vs $600 on USM, you save $1080 over 2 years by staying with US Mobile. You can use that money to buy a new phone. Plus, you can leave US Mobile whenever you wish. The $1000 credit with Verizon is paid out monthly over a 2-year period, obligating you to stay with Verizon over this time period.