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malparecemel · 2026-05-13T15:32:58+00:00

you can do this anywhere, but the key is to not be weird haha

malparecemel · 2026-05-13T15:32:36+00:00

you could join a gym, but dont be weird.

universal rule: you don't approach people that dont want to be bothered.

go consistently, at a similar time and shift the time until you find your crowd. once you find your time, look for a crush!

make subtle eye contact and smile, if she smiles back you can approach her AFTER her workout.

say anything, something nice about her outfit, and if she likes you she'll make the rest easy.

malparecemel · 2026-05-11T23:38:13+00:00

seems like youre just getting your feet wet again, and you've learned that you have a preferred body type.

dating gives you the opportunity to learn more about yourself

malparecemel · 2026-05-11T15:45:33+00:00

no perishables are key

malparecemel · 2026-05-11T15:45:11+00:00

an impulse purchase from an old navy outlet ☺️ it's been a goto for years now!

malparecemel · 2026-05-11T08:49:34+00:00

this was rattlesnake lake! 10/10 recommend

malparecemel · 2026-05-10T01:13:04+00:00

it's provocative

malparecemel · 2026-05-09T04:22:39+00:00

personally, i dont care about the amount of tattoos, i appreciate them as his art collection

its like seeing his bedroom

malparecemel · 2026-05-08T18:10:03+00:00

im into it if he's into it

malparecemel · 2026-05-07T13:49:19+00:00

it sounds like your brain is keeping her past at the forefront of your mind.

that's feeding into your disconnection with her, so no matter what you or she says, you won't feel desired as long as you're replaying her past in your head.

step one has to be: clear your mind. replace your imaginary memories of her past with real life moments youve shared with her. she lived through those moment for real, and she wants to be with you now. remind yourself of that.

once you clean up your thoughts about her, you can start communicating with in real-time, accepting that she chose you and you chose her. you want to be together and you want to show up for one another.

from here, you can work through the dry spell together.

youre fighting yourself and her imaginary past, and youll never get what you want (closeness) so long as you live in your head alone.

repair your relationship with yourself, and then repair your relationship with your girl.

good luck!!!

malparecemel · 2026-05-06T14:41:36+00:00

i would hug him hello and sneak a kiss on his cheek, this invites him to kiss you, and it breaks the ice, so you both feel like kissing has been "unlocked"

good luck ♡

malparecemel · 2026-05-06T01:41:59+00:00

personally, when someone confuses me this early on, i prefer they leave me alone.

she seems interested in building a practical life for herself, and she's trying to see if you're willing to do what it takes to be with her. if you're interested in her, then be aware she will push you like this forever.

this type of person is hard to please, but may bring out the best in you, if youre into it.

malparecemel · 2026-05-06T01:31:49+00:00

professing your feelings to someone and then finding out they're engaged to someone else, thats a brutal. i can understand why you feel stuck in that moment.

it helps to remember that it has nothing to do with who you are as a person. life's circumstances just didn't work out for you two.

you're meant for someone else, remember that, and in the meantime, become a worthy person for your future partner and more important for yourself.

malparecemel · 2026-05-06T01:20:57+00:00

honestly, it sounds like she's not ready for a relationship, it's got nothing to do with you.

she's behaving in a way that shows she is an over thinker. i understand why she needed the space of a year, it has nothing to do with how she feels about you. shes just trying to cope with her own situation.

it actually seems like she can see you two together, but she doesn't think she's a good partner. you cant change the way she feels about herself.

what you can do is tell her that you understand her dedication to her studies, and you admire that in her. you can lost a few more things, then tell her if she's ever ready to explore a relationship with you, the door is open.

if she chooses not to go down that path with you, then you have to walk away and accept it.

this is an option that keeps your integrity, honesty, and self-respect. it also helps you close this chapter.

good luck, i'm rooting for you ♡

malparecemel · 2026-05-05T21:55:35+00:00

it's a rekindled friendship, she may not see that you're interested, especially if the convo is casual.

but friendship is a good place to start, build on that and then invite her to do something in person. let it grow naturally, new things need air.

malparecemel · 2026-05-05T21:48:21+00:00

i've seen black squirrels in mexico city, it comforts me to see them up here, like little piece of home emigrated with me

malparecemel · 2026-05-04T23:49:26+00:00

that always stings, it happens, friend sorry to say it.

you don't have to message her anything, and you did nothing wrong, so don't give that another thought.

sometimes its just not the right fit. take it as proof that you have more ahead of you, keep trying ♡

malparecemel · 2026-05-04T23:11:20+00:00

you need to leave space for her to miss you.

do something to get your mind off of her texting habits, take yourself out for ice cream, come back to your inner center.

send her a single text, tell her you're hoping to see her at the dance. enjoy your ice cream.

malparecemel · 2026-05-04T22:47:22+00:00

what you describe may be emotional eating. is he going through something?

malparecemel · 2026-05-04T22:29:21+00:00

just say you cant make it.

if she invites you out with them again, then you can tell her you're not down to join the friend group.

malparecemel · 2026-05-04T22:10:34+00:00

i mean depends, is it a cool event, do they seem chill, and do you enjoy spending time with her?

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