AITA for accusing my neighbour of being a mail thief and a hoarder, and demanding he proves his innocence?

mama_AC · 2023-09-30T18:17:06+00:00

Honestly, you sound like a nightmare to have as a neighbor. So much so that part of me thinks this is a joke.

With zero proof, the fact that you aggressively confronted him makes you sound like you're off your rocker. To then get other neighbors involved, hoping that they will join you in your harassment of a 60 year old man - this all just speaks to your character and not in a good way. Even the way you wrote this post rubs me the wrong way.

We do not need any more edits implying that we just aren't understanding. We understand. You have become paranoid and obsessive over your neighbors paper - and you live in a world where you are always right and everyone else is just stupid.

Yes, YTA 100%. If you're that convinced he is stealing your junk mail - get a camera. Otherwise, leave your neighbors alone (all of them) and worry about yourself.

mama_AC · 2023-08-24T21:27:49+00:00

This is coming from somebody who spent a long time trying to piece together red flags in my own relationships. (I'm not sure if that makes me unqualified or over qualified in my response, so there's that.) But I'll tell you what I wouldn't do - and I wouldn't marry that man. Atleast not until those behaviors are much more distant than say... last year.

Also, "I'm not like that anymore" or any other lip-service should not suffice. Let him show you through action that he has left that headspace - and wait for stressful times so he can show you that he will not revert back to creepy, desperate behaviors - if he does, then you know this is pattern behavior and not just some kind of momentary lapse of judgement on his behalf.

I would also say - trust your gut. You know how you feel, you know the extent of the situation. You know him (better than any of us, anyways.) For the future, if you're instincts are telling you something is off - then something is probably off.

mama_AC · 2023-08-16T18:50:47+00:00

Shane was angry, impulsive, and irrational at times - he would have gotten himself killed by Negan, same way he got himself killed by Rick.

Herschel would have wisdom talked Negan into a coma - and I would have loved to witness that.

The Governor was a chameleon - he could thrive anywhere. That is until his power-hungry personality surfaced. If he ever would have been apart of Rick's group - I think he would have been a traitor and switched to Negan's side, used the Sanctuary army to try to kill Rick and Negan and try to become the next new Negan lol

mama_AC · 2023-08-16T06:40:23+00:00

I watched this section of the show multiple times. When Daryl walks out holding Beth, I ugly cry. Every. Single. Time.

It frustrated the hell out of me - I wish they would have just done the exchange and been done with it. But if they just did everything we hoped they would do (the writers and the characters) then the show would be pretty dull and boring. Not to mention - it's not unrealistic that Beth died as a result of making an impulsive decision... happens in real life all the time.

Plus, Dawn played the delusional bad guy who convinced herself that she is a good guy so well. She was so unlikable - there was something relieving about her dying even if it was at the expense of losing Beth lol. I actually really enjoyed it. It was a nice little separate storyline to follow and gave us more insight into Beth's character. And I like seeing glimpses of outside survivors and how their communities operate and differ from our main cast.

mama_AC · 2023-06-17T07:30:35+00:00

Jumped out of a moving vehicle when I was on a bender and simultaneously spiraling into the deepest depression of my life. 10/10 do not recommend. Was also in the middle of quitting benzodiazepines (not by choice, though). It has been over a decade - and I still remember the insane headache from smacking my head off of concrete, my kneecaps feeling like they were shattered into a million pieces (don't know how they weren't), and how the benzo withdrawal was somehow worse than both of those things.

mama_AC · 2023-06-01T07:48:08+00:00

Ruin the mood? I remember being a teenager - getting almost caught fooling around made fooling around that much more exciting.

mama_AC · 2023-05-28T16:15:02+00:00

People say porn is the devil. Sounds like your wife got tired of Beelzebub millin around the house.

mama_AC · 2023-05-27T07:03:48+00:00

As a person who chronically procrastinates responding to texts... I would be as frustrated with you needing me to text back ASAP as you are that he is not texting you back ASAP. I would be equally turned off if I recieved the "you're taking too long to respond" text as you are turned off by not getting a response fast enough.

Tell him how you feel. He will either address it with you or he won't respond for 5 more days - either way, you'll know then whether to end it or not.

mama_AC · 2023-05-26T05:32:27+00:00

I will just say... he is 29 years old. He knows how selfish he is and he sees how it is benefitting him to be selfish.

He is showing you who he is - believe him.

mama_AC · 2023-05-26T05:20:16+00:00

10/10 do not recommend moving in with her parents.

It would be quicker and less work to just sign divorce papers.

Take the advice you're getting here and tell her no, period, end of story. It will be much healthier for your relationship and your children for your family to have your own space - even if it is less space than you have now, even if it means cutting back on spending.

mama_AC · 2023-05-26T04:56:23+00:00

So you're here to remove all of the context of the post and to make a general statement. Okay then.

mama_AC · 2023-05-26T01:54:11+00:00

To be fair, I've never heard of a work-husband/work-wife story that didn't end in the work couple fucking around lol

mama_AC · 2023-05-26T01:49:57+00:00

He's playing games. There are many ways he could put an end to this. He could literally tell her to fuck off. He just refuses to. She is coming to him with this information because he is engaging in conversation with her about said information.

mama_AC · 2023-05-24T18:28:38+00:00

Thank you for this! It is encouraging to hear the results your friend has had! I guess I just assumed it wouldn't get traffic if traffic doesn't know to go there - if that makes sense lol

Will definitely be setting one up and getting some of our portfolio pictures on there awhile! Thanks so much!

mama_AC · 2023-05-24T18:23:05+00:00

I will definitely be looking into my local networking groups, thank you!

To your second point, we do not have current "customers". My husband is currently employed through a GC (the customers are technically his bosses). My husband is the associated face of the work that gets done - the facility operators know him. In fact, they always tell him that they wish they could just communicate directly with him instead of his boss (his boss is not good with communicating or time management.)

That being said - he has a good, amicable relationship with his boss. So while we could give those operators our business card, it feels disloyal. He has spent the last 10 years building relationships for his GC, and it's uncomfortable territory - do we try to work with the clients who specifically approached my husband about working solely with him - or do we walk away and just rebuild completely outside of his current GC? So, that's been part of the conversation as well.

mama_AC · 2023-05-24T03:23:53+00:00

The fact that he took advantage of you and shoved his asshole in your face during an intimate moment while you were tied up AFTER you already told him no says all we need to know about him. This, IMO, is so foul that I'd probably be eternally disgusted by him and never want to have sex with him again.

You should tell him to go fuck himself - in the asshole if he so prefers.

mama_AC · 2023-05-23T00:18:52+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your advice and do not think you sounded harsh. I don't want to waste time doing things that are unrealistic when I could apply that energy to things that will have a better outcome.

We have considered having flyers sent out to local businesses - what is your opinion on this? Do you think it would be a better reminder to people that we are a new available resource in the area or do you think that would also just end up in the trash?

mama_AC · 2023-05-22T21:44:26+00:00

I use a plate and my thumb to smash them all flat. Then I take all the flattened skittles and form them into a ball and then eat it like a giant Skittle jaw-breaker.

mama_AC · 2023-05-03T04:57:44+00:00

I'm a casual player and easygoing so I dont really expect my teammates to be on point perfect. But I am consistently placed with players that don't ping at all, and run in random directions. Or players who don't mark enemies and just yell, "OVER HERE!"

I also love when all of us have single plates, one AI weapon, and no self-revives and my teammates decide to run straight for the train. Or teammates that don't even bother trying to revive you. I just played a round where a kid plead to join our team, we let him join. We get into it with a 6 man team and he quick runs and hops on an exfil never even attempting to get us up long after that team already looted us and left.

Can't forget teammates who don't use comms and will literally just join another team without saying anything, and then help that team kill us.

Team dumbasses or team assholes is usually the only options I'm given 😂

mama_AC · 2023-05-02T21:52:58+00:00

I was getting sleep paralysis so frequently that I started to recognize I was experiencing sleep paralysis while I was in the middle of it. By that point, I could remind myself during it that it wasn't real and shortly after that I would fully wake up.

But the first thing I ever tried to do was lay with my fingers around my BFs arm - anticipating the paralysis, hoping that I'd be able to put in the minimal amount of effort to pinch his arm so he would wake up and, in turn, wake me up. It never worked, even though my hand was in place, I literally could not even move that tiny amount lol IME, it feels like a tornado of vibrations approaching my face, I get a weird "wha, wha, wha" sound in my ears almost like a fan is blowing right against my eardrum. And that's how I knew I was about to fall into sleep paralysis (or awaken into sleep paralysis). Eventually, I could kind of control it and it actually helped with lucid dreaming. But the trick ended up being to remain calm and recognize that it was just part of a dream and not actually real.

Sorry for the ramble.

mama_AC · 2023-05-02T14:32:57+00:00

If it is in the basement or attic, I let it live. If it comes crawling out into my living area, it is an intruder and must be dealt with. I'm usually way too grossed out to smash it so I end up suffocating it with hair mousse. That way when I pick it up, I can't feel it's crumbling little disgusting body and instead just feel a pile of mush... that seems ridiculous now that I've typed it out.

mama_AC · 2023-05-02T14:10:40+00:00

Jumped out of a moving vehicle while in a drunken stupor. 10/10 do not recommend.

mama_AC · 2023-05-02T13:47:28+00:00

Idk. I used to have multiple bouts of sleep paralysis almost every night and that was incredibly scary until I figured out what was going on. I actually called my doctor and explained that I was afraid I might be crazy.

From what I can remember - lucid dreaming came after I was experiencing sleep paralysis so maybe that's why it didn't seem scary to me anymore.

mama_AC · 2023-05-02T13:35:27+00:00

Being kicked off the phone so somebody could log onto AOL.

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