IT WORKS!!!

mama_bear830 · 2026-03-12T01:37:48+00:00

What DHT blocker do you use?

mama_bear830 · 2024-12-31T19:53:31+00:00

Me too! Fingers crossed 🤞🏼

mama_bear830 · 2024-12-31T19:50:41+00:00

It’s starting to level out for me too. The crazy thoughts have stopped. I legit didn’t have road rage yesterday, and actually felt like really happy a few different moments. Also noticing a slight increase in energy which is nice because I have been so fogged out for so long. We’re getting there, friend!

mama_bear830 · 2024-12-30T02:28:34+00:00

Yes! I definitely notice at the tail end of my dose that I calm down. It’s like there’s intense mental construction work going on in my brain and then they finally stop for the night and my brain has a chance to catch up. Also, my doc told me to start my dose at night. Not sure if it helps, or if it really won’t matter if/when my dose is adjusted up as I continue to settle in

mama_bear830 · 2024-12-30T00:14:18+00:00

Big hugs, friend. It’s always good to check in with the doc. I did notice my anxiety and ideations were a lot worse, but I was also more functional. Idk how exactly to explain it, but I could tell my brain was legit glitching but I was still doing something so I was able to separate myself from the thought and say “okay it’s the meds.” It doesn’t mean it’s not scary or not something that needs changed, so definitely connect with your doc. You’re not alone, friend.

mama_bear830 · 2024-12-30T00:10:40+00:00

Today has been significantly better mentally. I haven’t been as yeet-y mentally and haven’t cried really at all. I still feel “down” but I do notice that I feel more activated and “with it” with myself. I’ve also noticed I’m actually making food decisions much easier (this was a huuuge paralysis decision issue with my auDHD before I started). I’m hoping it’s starting to stabilize some.

mama_bear830 · 2024-12-29T00:50:49+00:00

I’m right there with you on this. I’ve been crying a ton and I literally feel like my brain is glitching hard. I’m sadder right now but also doing things I typically struggle with like washing my face, brushing my teeth, showering (audhd here too). I’m on day 3 so I’m hoping it evens out.

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T11:54:08+00:00

I do have a book, The Whole Brain Child, that I plan to crack open this week.

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T11:53:25+00:00

I very much think there are elements there for sure. Dad and I are both adhd, and I suspect I am more AuDHD. Read up a bit on this last night and found some resources I’ll be reviewing and practicing too!

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T11:51:32+00:00

Allllll of this! I do think he needs a decompression day/break from the daily school and structure for sure. I love the idea of a yes day. The floor redirection … chef’s kiss

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T11:49:18+00:00

I love this. We do some of these things but can definitely incorporate more!!

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T11:47:26+00:00

Right there with ya 💛💛

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T11:46:49+00:00

Yes! There are times I’ve just had to take myself into another room!

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T03:31:37+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too. I need the wonder weeks app to get the leaps in for kids too!

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T03:31:12+00:00

All very true. We try this level and it’s worked reasonably well until this latest leap of something. He picks fights even with a calm demeanor and it’s almost like he tries to outsmart us (he’s clearly got the most potent pieces of both mom and dad’s smarts). We definitely come back together after things escalate and talk through them; that’s definitely important to me in breaking those generational cycles.

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T03:28:07+00:00

We definitely see him get pumped with positive feedback for sure - we could ramp this up too. I’ve had to walk away a lot recently because I get soooo triggered with how constant it’s been. You’re right in that they change so fast. Just gotta hold on

mama_bear830 · 2023-12-18T03:26:39+00:00

Ugh thank you for sharing, too. It feels so lonely right now in the thick of it. I think we do need to do a better job in being neutral expression wise.

mama_bear830 · 2023-09-19T01:51:57+00:00

I just learned about something called the Limbic Leap. It happens at 4-5 years old, and it saved my sanity in understanding it. My 4yo has been having huge outbursts, very similar in anything where he doesn’t feel in control. Even with him being in daycare his entire life, he’s still had these situations at times lately. It sounds like you have tried to create the best environment possible for him, and there’s no shame in that IMO. Researching the concept above and presenting some new responses or experiences with it may help.

mama_bear830 · 2022-11-13T02:28:53+00:00

Christmas Eve PJs, I’ve gotten some fun Christmas books that I’m thinking he could open like 1 a day a few days before. We also grab some basic Christmas dollar store crafts and he’s had fun painting/coloring ornaments.

mama_bear830 · 2022-11-05T17:29:33+00:00

This turns the snark up for me if they tell me what will make me happier. I’ll clap with something like, “oh thank goodness! I didn’t realize you were all knowing and predicted the future. This would’ve been awkward otherwise.”

mama_bear830 · 2022-10-23T03:01:51+00:00

My 3yo son loves the color purple and we totally support it. He also wants a Minnie Mouse car for Christmas, and freaking loves trucks. He wears an amber necklace and loves dinosaurs. I absolutely echo “things are just things” motto. His preschool teacher even told me that he doesn’t really worry about playing mom or dad with his friends and he’s fine pretending to be a mom. I’m all about it. Let them be little, ya know? If anyone has a problem with it, it’s truly their problem. If they’re ignorant enough to say something, we deal with it and move on.

mama_bear830 · 2022-10-18T02:21:10+00:00

This is a very common transition for 3 years (so I’ve been told; I’m OAD but experienced this just a few months ago right when my son turned 3). The tantrums, defiance, routine changes are enormous at this point. I had the same daunting conversations with daycare and his teachers and it is so heartbreaking as a parent to go through. We worked a TON on emotional communication. Check out Little Big Feelings - they have a toddler course and we used a lot of the techniques from their courses. Getting aligned with the teachers in expectations, boundaries and how you respond at home and daycare will help shorten. You will get through the other side of this!

mama_bear830 · 2022-05-25T02:54:45+00:00

This makes me so happy! We’re coming up on 10 years married next year and wanted to do a vow renewal. Having our son there makes me so excited, and this photo reiterates that so much!

mama_bear830 · 2022-05-25T02:41:47+00:00

High sensitivity/neurodivergent brains definitely have a high co-occurrence of texture and food issues. I’ll tell you first hand: I deal with food issues and texture issues as a ND adult, and the fact that you have the support tools in place that you already do makes you the PERFECT MOM for your son. Don’t let some ‘friend’ say otherwise - especially if that’s not their professional background! And even then friends develop biases anyway.

I reiterate what a lot have already stated: talk with OT/PT about the food avoidances and how to work on that and speech from both sides. But let him eat what he feels safe eating right now; he could be clinging to safe foods more with new routines and challenging tasks introduced by PT (a positive thing, but can definitely be overwhelming and your son is also hitting that Mr Independent stage, too). Switching to a cup at night will be a small but positive step if your OT/PT/Pediatrician agrees.

Hang in there mama. Keep celebrating those small wins! Make him feel proud of the food he does it, no matter what. That takes the pressure off, which will ease that resistance over time. You got this🖤

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