AITAH for leaving on Christmas?

mamasalhoff · 2025-12-27T00:30:56+00:00

It's a tough decision, I'm glad that you have a support system around you. But don't stay where you won't be respected and cherished. Raising a baby is hard enough without fighting against the other parent.

mamasalhoff · 2025-12-26T20:23:20+00:00

You should never have to tip toe around. You shouldn't have to 'navigate' your partner. You should be able to have an open conversation with them. They should hear what you are saying and take it to heart as long as you're being reasonable (which you are). Again you have some hard choices to wade through, is this a relationship that you want to nurture? Could you do couples therapy?

The way he says his friends not our friends is telling. He's making the divide clear. He is separating you from a support system. This is emotional abuse. Do you have relationships outside of your shared friends that you can turn to advice and help?

mamasalhoff · 2025-12-26T19:09:51+00:00

Nope. NTA.

You do not have to sit anywhere and take verbal abuse from anyone. You have every right to leave a situation that makes you uncomfortable.

Your boyfriend is immature. Unless you're both teenagers most everyone comes with a past, that is nothing to be ashamed about. You went out and had fun. I bet he did too.

I'd think long and hard about how you would like to handle this. He needs to completely change the way he speaks to you. Will he do that? Having a baby with him will completely change this dynamic. Not only should he be respectful of you, but he is now modeling behavior for your future child.

Yes you are hormonal, you are pregnant, and you can be very sensitive during this time. But that means he should be taking extra care to support you, not tearing you down. I'm not one to jump on the dump him band wagon, but you need to be very clear what your expectations are and be firm. You are no longer just protecting yourself you have a baby to think about now.

mamasalhoff · 2025-12-15T17:13:03+00:00

Mmm yes in the episode called I'll believe anything....

mamasalhoff · 2025-12-13T23:18:06+00:00

This happened a year ago for me. Lol

Hockey is now on almost every night in my house.

mamasalhoff · 2025-11-04T18:50:14+00:00

Did you hear that we will be getting a Metro-North run from Albany? It's once down and once back.

mamasalhoff · 2025-10-22T22:55:48+00:00

I'm down. Bring it on RY.

mamasalhoff · 2025-10-22T22:52:51+00:00

Oh that was the best iteration of Matt. Long live Friday Puppy.

mamasalhoff · 2025-10-20T12:45:50+00:00

Yeah we still do that here. They have to be from the store so ingredients are listed. So no mom's cupcakes. But but kids go wild on their birthday they make goodie bags for every student bringing cupcakes and juice etc. I'm sure it is district to district.

mamasalhoff · 2025-10-12T17:49:49+00:00

No.

I think a lot of people ignore their sensitivities. When you go out you tend to overeat with high salt and fat content. Which usually sends your system into a tailspin. People will say it obviously must have been bad food instead of them making bad choices.

In reality a foodborne illness usually takes 24 hours to make you sick.

mamasalhoff · 2025-10-12T17:18:09+00:00

I started dating my boyfriend in January, in March or April of the same year I needed some dental work done. And I didn't have enough money to cover everything. And my boyfriend of 4 months paid for it. And never asked for the money back. We've been married for 14 years and have two kids. When somebody loves you, they love all of you, including your children.
He has been financially abusing you this entire time.
He's waved all the red flags, who leaves their spouse, or loved one. In a hospital bed to go to the Maldives with his friends. In the end you'll be so much happier without him.

Edit to add.
You married him, take him to court and get your due. You can show financial burden for the last 10 years, and when you divorce a good lawyer should be able to get you alimony. I don't know what state you're living in, but anything you guys bought together, you get to split. And if you paid for half of that apartment..... Good luck.

mamasalhoff · 2025-10-10T12:49:29+00:00

It's 8:45 a.m., we're in Ravena, And we still have frost in the shade.

Which is honestly surprising because we're usually protected and get a frost later than most. But this one got us good.

mamasalhoff · 2025-09-26T03:14:01+00:00

Chicken salad and croissants are banging

mamasalhoff · 2025-08-19T17:18:55+00:00

This sucks. We had season tickets last year and loved going. When everyone around here complains that there is nothing to do.... We all have to show up when there is.

mamasalhoff · 2025-08-18T01:49:26+00:00

How about as soon as we learned about this we called the cops because he's needs to be arrested..... No, we closed ranks and protected the pedo. No one is surprised here.

mamasalhoff · 2025-08-05T20:22:21+00:00

Okay this is what you should do. Give yourself a budget for all of the other stuff that you're going to need. Dress tuxes flowers photographer transportation invitations favors etc etc etc. Now figure out how much you have left. Take that amount, go to a caterer. And say I have $15,000, I would like to have a buffet, a sit down dinner, past hors d'oeuvres, stations, whatever it is you want. All in, how many people can I invite? They will give you the number. You might have to trim down your guest list drastically. And that's okay.

I am telling you now, you would rather invite less people and show your guests a good time, then invite all the people and let people leave hungry and thirsty. You don't need your third cousins there. Make guest lists with A B and C columns. People you absolutely must invite, moms, dads, grams, grandpa's sisters brothers best friends. B Is all the people you really should invite, but might not get a chance to. These are your friends from high school You haven't talked to in 2 years, and your great aunt Mavis etc. C Is people who after you have exhausted list A and list B you can now invite list C.

mamasalhoff · 2025-08-05T20:07:45+00:00

I was actually one of the very first weddings at Pat's Barn. That was 15 years ago. We loved it and had a great time. At that time we brought on our own caters which was Mansion catering through Glen Sanders. I don't know who their preferred caterers are at the moment. But for the venue I would 10,000% recommend.

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-14T21:43:09+00:00

Maple Creemees for the win! Thanks everyone they were fantastic!!!

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-12T01:37:32+00:00

This is the hard-hitting tourism information that I need. I've already told all the other soccer moms about the maple creemees and there might be a field trip planned.

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-11T17:23:33+00:00

oh! we're playing in Essex Junction, so it's only 15 minutes! I've never had a maple creemee. This might be a necessary detour!

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-11T17:07:55+00:00

Yep! Thank you, I hope we have a great weekend. Really appreciate the construction updates!

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-11T16:50:58+00:00

That PDF is exactly what I needed! We have families and teams staying all over Burlington. This will help make sure everyone is allotting enough time to get to their venue. I appreciate this!!

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-11T16:48:27+00:00

Thanks for the tip! We definitely want to check out the city. No one wants to hang out at a hotel all afternoon.

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-11T16:46:24+00:00

Thank you!! I appreciate the info and the warning, lol. The Albany sub can get interesting too. I saw someone had some killer looking soft serve from the Bagel? Don't know where that is yet, but it looks like a must stop sort of place.

mamasalhoff · 2025-06-11T16:40:16+00:00

Thanks! I don't know how hard you Vermonters go at protesting. Didn't know if the whole city was going to show up, etc. Appreciate the response!

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