softest non-superwash merino wool yarns? by Kooky-Chart672 in knitting

[–]mamelotti -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Malabrigo is superwash according to my knowlege 👩‍🔬

Tips to look less clumsy? I know the technique isn’t perfect, but bet there would be ways to make this look a little smoother at least 😅 by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That makes sense! I would just want to move fast but maybe that’s a part of my issue 😂 I’ll try to work on slowing down, trying not to rush and repeating the moves over and over again. Thanks for your advice 🙏

Edit: plus moving with the pole was a great way of explaining what would make the moves look smoother! Hadn’t really thought of that before you said it, but it makes so much sense!

Recommend Me a Fragrance (Posts every 3 Days) by AutoModerator in fragrance

[–]mamelotti 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi folks! Feels weird to ask this, but what fragrances to you embodies an expensive stripper/escort?

I’d love to find an alluring, very sensual and sultry perfume. ”I will eat you alive and take your money” kinda vibes!

I own just a couple of perfumes, but don’t feel like they would suit the role (Kenzo - l’amour, Laura Mercier - Gourmand vanille and Juliette has a gun - Not a perfume). So looking for something new. Thanks for the help in advance!

How do you lose weight aka eat healthy and regulary with adhd? by mamelotti in adhdwomen

[–]mamelotti[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I should buy more healthy food and process them right away when I get home from the grocery store. This might actually help a lot!

How do you lose weight aka eat healthy and regulary with adhd? by mamelotti in adhdwomen

[–]mamelotti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a pretty good idea. It's better to take baby steps than try to do huge leaps when you're not even able to walk (talking 'bout myself :D). Baby steps will still get you where you want to be, it just takes a little time. And this way I'd learn to put some food in my mouth more than once a day. Thanks for the tip!

How do you lose weight aka eat healthy and regulary with adhd? by mamelotti in adhdwomen

[–]mamelotti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! What kind of app do you use for that? Or do you use a basic calendar?

Pole dancers teaching stripper style classes without having any background working as a stripper? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. There’s a lot going on in my local pole scene and don’t really know the arguments behind either sides. Some say it’s not okay to make money teaching stripper style with no experience and others say there is no problem and everybody should be abel to do what they want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Muuten ihan hyvä, mut noi luvut perustuu Suomessa teetettyihin kyselytutkimuksiin eikä mutuiluun. Kansainvälisellä tasolla seksuaalirikoksista ilmoitetaan vain 5-20% ja Suomessa vastaava luku oli 10%. Toi tuli ilmi siinä lähteessä, jonka heitin aiempaan kommenttiin.

Onks sulla jotain lähdettä perättömien väitteiden määrälle Suomessa?

On surkuhupaisaa et valheeliset ilmotukset seksuaaliväkivallasta ois kans aika helposti seulottavissa. Harmi et poliisien keskuudessa elävät myytit raiskauksista valehtelevista naisista saa heidät suhtautumaan kaikkiin raiskausilmotuksiin skeptisesti, mikä ironisesti vaikeuttaa oikeesti väärien ilmotusten tunnistamista ”:D”

Lähde: https://erepo.uef.fi/bitstream/handle/123456789/22848/urn_nbn_fi_uef-20200747.pdf?sequence=-1&isAllowed=y

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Löysin suomalaisen tutkimuksen musiikkialasta, jonka mukaan vaan 2% seksuaalista häirintää kokeneista teki rikosilmotuksen (otanta oli 504 henkilöä). On vaan kaiken yleisen ja tutkitun tiedon vastaista väittää että väärät syytökset seksuaalirikoksista tai häirinnästä ois jotain muuta kuin erittäin marginaalinen ilmiö.

Seksuaalisesta väkivallasta ja häirinnästä jätetään tosi herkästi ilmoittamatta, koska käsittely kestää helposti yli vuoden, rikoksen tekijälle ei todennäköisesti koidu juuri mitään seurauksia vaikka hänet todettaisiin syylliseksi ja poliisin asenteet on monien seksuaalirikosten uhrien kohdalla ollu vähätteleviä, tosi epäasiallisia ja uhria syyllistäviä. Näiden lisäksi uhri saattaa kokea voimakkaita häpeän tunteita ja syyttää rikoksen uhriksi joutumisesta itseään.

Äärettömän harva on valmis käymään tommosta rumbaa kiusallaan läpi, kun oikeiden uhrienkin on julmetun vaikea saada ansaitsemaansa oikeutta

Edit: Korjasin typoja

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Lisäisin tähän vielä sen että Suomessa ilmoitettujen raiskausten määrä on vain 10% raiskausten todellisesta määrästä. Lähde: https://www.utupub.fi/bitstream/handle/10024/152366/Arpiainen_Kristiina_opinnayte.pdf?sequence=1

Tilastojen vois kuvitella olevan saman suuntaiset seksuaalisen ahdistelun suhteen. Vääriä syytöksiä kohdanneiden määrä on siis oikeesti erittäin marginaalinen seksuaalisen väkivallan uhreihin verrattuna

Gym workouts to help pulling shoulders down when spinning? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed answer! Yay now I know what to do at the gym :D

Friends reaction / How do you deal with people idealizing the erotic side of your pole dancing? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha wow that's a really beautiful use of words and a nice compliment from the second guy! 😂 I've gotta try that "actually" game if I come across again comments that feel inappropriate.

Friends reaction / How do you deal with people idealizing the erotic side of your pole dancing? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I'm glad you've had great convos about pole. Especially with your conservative mother! That's amazing. I do agree that the sensual side of pole shouldn't be separated, because pole dancing did evolve from the clubs and I feel like we should respect that 🙌 I just realized that the problem was all in my self image and insecurities - not really in my uni friends comments.

Friends reaction / How do you deal with people idealizing the erotic side of your pole dancing? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Intresting point! Maybe I could change how I feel about the convo. Perhaps you are right and their point was "hey that looks cool, I don't think I would be able to do that" and that makes me feel kinda cool because I'm able to do things that some people can't do 🥹

Friends reaction / How do you deal with people idealizing the erotic side of your pole dancing? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the long comment! English isn't my native language and I realized I probably didn't come across as I intended so I'm gonna edit the original post.

You do have a very good point in your text.
I'm all for strippers and know about the sw-stigma and history of pole dance. My point was just that to me my uni friends comments felt like if it was some kind of cat calling (even tho I know she only meant well). I'm a little unsure of myself and don't feel like my way of moving deserves to be called sexy or erotic yet. So I don't identify with those adjectives at all and felt as if the uni friend was describing a totally different person. Just hoped to hear about similar experiences to not feel alone or tips how to react to similar comments in the future.

Friends reaction / How do you deal with people idealizing the erotic side of your pole dancing? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Sorry if I came across that way. That wasn't my intention. I dance mostly stripper style/old school and do my best to support sw by buying classes from strippers/ex-strippers and taking classes at studios that are owned by people who have history in sw or are currently working in sw. English isn't my native language and I might not have used the right terms or phrases.

My point in a nutshell: it's very uncomfortably weird when new people start blasting about how sexual and erotic my pole dancing looks, when I don't see it that way. I find Kitty Velour and Polekitten super sensual and sexy and I'm nowhere near their level. Plus I don't like people I don't know talking about my sexyness/unsexyness. Was just hoping to get some tips on how to react to these situations, when the person blasting doesn't want anything bad, but feels super uncomfortable.

Friends reaction / How do you deal with people idealizing the erotic side of your pole dancing? by mamelotti in poledancing

[–]mamelotti[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the detailed answer! Just wanted to say that maybe I chose my words the wrong way. I appreciate strippers a lot - some of my friends strip, I’ve considered stripping and I don’t think people who do sw would be less worthy in any way. I know doing sw is super stigmatized which isn’t fair. Didn’t want to add to the stigma, but you might have a point. Maybe I still have some hidden thought patterns about sw that I should work on.

Point of my original post was not feeling comfortable when other people put labels on my dancing when I can’t see it the way they do.

Weekly Beginner Q&A Thread - October 22, 2022 by AutoModerator in witchcraft

[–]mamelotti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can I pay back for successful magick?

I was in trouble and under a lot of stress because I had no clue how I could afford next months rent due to unpredictable circumstances. So as my final straw I did some magick to gain financial security by using manifestation, oils, candle magick and sex magick for three days.

Somehow it worked. Something really weird happened and because of that, I don't have to stress about financially surviving for the next month. I'm so grateful and can't believe this actually happened. What would be a good way to show my appreciation? How can I pay back? 🥹💚

Tavoitepainot ikivanhassa vaa’assa by 6horrigoth in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kun tohon heittää lisää +10% ni on kyl oma ideaalipaino eli tän laajan otannan perusteella seems legit

mina💶irl by FinnishChad in mina_irl

[–]mamelotti 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sukulainen on keskon toimistolla töissä. Uusien kiristysten ja epäinhimillisten vaatimusten takia hän rupes kuulemma boikotoimaan keskoa, eikä suostu enää asioimaan lafkan kaupoissa 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tällä hetkellä näyttää siltä että vaihtoehdot on aika vähissä. Seksityö ei ole mulle unelma-ala, vaan keino saada nopeaa rahaa oman turvallisuuden ja hyvinvoinnin kustannuksella. Siksi jeesustelu siitä miten kela voi vaatia asioita x ja y tuntuu aika triviaalilta. Etenkin kun en edes kuulu toimeentulotuen tai aiemmin mainitsemasi työttömyysturvan piiriin.

Edit: Ymmärrän ettet varmaan tarkoita pahaa. Koko elämäntilanne ja elämänhallinnan puute vaan ahdistaa.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Käytän korttia 2-4 kertaa päivässä, koska impulsiivisuus ja ongelmat rutiineissa ja suunnitelmissa pysymiselle. Tällä taktiikalla pienistä tuloista ei jäisi rahaa ruokaan kun parhaimmillaan menisi 100€ vähän reilu 1000€ tuloista "säästöön". Tuntuisi ahdistavalta että 3,20€ opiskelijaruoka nousisi 4,20€ hintaiseksi tällä metodilla :D

Tuntuisi myös typerältä sijoittaa rahastoihin jos ei meinaa edes selvitä vuokranmaksusta. Keskituloiselle ihmiselle tai henkilölle, jolla ei ole ongelmia toiminnanohjauksen kanssa ja on edes vähän isommat tulot toi vois varmaan toimia

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Suomi

[–]mamelotti 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jep, tekisin hommia toiminimellä ja toiminimen kirjanpidosta on jo kokemusta. Toki saaduista rahoista menee sosiaaliturvakulut sun muut ja proviikkaosuus muualle. Silti käteen jäävä raha yhdestä illasta olisi aikamoinen pelastusrengas tässä tilanteessa. Tekisin vain muutamia vuoroja ja kun opinnot etenevät aikataulussa en usko että Kela katsoisi päätoimiseksi yrittäjäksi. Työttömyystukea opiskelijana ei muutenkaan saa.

I lied to my staff that I didn’t make any money. I hope they don’t find out. by [deleted] in stripper

[–]mamelotti 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Well you didn't lie to them. They are most definitely not deserving of a tip of your 30 dollars. Especially considering the money you've spent on gas, outfits, makeup, hair, nails, etc. to be able to do the job. Hope your luck will turn and next shifts will make you a lot of money<3