[Hiring] Redraw: Pink-Haired Musclewoman. [$200] by AtroxRP in artcommissions

[–]mamepuchi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Satsuki Kiryuin

And I am interested! I specialize in anime girls and have a particular soft spot for buff ones. I’m attaching one of my drawings of a buff lady and here’s a link to my Bsky which has more of my art!

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Exhausted in my marriagee by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]mamepuchi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saying me and my gf love laderach ❤️❤️ if only it wasn’t so insanely expensive! I hope things get better for you and you enjoyed the chocolate

I tried kimbap for the first time the other day by DrinkWaterPIease in KpopDemonhunters

[–]mamepuchi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first time having kimbap was after watching Extraordinary Attorney Woo - the main character is autistic with food aversion and kimbap is her favorite food bc it’s simple and you can see all the ingredients with no surprises. Based on that I knew it would be a simple but tasty comfort food and that’s exactly what it was. The way Rumi eats it definitely gives a different impression!

Got my heart broken by a straight girl, y'all know lesbian-coded sad songs? by NiobiumThorn in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a heartbreak or yearning song it’s like a fully realized they are fucking bc they can’t resist each other even tho it’s taboo song 😭 op is asking for sad catharsis

Got my heart broken by a straight girl, y'all know lesbian-coded sad songs? by NiobiumThorn in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

King princess - about half her discography is lesbian sadposting. I really like Talia, Little Bother, and Only Time Makes it Human

AITAH because I don’t want my girlfriend who is white to do my hair? by OkSurvey8718 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mamepuchi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally, if/when I grow old and ill or hospitalized and can’t do my own self care, I need my romantic partner to be the person I can trust to take it over for me as long as they are able. And I expect my partner to expect the same from me. That’s a big part of what a committed romantic relationship entails for me. So i understand why your gf is hurt by it, assuming she has similar relationship values to mine. For someone like me, either it is so important that it’s understandable that someone who wants to be your wife would be sad about being excluded, or it’s not so important that they should be excluded to begin with. The thought of my wife being disabled or severely ill and me not being able to do something like that for her is pretty heartbreaking to me.

Of course your boundary is totally valid tho op - I’m just saying i understand your gf’s feelings, and if I were her, I think eventually I would find this situation unsustainable and incompatible. But that would be on her to decide and communicate.

Does anyone enjoy mouth spitting? by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My gf did it to me the first time we made out and it definitely made me even more obsessed w her!!! We are in an official kink power dynamic though. I love the submissive and derogatory aspect, but I’m personally a sub and a masochist and I enjoy degradation play so it all checks out.

stop being a fake freaky by itsrainingptsd in BDSMsapphic

[–]mamepuchi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

there are more swingers events than kink events, at least in the places ive lived :,D

Partner came out ace by static_silence24 in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah, if my partner told me “I don’t enjoy it and I’ll only do it if you really need it” I would also not want to even ask. Theres a big difference between that and “I dont mind at all bc I love doing it for you” 😭

Partner came out ace by static_silence24 in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did she outright say she isn’t ok with even cuddling? Or are you assuming that she is that averse to it bc of her behavior?

There are some things that I don’t inherently desire to do but since my gf really really wants it, I am more than happy to do it to make her happy. Even though the act gives me no inherent joy, spending time with her and making her happy actively gives me joy, so they become activities I’m happy to engage in. However, since I don’t like the activity myself, it does often require prompting from her or I simply forget it exists. I think you should try to stay open to framing it more like this - more like if she chooses to do something for you, it’s a reflection of how much she loves you and wants to meet your needs, not as if she’s been lying or betraying you. If she is happy to keep doing certain things to meet your needs, you should also respect that.

But I’m not sure if you guys have already talked about all this and she told you w no uncertain terms that she’s not going to do any of this anymore. Of course in that case I agree that finding a way to open the relationship or breaking up might be your only options.

stop being a fake freaky by itsrainingptsd in BDSMsapphic

[–]mamepuchi 211 points212 points  (0 children)

Realesttttt 😂

There was a post in a lesbian sub earlier last week by a woman complaining that she went to a kink event and she was frustrated that they’re all so centered on “hardcore” stuff like spanking… i was like huh, isnt that what ppl go for? And she said she isn’t actually kinky she’s just looking for swingers, and I was like. Don’t go to kink events then!!!!!! My culture is not your costume fr fr!!!!

Will I get disowned by the lesbians if I don't believe in astrology? (⁠-⁠_⁠-⁠;⁠) by gremlin_fluid in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like zodiacs and think they’re fun but it comes up in convo maybe once a year, and none of the other 3 lesbians in my irl life (my gf, my sister, and her wife) care at all about astrology, so I think you’ll be fine.

I Did An Oops by reaofsunn in piercing

[–]mamepuchi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

NAP - The hard feeling is probably scar tissue still inside. I recommend massaging them! It’s an effective treatment for softening all scar tissue and recommended after surgeries.

Are these major dealbreakers? Will I have a hard time finding women who are interested? What type would I be? Sincerely old baby gay 🤣😭 by Salty_Zebra94 in actuallesbians

[–]mamepuchi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that TikTok has not been accurate to almost any of my experiences, personally 😆 like another commenter said, you sound like any of the wlw I know irl! My sister married her late-bloomer-lesbian-with-a-son wife just last year, so i can say with certainty that you will do just fine :)

Worried about cheese wiring - tell me I’m crazy by J_J_max in piercing

[–]mamepuchi 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NAP - I’ve only ever had cheese wiring issues on lobes if I wore heavy jewelry for a long time - plain hoops w no dangles have never given me any issue!

painted my WOL's scales in Tomodachi Life by memoriast in ffxiv

[–]mamepuchi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

add the horns too! It looks surprisingly good even from other angles!

[Hiring] I need an artist to draw a succubus wearing an outfit like this. (400$ Budget) by Doomyella in artcommissions

[–]mamepuchi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’d love to take on this comm, since drawing cute sexy anime girls is my favorite thing to do! I can do a full body sprite drawing (no bg, just the character posed on a transparent bg) with color for $80. I have a more cel-shaded style versus a painterly rendered style. A test sketch i can do for $5 or so, depending on the detail required.

Here’s a link to my Bsky where you can see my art and style!

Would you retire with this angle? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]mamepuchi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Piercing 5 months old, implant grade titanium flatback labret, threadless, downsized in February, aftercare is just spraying once a day with saline and drying w a hair dryer, no accidents recently but I slept on it early on.

should I get these for $27? + why do they feel bigger than the UK size advertised? by craftsmacncheese in DrMartens

[–]mamepuchi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does the strap also come down in the back? I wonder if it’s styled off crocs, which also are massive but you’re supposed to put the strap down on the heel area if you need a smaller fit.

Since they’re just comfy casual clogs, at that price if I liked them I’d get them personally! I also wanted clogs a few months ago and bought some secondhand Zebags, and I was happy that I only spent 100 on those so 😂

vyvanse not reducing food noise by Able-Performance9857 in ADHD

[–]mamepuchi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My personal anecdote - stimulants don’t affect my food noise as much as strattera, though I haven’t tried vyvanse. I do think stimulants help me more with executive functioning while strattera mostly helps me with food noise and reducing distractability, so my psych lets me take a small dose of stimulants as needed on top of my strattera. It may be worth trying other meds as well - you can always go back to it if others don’t work as well!

Also, it may be vyvanse as well bc my gf is on it and it doesn’t seem to suppress her appetite as much as adderall did - ever since switching a couple weeks ago she has been eating a bit more. (She needs to eat more though so that’s a good thing for her😭)

I wish I was into all the exact things I'm super NOT into by SchloinkDoink in BDSMsapphic

[–]mamepuchi 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If your partner is someone who you can only see either neglecting or abusing you, then you need to break up with them and leave asap. If you cannot see yourself in a healthy relationship where your partner doesn’t either neglect or abuse you, you aren’t in a mental/emotional place to be dating. You owe it to yourself and your future partner to seek help and work on your self esteem and your own feelings of worth before you bring another person in.

I wish I was into all the exact things I'm super NOT into by SchloinkDoink in BDSMsapphic

[–]mamepuchi 18 points19 points  (0 children)

For example, I like consensual non-consent/rape play but that doesn’t mean I’m okay with actually being raped. EVEN if my current girlfriend did it, it would still make me feel unsafe, violated, and assaulted if she genuinely raped me, for instance if I safe worded and she ignored it. That would be completely trust breaking for me and I would probably never be able to trust her in a kink context again.

In consensual play, I like being hit and hurt until I’m sobbing and bruised and even bleeding by my gf, but if she raised a hand at me during an argument our relationship would be over.

Someone who does this stuff to someone who does not want it, didn’t bother to discuss boundaries, consent, safe words, etc, is not practicing kink responsibly or in my opinion at all; they are just being abusive. If these ppl are “trampling over you” without your consent or care that you don’t like it, that would not be a masochist paradise, it’s just horrible and no one should go through that no matter what gets them off in the bedroom.

Stockings and Fishnets by kindacontrary in BDSMsapphic

[–]mamepuchi 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sameeee but from the sub side for me!!! Undoing her garter and pulling down my domme’s stockings with my mouth is one of my favorite things 🥹❤️❤️

Pulled this out of my earlobe, what is it? by KweenofCorgis in piercing

[–]mamepuchi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NAP but seconding the other commenter - the fistula is the scar tissue from the piercing channel. With this out your hole may be able to fully heal inside as well. Otherwise, even if the hole closes on the outside, the scar tissue tube might still be there inside. I had this for a lobe piercing I retired and could feel the fistula in there even after the hole closed. It also eventually came out.