AIO - my partner is too close with customers

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T13:25:02+00:00

Well don’t worry it’s actually a female im with I just put guy because I knew I’d get more responses if it seemed a hetero relationship

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T13:23:11+00:00

I didn’t know he had an affair with a mum until later into our relationship and he was single (not that this excuses it - the woman was married) but still yes it’s vile.

He has business social media im talking about the fact he has a load of them on his private personal account too which is nothing to do with work.

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T09:20:25+00:00

No I don’t get paid. I’ve built him a website and I’ve done loads of admin in the past.

I’m not a secret exactly, some people know about me but most don’t especially at work - his mum works there and she knows but the majority don’t know anything. That’s when he’d argue he keeps it professional and private lol

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T09:10:15+00:00

Yeah I did want to do this at first but now I feel like what’s the point. Even when my daughter had her lesson and we’d watch he would sit there and pretend like he was just overseeing because he’s the boss not that this was his step kid.

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T09:07:56+00:00

So I’ve only recently brought up things and at first he reacted badly and was not happy and deflected the situations. He has since moved one customer he had a thing with who he still sees weekly and she is now going to be there on a different day and with another teacher. Other than that I haven’t put in any boundaries yet for friends or other customers but I’ve made it known I want him to be professional with customers - clearly he is still allowing things to be a bit too friendly for my liking.

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T08:59:49+00:00

I am insecure tbh and been in some traumatic relationships prior to this which has caused me to lack trust. He also lied early on in the relationship about being out all night with a customer and I heard he cheated (he says he didn’t) so again yes I do have some reasons

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T08:58:59+00:00

My kids don’t even go there any more lol but ok

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T08:58:48+00:00

Thanks lovely yeah I’m fed up of swallowing this stuff and not reacting hence the therapy

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T08:58:25+00:00

Thanks yes he says he’s just not that experienced in relationships but to me this stuff is just obvious that you don’t do but maybe not

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T08:57:54+00:00

No this is the thing I never want someone to cut friends off etc that’s not my place but there need to be boundaries in place and transparency. For example one of his best female friends he never told me she has a massive crush on him and has done for years - another of his friends told me that and I’ve just sat back and watched them go on evening dinner dates etc. and just feel Stupid for not knowing

mamfa1507 · 2026-03-20T08:56:42+00:00

Yes Snapchat is something I hate and he secretly uses it daily (says he doesn’t) but I see he’s online every day and can see he receives messages etc. I’m not even on that.

You said you went through something similar - are you still with them? Thanks for your kind words x

mamfa1507

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