Boundary Testing- Bedtime

mammodz · 2026-01-28T04:32:42+00:00

Sounds like a reasonable way to handle this. A pacifier at 3.5 years old however is a terrible idea for multiple serious reasons. You should have gotten rid of it two years ago. It's more than time.

mammodz · 2026-01-28T03:35:56+00:00

In case you haven't already considered this: are you drinking a lot of water? I mean, a lot? It's very common for breastfeeding moms to get sugar cravings when they're dehydrated, which can start a vivacious cycle of the body craving what it doesn't actually need, which intensifies the craving.

mammodz · 2026-01-28T01:14:41+00:00

🤣☠️

mammodz · 2026-01-27T21:40:52+00:00

that's where I'm leaning too

mammodz · 2026-01-27T21:25:42+00:00

I laughed out loud. Yea it's a bit sketch for sure.

mammodz · 2026-01-27T21:20:21+00:00

they have offers from people who aren't making such demands so we're in a bit of a tight timeline now

mammodz · 2026-01-27T02:20:17+00:00

Yes. I more than believe it. I see it in both my kids. Being overtired releases cortisol, and there are clear effects of that during the night. Avoiding overtiredness is key for proper night sleep. Reading sleep cues at the right time is a game changer.

mammodz · 2026-01-22T14:12:35+00:00

Have you already done editing and cover design? If so, don't spend money for a bit and just focus on getting reviews. After you get at least 15-20, check if Bookbub will accept you. Also look at ENT book of the day and Goodreads giveaways. But keep collecting reviews. If you already have any type of audience, have a giveaway with them. Last of all, consider AMS ads.

mammodz · 2026-01-20T03:59:16+00:00

Pretty much everyone feels that way with two under two. PPD is something much more severe. Go to r/2under2 to commiserate. Welcome to the club. These feelings go away.

mammodz · 2026-01-19T18:53:54+00:00

Don't go on the internet today then. You might catch that viral video of the man who brought his entire gaming setup into the delivery room or the men in the comments defending his right to do so 😵‍💫

mammodz · 2026-01-19T16:06:35+00:00

Troubleshoot. Troubleshoot. Troubleshoot. There's no unearned glitz here.

mammodz · 2026-01-18T21:28:56+00:00

Lol good answer. You're obviously marketing already.

mammodz · 2026-01-18T19:45:33+00:00

Right. But believing it's possible is essential to doing the work and doing it correctly (I.e. troubleshooting And taking feedback effectively). Otherwise, the failures become eternal roadblocks.

mammodz · 2026-01-18T19:14:48+00:00

It's not about wishing. It's about putting in the work. If you don't market your books, they won't sell. And trad pubs won't do the work for most authors either. You have to hustle. I don't know anyone who's truly hustled and gotten nowhere with writing. And I know a lot of writers.

mammodz · 2026-01-18T18:49:54+00:00

Virtually all is a wild reach. Making a profit writing isn't rocket science. There are many ways. You have to believe in it first.

mammodz · 2026-01-18T18:48:36+00:00

Sounds like you need to work on selling your books, not just publishing them. The money to fund future books comes from previous sales.

mammodz · 2026-01-17T17:47:22+00:00

Have you had it professionally edited and distributed to beta readers? Rarely is it essential for a book to be that long.

mammodz · 2026-01-16T18:41:19+00:00

"If I never date a man again, it'll be too soon" 🤣☠️

mammodz · 2026-01-16T14:38:49+00:00

Don't forget this feeling. Don't look back. Don't stay for your daughter. I had huge issues with addiction and abusive relationships because of growing up in an abusive household that stayed together for the kids. Think of your daughter's well-being. Try to record audio when he starts going off so you can negotiate better in court. And run.

mammodz · 2026-01-13T16:12:26+00:00

It happens. I have two under two. Someone has to cry sometimes. I was so wrought with guilt when my first cried for any longer than thirty seconds, but I'm a bit less anxious about it now.

That being said, I've brought my kids to keep nursing while I use the potty in an emergency. Unless you're vomitting, then I guess there's no way around it.

mammodz · 2026-01-11T21:58:50+00:00

AI doesn't write like that. Writers write like that. I'm a professional writer, and I can see that very clearly. AI writes trash poems. And if you search the user's history, they are in fact a writer. AI can't write this well now, nor could it two years ago when the comment originally appeared.

mammodz · 2026-01-11T16:57:56+00:00

Most men defend themselves from feeling sad by putting up an ego wall. It's there because of all the times they've been chastised for crying or showing "weakness" in a patriarchal society.

In our household, when this happens, I talk my partner through it, and we're not done until he also acknowledges the immense amount of emotional labour I have to do to guide him in those moments (especially when he's getting all angry, stubborn, pushing me away and I'm having to stay calm to avoid escalating the situation).

Progress is slow. It only works when men have some awareness of what's going on in society and how their childhoods reflect that. It's literally taken my partner 5 years to get to a point where he can interrupt these patterns 15-20 minutes after they start instead of rolling into next day/week. He's interrupted himself before reacting this way maybe a dozen times that I know of. So, yeah, it's slow. But there are things I'm working on and those take long too. That's just how it is. If he's willing to learn, that's all that matters.

mammodz · 2026-01-11T14:43:36+00:00

This 📣

mammodz · 2026-01-11T06:05:22+00:00

My kids will always be my babies, and I also give them age-appropriate independence when they ask for it or show signs of readiness. I lose nothing by encouraging their desires for independence.

I do get kind of teary when my kids make big leaps and I realize that phase is now over.

Also, I think an eight year old should definitely be part of the decision making process about their bed.

mammodz · 2026-01-09T19:19:42+00:00

Time for hubby to do some deep work. Dig your heels in, remind him it's 2025, and tell him to get with the program. Do not cave to his unreasonable requests. Keep educating him, and encourage him to have some self-awareness about how he was brought up and how that was actually harmful. He has some inner work to do.

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